CarewsEyebrowDesigner Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 (edited) Everyone changes*. People aren't fixed objects, which is partly why I find the idea of a lifelong marriage so odd. *Aside from those hardwired character traits that can be difficult to shake off. Edited November 13, 2014 by CarewsEyebrowDesigner Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonyh29 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 (edited) Everyone changes*. People aren't fixed objects, which is partly why I find the idea of a lifelong marriage so odd. *Aside from those hardwired character traits that can be difficult to shake off. was at my Nan's funeral yesterday (91 not a bad innings ) ..I wrote something for the service and she basically met my Grandad in 1940 , married him in 1941 and stayed married to him for 59 years until he died they were happy and didn't feel the need to look anywhere else ..... I find that notion quite refreshing to be honest , they did things together and did things without each other and were happy with that I've been married 13 years now , I'll be quite happy with another 46 years with Mrs H ... whether she'll feel the same way is an entirely different question Edited November 13, 2014 by tonyh29 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villarule123 Posted November 13, 2014 VT Supporter Share Posted November 13, 2014 People with a gym obsession. Well done, you now look like a word removed with a pinhead on huge shoulders, and can now attract the kind of women that wouldn't have been interested in you if you hadn't spent £40 a month trying to look a particular way. But aren't you attracted to women that look a particular way, i.e. attractive? What about personality! I wouldn't change myself in order to satisfy anyone You should change, you're dead boring. That's it, I'm off to the gym. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Everyone changes*. People aren't fixed objects, which is partly why I find the idea of a lifelong marriage so odd. *Aside from those hardwired character traits that can be difficult to shake off. People change. People progress. There's no reason why 2 people can't progress together. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarewsEyebrowDesigner Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Well, that's not true is it? There are plenty of reasons, foremost among them being that you are separate entities and that you, at the end of it all, go through life alone. That is not to say you can not feel close to or intimate with someone, and that people in a relationship can not go through life together in such a way as to give the impression that you aren't alone. But I'll stop there before the married/in a relationship crowd are riled up and come at me with pitchforks and all. Be happy in the knowledge that your chemically induced state of love is at least some comfort in the despairingly blank void of it all. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genie Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 I knew a guy once, went to the gym but forgot to take his phone. Couldn't take a selfie or post to Facebook that he was at the gym. Bloody devastated he was. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonyh29 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 But I'll stop there before the married/in a relationship crowd are riled up and come at me with pitchforks and all. That's the spirit Or you could discuss the subject in a civil manner and at least try and see both sides of the argument , even if you don't agree That is kinda the point of a discussion forum isn't it ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heid3ster Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 That's the spiritOr you could discuss the subject in a civil manner and at least try and see both sides of the argument , even if you don't agree That is kinda the point of a discussion forum isn't it ? I have seen no evidence of that in On Topic. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brumerican Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Things I don't get ? Vaginal yeast infections. Menstrual cramps. Scurvy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CVByrne Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 gambling/betting Seriously? What's not to get? Everything. Thanks to CED for reminding me of another of my "don't get"s. No appeal for me whatsoever. If I've got a tenner I'd rather spend it on something I want rather than throw it away on the slim chance of getting a win. I completely agree, I've no interest in gambling my money. Betting is very different though. Take poker for example, skills can be used to make yourself money. Same way as betting on sports. But people who gamble, like the machines in bookies or people who play casino games. I'd never do any of that. I don't get gambling. I do get betting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CVByrne Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 credit cards. Seriously? What is the appeal of signing up to financial death traps? Can't afford something don't buy it and be more aware of your financial reality - if this irks you then mobilise for serious social structural change instead of lying to yourself. Find it hard to feel sympathy for people who max out several credit cards. I guess for some it's a desperate means of staving off poverty but surely you're only going to make it worse :/ Can understanding borrowing for a house and if it's necessary a vehicle of modest costs. Everything else is just plain daft. Credit cards are excellent tools. I never pay a penny, but always use them. They are insured which means they are better to use than cash or a debit card. Especially useful abroad. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xann Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 Be happy in the knowledge that your chemically induced state of love is at least some comfort in the despairingly blank void of it all. Are you Kim Kierkegaardashian? