lapal_fan Posted November 28, 2019 Share Posted November 28, 2019 (edited) 4 hours ago, KenjiOgiwara said: I also speak 4 languages (6 including the neighbours), work in the highest fields of research, got a sixpack and have a magnificent 3" pecker. Get impressed. lol Multilingual pedo Edited November 28, 2019 by lapal_fan 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted December 5, 2019 Share Posted December 5, 2019 On 28/11/2019 at 20:51, KenjiOgiwara said: Nah she's foreign so she visits family abroad and she's also a big concert person, so travels a lot for that. It's fair enough, I like independant people. She's also 8 years younger than me, which is borderline, but I am hoping it can work out. 35 and 27 isn't the end of the world I guess. I am hoping it can develop into something serious, but it's really hard to develop a good connection when you see a person every other week or so. I'm in two minds about this. The woman I'm currently seeing and I have both had busy schedules over the last month or so and while we speak weekly we've met once in that time. In terms of romantic intimacy it's as dry as an English comedian performing stand up in the Sahara, but in terms of personal connection the bond is profound. Really good conversation flows every time we take an hour or so to let our minds wonder and share what each other is experiencing and what we hope for. I'll be seeing her for dinner on Sunday, which is great because it's always better when you feel someone's energy in person, and the potential for chemistry soars. We establish attraction and interest beyond fantasy and our own preconceptions in this way, for sure But I still believe if the desire to really know someone and grow with them is there then that will find a way to take place even when we can't be in direct touch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted December 5, 2019 Share Posted December 5, 2019 ^Woah, sometimes I amaze myself to the degree of corny and dorky I can take things to. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KenjiOgiwara Posted December 5, 2019 Share Posted December 5, 2019 We all get nuts. When women confuse me in dating I actually turn into an overanalyzing woman myself. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brumstopdogs Posted December 5, 2019 Share Posted December 5, 2019 3 hours ago, KenjiOgiwara said: We all get nuts. When women confuse me in dating I actually turn into an overanalyzing woman myself. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mottaloo Posted December 5, 2019 Share Posted December 5, 2019 4 hours ago, A'Villan said: I'm in two minds about this. The woman I'm currently seeing and I have both had busy schedules over the last month or so and while we speak weekly we've met once in that time. In terms of romantic intimacy it's as dry as an English comedian performing stand up in the Sahara, but in terms of personal connection the bond is profound. Really good conversation flows every time we take an hour or so to let our minds wonder and share what each other is experiencing and what we hope for. I'll be seeing her for dinner on Sunday, which is great because it's always better when you feel someone's energy in person, and the potential for chemistry soars. We establish attraction and interest beyond fantasy and our own preconceptions in this way, for sure But I still believe if the desire to really know someone and grow with them is there then that will find a way to take place even when we can't be in direct touch. This post is crying out for some sage advice from @rjw63 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted December 5, 2019 Share Posted December 5, 2019 22 minutes ago, mottaloo said: This post is crying out for some sage advice from @rjw63 Without a doubt, but I'm also enjoying the side of the relationship that deals with personal connection and friendship, it's nice to have someone who brings out the best in you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
il_serpente Posted December 6, 2019 VT Supporter Share Posted December 6, 2019 2 hours ago, A'Villan said: Without a doubt, but I'm also enjoying the side of the relationship that deals with personal connection and friendship, it's nice to have someone who brings out the best in you. So in other words, she's not putting out. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted December 6, 2019 Share Posted December 6, 2019 1 hour ago, il_serpente said: So in other words, she's not putting out. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted December 6, 2019 Share Posted December 6, 2019 @il_serpente Excuse me if that's intended as a funny more than just general commentary. I guess I have aspirations for my relationship to be based on something greater than just sexual gratification. She must be good in the kitchen and speak when spoken to as well. Not really. If that's the sum total of my better half then my life probably doesn't inspire much. Having that personal connection and bond as well as friendship doesn't take anything away from desire and attraction, if anything it enhances it. I'm not her handbag. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikeyp102 Posted December 6, 2019 Share Posted December 6, 2019 5 hours ago, A'Villan said: @il_serpente Excuse me if that's intended as a funny more than just general commentary. I guess I have aspirations for my relationship to be based on something greater than just sexual gratification. She must be good in the kitchen and speak when spoken to as well. Not really. If that's the sum total of my better half then my life probably doesn't inspire much. Having that personal connection and bond as well as friendship doesn't take anything away from desire and attraction, if anything it enhances it. I'm not her handbag. Plus it helps that’s she’s famous eh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
