chrisp65 Posted January 9, 2020 Share Posted January 9, 2020 33 minutes ago, rjw63 said: Send me the address, I'll do it for her. I'm thinking of opening a Clunge Shaving Boutique. 26 minutes ago, mottaloo said: We got matching pairs for our trips to Lidl ! That’ll teach me to skip read a thread. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KenjiOgiwara Posted January 16, 2020 Share Posted January 16, 2020 Valentines day. Can you be arsed? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post theboyangel Posted January 16, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted January 16, 2020 21 minutes ago, KenjiOgiwara said: Valentines day. Can you be arsed? What context is that question??? 4 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mottaloo Posted January 16, 2020 Share Posted January 16, 2020 3 hours ago, KenjiOgiwara said: Valentines day. Can you be arsed? Yes, i know I'm getting a bit predictable but : 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wazzap24 Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 My sex drive is too high and it’s getting on my nerves. I’m at the point where I’m considering going the docs to see if I can get put on anti-depressants because I’ve heard they kill it off? I’m 40 and it’s higher than it was in my 20’s. If I have to go more than a week without, it’s constantly on my mind and as I’ve been married for nearly 18 years, that’s more of a calorie controlled diet than an all you can eat buffet these days. Surely it should be on the wane by now? It’s genuinely pissing me off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 23 minutes ago, wazzap24 said: My sex drive is too high and it’s getting on my nerves. I’m at the point where I’m considering going the docs to see if I can get put on anti-depressants because I’ve heard they kill it off? I’m 40 and it’s higher than it was in my 20’s. If I have to go more than a week without, it’s constantly on my mind and as I’ve been married for nearly 18 years, that’s more of a calorie controlled diet than an all you can eat buffet these days. Surely it should be on the wane by now? It’s genuinely pissing me off. I’m not convinced that’s ‘too high’, I think there’s a vast spectrum of what’s kind of acceptable, from none through to daily. The problem would be not being compatible with your partner. Once or twice a week is hardly freakish. But then if your partner wanted something closer to once a year, that wouldn’t be freakish either. Have you actually had a decent chat about it? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genie Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 7 minutes ago, chrisp65 said: I’m not convinced that’s ‘too high’, I think there’s a vast spectrum of what’s kind of acceptable, from none through to daily. The problem would be not being compatible with your partner. Once or twice a week is hardly freakish. But then if your partner wanted something closer to once a year, that wouldn’t be freakish either. Have you actually had a decent chat about it? I remember the programme about the bloke who tried to kill his wife by tampering with her sky diving parachute. He was a right prick and was often going to hookers and brothels. He said he had to do it because his wife had an incredibly low sex drive, she’d struggle to have sex more than 4 or 5 times a week. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post wazzap24 Posted January 26, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted January 26, 2020 (edited) 11 minutes ago, chrisp65 said: I’m not convinced that’s ‘too high’, I think there’s a vast spectrum of what’s kind of acceptable, from none through to daily. The problem would be not being compatible with your partner. Once or twice a week is hardly freakish. But then if your partner wanted something closer to once a year, that wouldn’t be freakish either. Have you actually had a decent chat about it? Not so fussed about the compatibility part, it’s hard to explain, but I’m genuinely ok with that and I don’t do too bad. Obviously, more would be preferable, but (sweeping generalisation alert) a lot of men would probably say the same? It’s more that I generally think about it and want it too often and if anything it’s getting worse as I get older. Little things set me off (got back from footy earlier, wife walked past in her knickers - got half a glance of a butt-cheek and had to have a wank 10 mins later) Once it’s in my head, I can’t shake it (until I err, shake it ) It genuinely gets to me at times. Edited January 26, 2020 by wazzap24 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 4 minutes ago, wazzap24 said: It’s more that I generally think about it and want it too often and if anything it’s getting worse as I get older. I remember being out for a pint with a fairly elderly relative, and in having a conversation with him I clocked that his eyes flicked to every female that walked in the pub, every low top every decent arse in jeans. I remember thinking, jeebus, it never ends, you don’t get to a.point where you can just bloody relax. Don’t take my word as any sort of expert on anything. I’m in my 50’s and I’ve been married since my 20’s. You haven’t described anything particularly unusual as yet. Or, I’m also a sex pest. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wazzap24 Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 7 minutes ago, chrisp65 said: I remember being out for a pint with a fairly elderly relative, and in having a conversation with him I clocked that his eyes flicked to every female that walked in the pub, every low top every decent arse in jeans. I remember thinking, jeebus, it never ends, you don’t get to a.point where you can just bloody relax. Don’t take my word as any sort of expert on anything. I’m in my 50’s and I’ve been married since my 20’s. You haven’t described anything particularly unusual as yet. Or, I’m also a sex pest. FFS, don’t say that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 My sex drive is very up and down but more often down than up. Number of reasons for it I suppose. I’ve also noticed over the last couple of years that I don’t last long anymore where as I used to last for ages. Too much information I know 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 1 hour ago, Rugeley Villa said: My sex drive is very up and down That’s the basics covered. Next week we’ll go over some enhanced techniques. