Popular Post mottaloo Posted August 2, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted August 2, 2017 I signed up to one for a 6 months' trial last month. A few observations: 1. I'm 52. Sure I'd love a younger model but am realistic. The amount of 60yr+ women message me is amazing. 72 was the oldest ! 2. A few contact me first, surely indicating they want to start the ball rolling. However, this week alone 3 have blocked me after my first reply and I've said nothing creepy (yet) ! 3. It's either feast or famine. I go days without any visitors and then bam ! I get 4 or 5 messages in 48 hrs. 4. I'm no Bradley Cooper i admit but the number of absolute mooses that try it on has now got me thinking that's all who'd be interested in me. 5. I admit i have written a few very witty messages and i get the most bland and boring replies back. 6. I dont want to see pics of their dog, fave holiday destination, a glass of prosecco. I want to see pics of YOU, preferably without those filter apps that make your face thinner, eyes big like bambi or those fckin stupid mickey mouse ears ! Don't let me put you off trying it but take a deep breath and dont let your BP rise too much with some of these indecisive, frustrating and drab women on here, some of whom really have a few bob on themselves. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Albrighton Posted August 2, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted August 2, 2017 28 minutes ago, Xela said: I need to get back in the dating game. I went out Friday night with a big group from work but was thinking i'd have a crafty look at what the talent is saying in the pubs and bars we went in. My my, its a scary world out there now! I used to approach women easily back when I was younger as that was generally the only way you would get chatting to new people. Nowadays most people seem to meet online. Does anyone chat anyone up now in bars or is that seen as a bit outdated and 'odd' now? I think its all down to a lack of confidence in myself. I keep meaning to get myself set up on Tinder or a dating site but never do as I always think any picture of me makes me look like a cross between a child killer and a simpleton. *Sigh* It's difficult mate. A few months ago I was in a bar/club and my, admittedly pissed, recollection is this lovely looking girl was practically beckoning me to join her on the dance floor. Now I might have misremembered it, or she may have just meant it in a "stop standing there and dance" kinda way. Whether she did or not, I massively bottled it. My current situation means I couldn't do anything anyway. But I distinctly remember thinking to myself "you have literally no idea what you're doing". Probably for the best in the end, however I will find it tricky, if/when I decide to try again. I would say that, yes people still meet each other in bars, pubs etc. That's my hope anyway. I think you just somehow orchestrate it so you end up chatting to them. I've found that if I'm prepared to look like a bit of a dick (not too much of stretch for me there), and not taken myself too seriously there's a fair chance I'll end up chatting to them later. As long as I've somehow stood out. None of your mates' girlfriends/wives have any single friends? I know I've suggested speeding dating to you before, as you had a good experience previously, not interested? Might be the confidence booster you need, a little warm up for you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post lapal_fan Posted August 2, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted August 2, 2017 (edited) Surely the best way to 'present' yourself to the next Mrs Xela would be to stride up to that bitch and tell her you have 10 thousand likes on a football forum but only 12 thousand posts. If she looks confused or pitying then just chin her and onto the next bitch. Thats what I did (post/like count altered obviously), and look at me now! Edited August 2, 2017 by lapal_fan 4 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikeyp102 Posted August 2, 2017 Share Posted August 2, 2017 1 hour ago, Xela said: I need to get back in the dating game. I went out Friday night with a big group from work but was thinking i'd have a crafty look at what the talent is saying in the pubs and bars we went in. My my, its a scary world out there now! I used to approach women easily back when I was younger as that was generally the only way you would get chatting to new people. Nowadays most people seem to meet online. Does anyone chat anyone up now in bars or is that seen as a bit outdated and 'odd' now? I think its all down to a lack of confidence in myself. I keep meaning to get myself set up on Tinder or a dating site but never do as I always think any picture of me makes me look like a cross between a child killer and a simpleton. *Sigh* Yep it's a very scary world. And tinder doesn't help your confidence. Some people find it easy, but for me it just knock my confidence more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davkaus Posted August 2, 2017 Share Posted August 2, 2017 I think I might have to pick between my girlfriend and my cat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted August 2, 2017 Share Posted August 2, 2017 26 minutes ago, Davkaus said: I think I might have to pick between my girlfriend and my cat. There's a joke about a couple of pussies in there somewhere.