StefanAVFC Posted March 7, 2018 Share Posted March 7, 2018 Got a fairly big date tonight. Girl I've noticed at work for months and finally spoke to, set it up for tonight. Taking her out for dinner which is some sign of interest (agreeing to go with me!) Wish me luck! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted March 7, 2018 Share Posted March 7, 2018 2 minutes ago, StefanAVFC said: Got a fairly big date tonight. Girl I've noticed at work for months and finally spoke to, set it up for tonight. Taking her out for dinner which is some sign of interest (agreeing to go with me!) Wish me luck! DHUTWU p,s Good luck 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VILLAMARV Posted March 7, 2018 Share Posted March 7, 2018 Aye, good luck boyo, hope it goes well, sure you'll be fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
il_serpente Posted March 7, 2018 VT Supporter Share Posted March 7, 2018 How tall is she? 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted March 7, 2018 Share Posted March 7, 2018 3 hours ago, StefanAVFC said: Got a fairly big date tonight. Girl I've noticed at work for months and finally spoke to, set it up for tonight. Taking her out for dinner which is some sign of interest (agreeing to go with me!) Wish me luck! I probably shouldn't send you gay pornographic pictures tonight? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Albrighton Posted March 7, 2018 VT Supporter Share Posted March 7, 2018 5 hours ago, StefanAVFC said: Got a fairly big date tonight. Girl I've noticed at work for months and finally spoke to, set it up for tonight. Taking her out for dinner which is some sign of interest (agreeing to go with me!) Wish me luck! Possibly a bit late now (or maybe not ), but.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted March 7, 2018 Share Posted March 7, 2018 4 hours ago, il_serpente said: How tall is she? 5'9. With heels 6 probably tonight! Went great all. Only issue is her schedule means hard to tie her down for a 2nd date but it's happening. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Albrighton Posted March 7, 2018 VT Supporter Share Posted March 7, 2018 1 minute ago, StefanAVFC said: 5'9. With heels 6 probably tonight! Went great all. Only issue is her schedule means hard to tie her down for a 2nd date but it's happening. Oh she’s into that sort of thing is she? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 This girl is 21. We work together but not in the same team. She's entry level and I'm management so I'm a bit wary of that. She's giving me such mixed messages. Clearly there's interest, we talk every day for hours on Messenger, but then she'll say weird things that imply no interest. Dating is shit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 7 minutes ago, StefanAVFC said: This girl is 21. We work together but not in the same team. She's entry level and I'm management so I'm a bit wary of that. She's giving me such mixed messages. Clearly there's interest, we talk every day for hours on Messenger, but then she'll say weird things that imply no interest. Dating is shit. Maybe a bit immature? I'm always wary of women who say they have a 'busy schedule' when they work in office admin. I'd expect a CEO of a FTSE 100 company who is also a UN Ambassador to have a busy schedule, not a girl i'm dating who works in data input. Sorry, that was just a broader point about the pitfalls of dating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 7 minutes ago, Xela said: Maybe a bit immature? I'm always wary of women who say they have a 'busy schedule' when they work in office admin. I'd expect a CEO of a FTSE 100 company who is also a UN Ambassador to have a busy schedule, not a girl i'm dating who works in data input. Sorry, that was just a broader point about the pitfalls of dating. Nah she works part time at my place and studies full time too. Lives away from home so goes back there. I think there is some immaturity definitely too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 5 hours ago, StefanAVFC said: This girl is 21. We work together but not in the same team. She's entry level and I'm management so I'm a bit wary of that. She's giving me such mixed messages. Clearly there's interest, we talk every day for hours on Messenger, but then she'll say weird things that imply no interest. Dating is shit. Hours on messenger? That’s your problem right there. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mottaloo Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 I'm pleasantly surprised that my own self respect has stopped me from chasing a woman after 2 good dates (who said she'd call me and arrange another date, but has only WhatsApp'ed me a couple of times). The old me would've been grateful for any attention but i just can't be arsed with this game playing women take part in. If i hear nothing from her by the end of the weekend then I move on, which is amazing cos she has got crackin' bangers and my brain is currently in my pants ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr_Pangloss Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 17 hours ago, Demitri_C said: Hours on messenger? That’s your problem right there. Yup, I'd be the one losing interest with that shit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NurembergVillan Posted March 12, 2018 Moderator Share Posted March 12, 2018 On 10/03/2018 at 22:00, Demitri_C said: Hours on messenger? That’s your problem right there. He needs to get her to join VT and chat to her on here. Kill two birds with one stone. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davkaus Posted March 12, 2018 Share Posted March 12, 2018 26 minutes ago, NurembergVillan said: He needs to get her to join VT and chat to her on here. Kill two birds with one stone. If a few dozen VT wingmen don't fix this problem, I don't know what will. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted March 12, 2018 Share Posted March 12, 2018 I love most of you but I wouldn't trust you with my love life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodders Posted March 16, 2018 Share Posted March 16, 2018 On 31/01/2018 at 12:46, Rodders said: Hmm, well I think three years is going to end fairly soon. To be fair, it's not completely unexpected, as the issue is Kids. I want them, albeit happy to wait, whereas she has decided she doesn't think she could ever have them. It's been coming, her decision as I knew she had some reservations, but over the past year, I think having more friends with newborns etc. has pushed her into the "oh sh*t,oh sh*t,oh sh*t,oh sh*t," mindset. Not a total surprise as she has had serious anxiety / mental health issues, so I think the prospect of extending responsibility outside what she can manage was always unlikely, but I was hoping as time progressed things may have gotten easier. She has just begun therapy for her long term issues, which is good, but I'm not sure that would make too much difference for us. I mean, the kid thing isn't the only issue, we are different people, and she's always had a low energy ( and not often active) element which has frustrated me - attempts to do stuff like together, like swimming or dancing have foundered as she's become very self conscious and withdraws into herself. She's always someone I think who could happily live their whole life under a blanket! But in her positive column has always been a fundamental decency and loving heart, she likes cosy and comfy so despite her limited ambitions, and our different hobbies, the whole being fundamentally nice has always played heavily in her favour, even if at times I've thought the relationship was probably never more than a solid and reliable 6/10. Her confidence issues and withdrawn nature, often mean that I've ended up doing lot's of the housework too, not that she won't do it, but when she's consumed by her own issues, she 'forgets' so little stuff like that has always been an added strain, and so of late I have been thinking regularly of the prospect of dating other people in a distant future which is pretty definitive! My mind is wandering. ... Well, the parting begins, though oddly enough initiated by her. She'd been very anxious for a while again, and it turns out this time, she had been having similar worries about compatability. Added to the kid thing, we both agreed last night to begin breaking up. Feels very weird. After a pretty honest chat, we cuddled, had a giggle over parks and rec and then carried on as normal. It's surreal, as it's as gentle an ending I've known. We'll probably still be living together for a while, but I think we're both slightly relieved, and looking forward to being just close friends instead. Very odd feeling but as break ups go, I think it's going to be one of the nicest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted March 16, 2018 Share Posted March 16, 2018 I'm both sorry and relieved to hear that Rodders. From reading your posts in here, it seems like it has been coming and I'm glad that it was 'nice' as far as break ups go. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted March 16, 2018 Share Posted March 16, 2018 On 3/12/2018 at 09:49, StefanAVFC said: I love most of you but I wouldn't trust you with my love life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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