il_serpente Posted December 6, 2019 VT Supporter Share Posted December 6, 2019 6 hours ago, A'Villan said: @il_serpente Excuse me if that's intended as a funny more than just general commentary. I guess I have aspirations for my relationship to be based on something greater than just sexual gratification. She must be good in the kitchen and speak when spoken to as well. Not really. If that's the sum total of my better half then my life probably doesn't inspire much. Having that personal connection and bond as well as friendship doesn't take anything away from desire and attraction, if anything it enhances it. I'm not her handbag. Apparently, I should have tacked one of these on to the end: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ingram85 Posted December 6, 2019 Share Posted December 6, 2019 8 hours ago, A'Villan said: @il_serpente Excuse me if that's intended as a funny more than just general commentary. I guess I have aspirations for my relationship to be based on something greater than just sexual gratification. She must be good in the kitchen and speak when spoken to as well. Not really. If that's the sum total of my better half then my life probably doesn't inspire much. Having that personal connection and bond as well as friendship doesn't take anything away from desire and attraction, if anything it enhances it. I'm not her handbag. Ghey. Motor boat and FHUTA. Job done. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted December 6, 2019 Share Posted December 6, 2019 14 hours ago, mikeyp102 said: Plus it helps that’s she’s famous eh? I never followed through with that arrangement. Things were going well enough with this girl and have only gotten better. I might if things don't work out between me and the current girl I'm seeing, but I'm not making any plans for or anticipating that happening. Even though things are just beginning, we're agreed that we are attracted to each other in a way where we want to see where it leads. She has deleted bumble and tinder, and I have never been one to date multiple women when I am interested in the potential for something more committed to transpire. Plus that famous girl really is quite famous, I don't know how I would feel about being on her insta page and having media interested in me. I'm not pretty or very marketable outside of my involvement in semi-professional basketball, and I don't really want to walk down the red carpet multiple times per year. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted December 6, 2019 VT Supporter Share Posted December 6, 2019 31 minutes ago, A'Villan said: I never followed through with that arrangement. Things were going well enough with this girl and have only gotten better. I might if things don't work out between me and the current girl I'm seeing, but I'm not making any plans for or anticipating that happening. Even though things are just beginning, we're agreed that we are attracted to each other in a way where we want to see where it leads. She has deleted bumble and tinder, and I have never been one to date multiple women when I am interested in the potential for something more committed to transpire. Plus that famous girl really is quite famous, I don't know how I would feel about being on her insta page and having media interested in me. I'm not pretty or very marketable outside of my involvement in semi-professional basketball, and I don't really want to walk down the red carpet multiple times per year. #humblebrag 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted December 6, 2019 Share Posted December 6, 2019 16 minutes ago, mjmooney said: #humblebrag #Douchebrag might be just as apt, hey. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post rjw63 Posted December 7, 2019 Popular Post Share Posted December 7, 2019 On 05/12/2019 at 21:45, mottaloo said: This post is crying out for some sage advice from @rjw63 1 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HanoiVillan Posted December 7, 2019 Share Posted December 7, 2019 17 hours ago, mjmooney said: #humblebrag Can't believe you beat me to it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ingram85 Posted December 18, 2019 Share Posted December 18, 2019 (edited) Been up and down last few months, lots of daft arguments and with both of us being stubborn gits it takes an age to sort things out. I'll try to talk first and she wont let me, stone walling me until she's ready to talk maybe a day later. Getting a bit fed up of it if I'm honest. I know a few of these are down to language miscommunication as english isnt her first language but I'm calling bullshit on it as her english is just fine. Starting to wonder if she just likes a bit of conflict every now and again. It's tiresome. She accused me of being selfish a few days ago because I asked if 'she' wanted anything from the shop instead of asking if 'we' need anything. I was only going to get hers and her sons xmas cards. For them. Not me. Them. Mental. Absolutely mental. Edited December 18, 2019 by Ingram85 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted December 18, 2019 Share Posted December 18, 2019 29 minutes ago, Ingram85 said: Been up and down last few months, lots of daft arguments and with both of us being stubborn gits it takes an age to sort things out. I'll try to talk first and she wont let me, stone walling me until she's ready to talk maybe a day later. Getting a bit fed up of it if I'm honest. I know a few of these are down to language miscommunication as english isnt her first language but I'm calling bullshit on it as her english is just fine. Starting to wonder if she just likes a bit of conflict every now and again. It's tiresome. She accused me of being selfish a few days ago because I asked if 'she' wanted anything from the shop instead of asking if 'we' need anything. I was only going to get hers and her sons xmas cards. For them. Not me. Them. Mental. Absolutely mental. Slap them 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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