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 I asked for that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted January 26, 2020 Share Posted January 26, 2020 3 hours ago, wazzap24 said: My sex drive is too high and it’s getting on my nerves. I’m at the point where I’m considering going the docs to see if I can get put on anti-depressants because I’ve heard they kill it off? I’m 40 and it’s higher than it was in my 20’s. If I have to go more than a week without, it’s constantly on my mind and as I’ve been married for nearly 18 years, that’s more of a calorie controlled diet than an all you can eat buffet these days. Surely it should be on the wane by now? It’s genuinely pissing me off. Get used to it. I'm 56 and 4 or 5 times a week is still the norm. I used to be worse though so it does slow a little. You'll be OK by the time you're 75 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 11 hours ago, rjw63 said: Get used to it. I'm 56 and 4 or 5 times a week is still the norm. I used to be worse though so it does slow a little. You'll be OK by the time you're 75 Alpha male aint ya 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Villan_of_oz Posted January 28, 2020 VT Supporter Share Posted January 28, 2020 (edited) Does anyone else on here have something that their partner says that sets you right off..... Anytime I tell me my wife anything she doesn't want to hear she tells me to grow up.... Sounds silly but she has said that many times that I can't take it. We were seperated for 6 months last year but sorted it out and things have been really good for the last 5 months. Anyhow we just had a disagreement and as I walked off she said "grow up" and I just lost it! Now I know I'm the wrong for losing my cool, but she promised she wouldn't say it anymore. I want to apologise for the way I spoke to her but I know she won't apologise or see anything wrong with what she did. I'm a stepdad to her 2 kids and in these moments I feel really isolated as they obviously will gravitate towards her. They're inside eating dinner and I'm out the back having a beer because I don't want to be anywhere near her. Unfortunately I'm not one of these awesome humans who are calm all the time. I wear my heart on my sleeve and show my raft of emotions (as you've probably seen through my VT posts ). I know "grow up" is just two words but she literally says it everytime we argue as a way of dismissing me and my feelings. Please, can someone rational thinking tell me if I'm being a massive bellend or do I have a point Edited January 28, 2020 by Villan_of_oz Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post rjw63 Posted January 28, 2020 Popular Post Share Posted January 28, 2020 13 minutes ago, Villan_of_oz said: Does anyone else on here have something that their partner says that sets you right off..... Anytime I tell me my wife anything she doesn't want to hear she tells me to grow up.... Sounds silly but she has said that many times that I can't take it. We were seperated for 6 months last year but sorted it out and things have been really good for the last 5 months. Anyhow we just had a disagreement and as I walked off she said "grow up" and I just lost it! Now I know I'm the wrong for losing my cool, but she promised she wouldn't say it anymore. I want to apologise for the way I spoke to her but I know she won't apologise or see anything wrong with what she did. I'm a stepdad to her 2 kids and in these moments I feel really isolated as they obviously will gravitate towards her. They're inside eating dinner and I'm out the back having a beer because I don't want to be anywhere near her. Unfortunately I'm not one of these awesome humans who are calm all the time. I wear my heart on my sleeve and show my raft of emotions (as you've probably seen through my VT posts ). I know "grow up" is just two words but she literally says it everytime we argue as a way of dismissing me and my feelings. Please, can someone rational thinking tell me if I'm being a massive bellend or do I have a point If it pisses you off and she knows it, you have a valid point. DHUTWU, with no lube. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Villan_of_oz Posted January 28, 2020 VT Supporter Share Posted January 28, 2020 3 minutes ago, rjw63 said: If it pisses you off and she knows it, you have a valid point. DHUTWU, with no lube. Thank you, you have no idea how much I needed to laugh. I might just take your advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seat68 Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 I used to be quite ragey when I was young, would fly off the handle at the slightest thing. Something like grow up would certainly be a catalyst for telling my wife to go away. Now, and this isnt a joke, I have grown up and comments like that no longer enrage me. Instead of it pushing you, stand back, assess things and think if it's me being petulant, calm the **** down, if it's her, then I silently have the higher ground. In the end, look from the outside, is this worth an argument. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted January 28, 2020 VT Supporter Share Posted January 28, 2020 (edited) 33 minutes ago, rjw63 said: If it pisses you off and she knows it, you have a valid point. This. If you've asked her not to say it and she knows it pisses you off then she's doing it deliberately because she knows you hate it. I hardly ever get annoyed at my OH, to be honest I rarely get annoyed at anyone, but if she does something that she knows I hate and I've asked her not to do then I'll kick off a bit. Doesn't matter what it is, if you don't like it she shouldn't do it Not saying you should fly off the handle, but you have every right to be pissed off about it. Edited January 28, 2020 by Stevo985 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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