Popular Post Ginko Posted July 28, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted July 28, 2017 @Shropshire Lad - Can't be an easy situstion to be in mate, but I think you're going about it very maturely and it sounds like you both have the interests of your child at heart so it should work out quite nicely. Here's hoping for the best for you. As for me, I'm no longer single A good friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend several months ago though she claims she'd been 'checked out' regarding their relationship a long time before she ended it anyway. Since then we became even closer and hung out and texted a lot. She's the quiet type whereas I'm a little more forward and outgoing so for the last few months I've been caught between thinking it was building up and then telling myself she didn't see me in that way because if she did she'd give me more of a sign. Well, we both came into work on a Saturday for a few hours and seeing as I'm smitten with her and have always fancied her since I met her and got to know her well, and the fact we'd gotten so close lately, I asked how long she was staying for. She said until about 2pm, what a coinky dink! Me too (now). So we walked into town, went to her favourite comic book shop (she's delightfully nerdy and arty), then a record shop, then a nice cafe where we had a couple of drinks and attempted to have a game of chess whilst a little buzzed. Then a few hours had flown by and we felt hungry so I asked if she wanted to grab something and she did, so we went for tapas and had a lovely meal and had fun. Then as the evening was coming to an end it just welled up inside of me and felt right to tell her I fancied her, so I did. She got shy but had a big smile on her face and she said she's felt the same way for quite some time now. And now we're a couple! It feels like we've been getting to know each other and dating without really calling it that for some time now, and we already knew each other well for a year or so before then, so it just feels natural. In fact a number of mutual friends were unsurprised by this news apparently. We're very much smitten right now and I love being with her. We have so much in common and she's just really **** cool. Very happy right now 24 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post HanoiVillan Posted July 28, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted July 28, 2017 54 minutes ago, Ginko said: @Shropshire Lad - Can't be an easy situstion to be in mate, but I think you're going about it very maturely and it sounds like you both have the interests of your child at heart so it should work out quite nicely. Here's hoping for the best for you. As for me, I'm no longer single A good friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend several months ago though she claims she'd been 'checked out' regarding their relationship a long time before she ended it anyway. Since then we became even closer and hung out and texted a lot. She's the quiet type whereas I'm a little more forward and outgoing so for the last few months I've been caught between thinking it was building up and then telling myself she didn't see me in that way because if she did she'd give me more of a sign. Well, we both came into work on a Saturday for a few hours and seeing as I'm smitten with her and have always fancied her since I met her and got to know her well, and the fact we'd gotten so close lately, I asked how long she was staying for. She said until about 2pm, what a coinky dink! Me too (now). So we walked into town, went to her favourite comic book shop (she's delightfully nerdy and arty), then a record shop, then a nice cafe where we had a couple of drinks and attempted to have a game of chess whilst a little buzzed. Then a few hours had flown by and we felt hungry so I asked if she wanted to grab something and she did, so we went for tapas and had a lovely meal and had fun. Then as the evening was coming to an end it just welled up inside of me and felt right to tell her I fancied her, so I did. She got shy but had a big smile on her face and she said she's felt the same way for quite some time now. And now we're a couple! It feels like we've been getting to know each other and dating without really calling it that for some time now, and we already knew each other well for a year or so before then, so it just feels natural. In fact a number of mutual friends were unsurprised by this news apparently. We're very much smitten right now and I love being with her. We have so much in common and she's just really **** cool. Very happy right now 2 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 6 hours ago, Shropshire Lad said: Update from me. I've split up with my partner, well it happened in March but only getting round to bringing it up here now. Not sure how to summarise it without droning on. I'll try a sequence of events. April 2015 - I meet a girl who's up from Bristol for a friend's party. What happens, happens. No plans to meet again, mainly due to distance (along with other factors). June 2015 - I receive a phone call to tell me she's expecting. We meet to discuss things a couple of times, but that's more or less it. January 2016 - my daughter is born. Frequent visits occur over the following months. June/July 2016 - we decide to try give it a go for the sake of our daughter. They move up to live with me. March 2017 - following a fairly big row over nothing (not our first big argument over nothing and wasn't our last), she decides that she wants to end the relationship but to continue to live up here as opposed to Bristol. Current situation - both my daughter (now 18 months old) and her mum are still living with me. This will be the case until she can find somewhere suitable to live. I've made it clear that there's no rush at all for her to move out. She's got herself a job up here and I'm currently a stay at home dad. We're ultimately better off as friends and hopefully that will mean we'll be better, happier parents for the little 'un. I think we both felt we owed it to her to at least try and make things work, we're just not suited as a couple. I'm really just giving this update as I feel that people are quite honest about themselves in here and I have this strange sense that I should reciprocate. I kind of know what I'm doing and I feel ok about things, but if anyone has any thoughts then by all means feel free to put them forward. (Still a bit drony, but it's the best you're gonna get ) Sorry to hear about the split, you at least gave it a chance and tried to resolve it. End on good terms as last thing you want is your baby girl suffering from squabbling between the parents as we often see thesedays between people. As for the future? New start new chapter, I am sure a lot of positive things are on the horizon 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Wainy316 Posted July 28, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted July 28, 2017 I got married on the 15th. Took my time as it was our 10 year anniversary. Honeymoon to come in 2 weeks and then we're officially bankrupt forever. 