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dAVe80 Posted August 2, 2017 Share Posted August 2, 2017 1 hour ago, lapal_fan said: Surely the best way to 'present' yourself to the next Mrs Xela would be to stride up to that bitch and tell her you have 10 thousand likes on a football forum but only 12 thousand posts. If she looks confused or pitying then just chin her and onto the next bitch. Thats what I did (post/like count altered obviously), and look at me now! Surely a volley to the jaw is the preferred VT method of attack, on confused young ladies? Of course. when they realise you have more likes than posts, they drop them straight away, and demand DHUTWU. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ingram85 Posted August 2, 2017 Share Posted August 2, 2017 (edited) Anyone ever been with a girl who through no fault of her own gets a lot of male attention? Its a potential confidence shatterer for me as I'm quite down on myself looks wise and she is quite a stunning girl to me. I know every girl gets their fair share of blokes trying it on but I think its a daily occurrence for her. Not sure if I'll be able to handle it tbh, think over time it would wear me down. Edited August 2, 2017 by Ingram85 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NurembergVillan Posted August 2, 2017 Moderator Share Posted August 2, 2017 5 minutes ago, Ingram85 said: Anyone ever been with a girl who through no fault of her own gets a lot of male attention? Its a potential confidence shatterer for me as I'm quite down on myself looks wise and she is quite a stunning girl to me. I know every girl gets their fair share of blokes trying it on but I think its a daily occurrence for her. Not sure if I'll be able to handle it tbh, think over time it would wear me down. Get yerself one of these... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 13 hours ago, Xela said: I need to get back in the dating game. I went out Friday night with a big group from work but was thinking i'd have a crafty look at what the talent is saying in the pubs and bars we went in. My my, its a scary world out there now! I used to approach women easily back when I was younger as that was generally the only way you would get chatting to new people. Nowadays most people seem to meet online. Does anyone chat anyone up now in bars or is that seen as a bit outdated and 'odd' now? I think its all down to a lack of confidence in myself. I keep meaning to get myself set up on Tinder or a dating site but never do as I always think any picture of me makes me look like a cross between a child killer and a simpleton. *Sigh* I am quite a confident guy but even i find the initial approach a bit challenging as you tend to overthink things if you get rejected but if you just dont even think about what COULD happen and just do it usually works. If you approach 20 girls and 19 reject you and go home with one its still success and you will forget about the other 19. Personally I dont like approaching in clubs, I find it the worst, think its easier in a place where you have a mutual interest. For example I did Greek dancing classes a few years ago and it was quite a social event where people were friendly and you could strike up convos easily. Start with something like that to begin with. Also another bit of advice (this might sound lame) but if you have difficulty chatting to attractive girls/striking up a convo. Go to a supermarket and at the tills go to to the hottest girl there and when she scanning your shopping just strike up a convo. They have to be polite to you and I cant say this doesn't help with your conversation with attractive women . 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted August 3, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted August 3, 2017 10 hours ago, Ingram85 said: Anyone ever been with a girl who through no fault of her own gets a lot of male attention? Its a potential confidence shatterer for me as I'm quite down on myself looks wise and she is quite a stunning girl to me. I know every girl gets their fair share of blokes trying it on but I think its a daily occurrence for her. Not sure if I'll be able to handle it tbh, think over time it would wear me down. Just punch any bloke who gets within a 5 yard radius of the two of you. They'll soon stop, and she'll think you're sexy as **** as well. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 10 hours ago, Ingram85 said: Anyone ever been with a girl who through no fault of her own gets a lot of male attention? Its a potential confidence shatterer for me as I'm quite down on myself looks wise and she is quite a stunning girl to me. I know every girl gets their fair share of blokes trying it on but I think its a daily occurrence for her. Not sure if I'll be able to handle it tbh, think over time it would wear me down. One thing mate, dont let a woman know you feel like this. They will think your not confident, insecure and they are above you. You are the man. She is lucky to be with you just as much as you are with her. My missus is attractive and gets a lot of attention but why I look at it unlucky schmucks she is with me you cant look as much as you want but she going home with me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post lapal_fan Posted August 3, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted August 3, 2017 7 hours ago, Demitri_C said: One thing mate, dont let a woman know you feel like this. They will think your not confident, insecure and they are above you. You are the man. She is lucky to be with you just as much as you are with her. My missus is attractive and gets a lot of attention but why I look at it unlucky schmucks she is with me you cant look as much as you want but she going home with me Yea but she's dicking them hard in the car park. 