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonyh29 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 gambling/betting Seriously? What's not to get?Everything. Thanks to CED for reminding me of another of my "don't get"s. No appeal for me whatsoever. If I've got a tenner I'd rather spend it on something I want rather than throw it away on the slim chance of getting a win. I completely agree, I've no interest in gambling my money. Betting is very different though. Take poker for example, skills can be used to make yourself money. Same way as betting on sports. But people who gamble, like the machines in bookies or people who play casino games. I'd never do any of that. I don't get gambling. I do get betting. Unless this is the point where you tell us you make £1m a year betting and never lose , I'd say you were gambling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RichardCanning Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 How FIFA are in charge of world football when they are so corrupt Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted November 13, 2014 Share Posted November 13, 2014 How FIFA are in charge of world football when they are so corrupt Being corrupt seems to be a prerequisite of governing anything these days. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CVByrne Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 gambling/betting Seriously? What's not to get? Everything. Thanks to CED for reminding me of another of my "don't get"s. No appeal for me whatsoever. If I've got a tenner I'd rather spend it on something I want rather than throw it away on the slim chance of getting a win. I completely agree, I've no interest in gambling my money. Betting is very different though. Take poker for example, skills can be used to make yourself money. Same way as betting on sports. But people who gamble, like the machines in bookies or people who play casino games. I'd never do any of that. I don't get gambling. I do get betting. Unless this is the point where you tell us you make £1m a year betting and never lose , I'd say you were gambling I don't make £1mil a year!! It's impossible to get anywhere near that as bookies refuse to take bets. But I do make a healthy profit each year, was about £9,000 last racing season and nearly double that the season before due to an amazing Cheltenham festival The Betting Advice section of my site is already heavily in profit from my tips. It's betting advice, not gambling advice 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chrisp65 Posted November 14, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted November 14, 2014 Well, that's not true is it? There are plenty of reasons, foremost among them being that you are separate entities and that you, at the end of it all, go through life alone. That is not to say you can not feel close to or intimate with someone, and that people in a relationship can not go through life together in such a way as to give the impression that you aren't alone. But I'll stop there before the married/in a relationship crowd are riled up and come at me with pitchforks and all. Be happy in the knowledge that your chemically induced state of love is at least some comfort in the despairingly blank void of it all. Nah, it's horses for courses innit. In my little social circle I've got friends that are 'proud' to be married and others that are resolutely single and some that have long term partners. I don't see any of them obviously more happy than the others. You do sometimes see people that are sad singles because they are desperate for a partner, but you suspect their tick list of 'must have attributes' and the slight smell of desperation are what's making them stay unselected by that illusive other half. You do also see people that you can't work out why they bother being together, they clearly don't really like each other and yearn for something else. What's the bloody point of that? But marriage for life really really works for some people - and the very best of luck to 'em too. I think the main problem is people pressuring people into any one size fits all system. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MakemineVanilla Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Well, that's not true is it? There are plenty of reasons, foremost among them being that you are separate entities and that you, at the end of it all, go through life alone. That is not to say you can not feel close to or intimate with someone, and that people in a relationship can not go through life together in such a way as to give the impression that you aren't alone. But I'll stop there before the married/in a relationship crowd are riled up and come at me with pitchforks and all. Be happy in the knowledge that your chemically induced state of love is at least some comfort in the despairingly blank void of it all. Woody Allen would be proud of that one. Alpha double plus! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tegis Posted November 14, 2014 VT Supporter Share Posted November 14, 2014 I think the main problem is people pressuring people into any one size fits all system. I know the "like" button is there, but this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyM3000 Posted November 14, 2014 Share Posted November 14, 2014 Id be very bored if I didn't gamble, I think I have done it every day for the last 10 years but in a form I don't really consider gambling even though most will disagree. Blackjack, Slots, Roulette and most other casino games where the house has a huge edge Id say is gambling because you have zero chance of winning long term and each time you play you technically lose a percentage of whatever you bet. Other areas like Poker, sports betting is a bit different, you can consider yourself to have an edge with all the information that is available to you. I did read a report a while back though that it's impossible to win betting on Premier League football due to the odds the bookies offer. There are some good value bets to be had though, (e.g Villa to lose is usually value ). Would you say stock market trading is gambling? Its pretty similar, you take the information you have and make what you think is a profitable investment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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