11 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodders Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 congrats Wainy, and Ginko I'm at 2.5 years in with the partner and the idea of proposing seems to vary between exciting and exhausting depending on the day. Still - I'll give it another 7 years then before deciding. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 3 minutes ago, Rodders said: congrats Wainy, and Ginko I'm at 2.5 years in with the partner and the idea of proposing seems to vary between exciting and exhausting depending on the day. Still - I'll give it another 7 years then before deciding. Cheers and yeah, took me 9 so you're sound. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davkaus Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 1 hour ago, Ginko said: We're very much smitten right now and I love being with her. We have so much in common and she's just really **** cool. Very happy right now Congrats dude! 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 Ha, thanks chaps. I am so ghey for her. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 Congrats Ginks and Wainy Delaney and sorry SL! I'd like to weigh into the drying up/dishwasher argument late though. I'm dogsitting for my sister and she has no drying rack or even washing up liquid near the sink! I'm a use it, wash it, dry it kind of guy; only using the dishwasher if i cook for loads so I'm unsettled. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villakram Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 (edited) and further to this important dishwashing topic, which is obviously key to a successful relationship. Who scrapes food off a plate? Soak the things, peasy easy! I have a dishwasher in my apartment and I've never even turned it on... been years now so I expect it'll explode next time it's turned on Edited July 28, 2017 by villakram Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keyblade Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 What's this drying dishes malarkey Unless you're going to be using them right after? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Xela Posted July 29, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted July 29, 2017 (edited) Congrats @Wainy316 and well done @Ginko. Sorry to hear about your news @Shropshire Lad but you sound as though you both gave it your best shot for the nipper. ... but 2 pages on dish washing? What is going on? I come on here to read about disastrous dates and stories of @Rugeley Villa sticking brushes and combs up bums and wanking into electrical appliances! Edited July 29, 2017 by Xela 3 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ingram85 Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 (edited) 21 hours ago, villakram said: and further to this important dishwashing topic, which is obviously key to a successful relationship. Who scrapes food off a plate? Soak the things, peasy easy! I have a dishwasher in my apartment and I've never even turned it on... been years now so I expect it'll explode next time it's turned on If you have dinner and leave a bit of food on the plate you don't scrape it off into the bin before rinsing the plate off or leaving it to soak? You just chuck it all in the bowl or dishwasher? Dirty great chunks of food'n'all? Edited July 29, 2017 by Ingram85 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AVFC_Hitz Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 You're all the crazy world of Arthur Brown. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villakram Posted July 29, 2017 Share Posted July 29, 2017 7 hours ago, Ingram85 said: If you have dinner and leave a bit of food on the plate you don't scrape it off into the bin before rinsing the plate off or leaving it to soak? You just chuck it all in the bowl or dishwasher? Dirty great chunks of food'n'all? Scraping implies elbow grease where as I would tend to wipe food into garbage and then soak, but that's kinda obvious. Humans and their hygiene habits! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NurembergVillan Posted July 29, 2017 Moderator Share Posted July 29, 2017 On 28/07/2017 at 09:59, StefanAVFC said: I'm a use it, wash it, dry it kind of guy Sound advice for a one night stand, although it does kind of snuff out any romance. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chappy Posted July 30, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted July 30, 2017 On 28/07/2017 at 02:58, Rodders said: congrats Wainy, and Ginko I'm at 2.5 years in with the partner and the idea of proposing seems to vary between exciting and exhausting depending on the day. Still - I'll give it another 7 years then before deciding. Do it! I proposed a few weeks ago, although that was 4.5 years in. All very exciting. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post PompeyVillan Posted July 30, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted July 30, 2017 (edited) There is now officially a Mrs PompeyVillan! Oh and I'm 11 and a half years in. No rush! Edited July 30, 2017 by PompeyVillan 16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodders Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 congrats @PompeyVillan and @chappy 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted August 2, 2017 Share Posted August 2, 2017 I need to get back in the dating game. I went out Friday night with a big group from work but was thinking i'd have a crafty look at what the talent is saying in the pubs and bars we went in. My my, its a scary world out there now! I used to approach women easily back when I was younger as that was generally the only way you would get chatting to new people. Nowadays most people seem to meet online. Does anyone chat anyone up now in bars or is that seen as a bit outdated and 'odd' now? I think its all down to a lack of confidence in myself. I keep meaning to get myself set up on Tinder or a dating site but never do as I always think any picture of me makes me look like a cross between a child killer and a simpleton. *Sigh* 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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