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 17 hours ago, Ingram85 said: Anyone ever been with a girl who through no fault of her own gets a lot of male attention? Its a potential confidence shatterer for me as I'm quite down on myself looks wise and she is quite a stunning girl to me. I know every girl gets their fair share of blokes trying it on but I think its a daily occurrence for her. Not sure if I'll be able to handle it tbh, think over time it would wear me down. Yea, I can imagine why you'd think that.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 To be fair if I looked like this I'd be nervous too Ingum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rodders0223 Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 18 hours ago, Ingram85 said: Anyone ever been with a girl who through no fault of her own gets a lot of male attention? Its a potential confidence shatterer for me as I'm quite down on myself looks wise and she is quite a stunning girl to me. I know every girl gets their fair share of blokes trying it on but I think its a daily occurrence for her. Not sure if I'll be able to handle it tbh, think over time it would wear me down. Yes, the only choice is to dump her, as I did. It's been 10 years, and I have not had sex once...but I think we can all agree I made the correct decision! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 (edited) On 8/2/2017 at 20:40, lapal_fan said: Surely the best way to 'present' yourself to the next Mrs Xela would be to stride up to that bitch and tell her you have 10 thousand likes on a football forum but only 12 thousand posts. If she looks confused or pitying then just chin her and onto the next bitch. Thats what I did (post/like count altered obviously), and look at me now! That is usually my opening gambit mate. I print off my profile stats, add my MSN Messenger address to it and slip it into the cleavage of the lucky lady Then I wait... Edited August 3, 2017 by Xela 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 21 hours ago, Ingram85 said: Anyone ever been with a girl who through no fault of her own gets a lot of male attention? Its a potential confidence shatterer for me as I'm quite down on myself looks wise and she is quite a stunning girl to me. I know every girl gets their fair share of blokes trying it on but I think its a daily occurrence for her. Not sure if I'll be able to handle it tbh, think over time it would wear me down. Yep. You just have to let it wash over you. If a girl is gorgeous then it'll happen to her every day. Somehow I have dated a couple of absolute stunners in my life, god know how, it proves women must be less shallow then men! One of them, if we were out drinking in a bar/club and I went for a piss, I could guarantee there would be a bloke trying to chat her up by the time I came out. We just used to laugh about. One of the times it was a Villa player... and he tried it on twice in one evening! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 On 8/2/2017 at 20:21, Shropshire Lad said: It's difficult mate. A few months ago I was in a bar/club and my, admittedly pissed, recollection is this lovely looking girl was practically beckoning me to join her on the dance floor. Now I might have misremembered it, or she may have just meant it in a "stop standing there and dance" kinda way. Whether she did or not, I massively bottled it. My current situation means I couldn't do anything anyway. But I distinctly remember thinking to myself "you have literally no idea what you're doing". Probably for the best in the end, however I will find it tricky, if/when I decide to try again. I would say that, yes people still meet each other in bars, pubs etc. That's my hope anyway. I think you just somehow orchestrate it so you end up chatting to them. I've found that if I'm prepared to look like a bit of a dick (not too much of stretch for me there), and not taken myself too seriously there's a fair chance I'll end up chatting to them later. As long as I've somehow stood out. None of your mates' girlfriends/wives have any single friends? I know I've suggested speeding dating to you before, as you had a good experience previously, not interested? Might be the confidence booster you need, a little warm up for you. Speed dating! I did have some success at that... but I was 12 years younger and could still squeeze into 28" waist jeans back then! Could still be an option. I'm trying to avoid friends of friends or work colleagues. I know it sounds odd but i'd rather meet someone who isn't connected to my current life if that makes sense. Anyway... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mat Kendrick's Dentist Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 6 minutes ago, Xela said: Yep. You just have to let it wash over you. If a girl is gorgeous then it'll happen to her every day. Somehow I have dated a couple of absolute stunners in my life, god know how, it proves women must be less shallow then men! One of them, if we were out drinking in a bar/club and I went for a piss, I could guarantee there would be a bloke trying to chat her up by the time I came out. We just used to laugh about. One of the times it was a Villa player... and he tried it on twice in one evening! Go on then? Lee Hendrie is my guess? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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