HanoiVillan Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 31 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: Thanks lads. It is hard when this kind of thing happens as you think sometimes it's yourself that's the problem and thats definitely not the mentality to have. I have to meet her tomorrow to exchange our stuff. My cousin said just literally give her stuff and say good luck in the future without hearing a explanation. Isnt that just abit immature and childish?! Yes, definitely. There's a happy middle ground between pretending she isn't there and begging for her to come back, shoot for that middle bit 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinker Posted February 21, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted February 21, 2017 (edited) 2 hours ago, Demitri_C said: Thanks lads. It is hard when this kind of thing happens as you think sometimes it's yourself that's the problem and thats definitely not the mentality to have. I have to meet her tomorrow to exchange our stuff. My cousin said just literally give her stuff and say good luck in the future without hearing a explanation. Isnt that just abit immature and childish?! Hes spot on for me, why would you want to hear her reasons for not carrying on, or not liking you. It will only be a negative for you if you have been true to yourself in the relationship. When you meet her force a smile and have the attitude that your starting a new adventure , wish her luck, thank her for the time you have shared then skip down the street. My bet is her X has contacted her and she never had closure ( he left her) Edited February 21, 2017 by tinker 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Ingram85 Posted February 21, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 21, 2017 (edited) No need to be horrible but no need to be nice either chap. You're not a door mat. Personally I'd keep it to and say no more than "Hi". "Here's your stuff", "nice knowing you, all the best". That's it. Then I'd walk off and grab some lunch and a coffee or something. Then do her sister utwu. Edited February 21, 2017 by Ingram85 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RimmyJimmer Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 My advice in this situation is to play it with a straight bat....by that I mean be neutral, not nasty, not nice, just do what you have to do. She has the issues so it's down to her to offer any explanation etc. She knows where you are if she wants to pick things up again in the future, but my guess is you will have moved on. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 (edited) 6 hours ago, Demitri_C said: So you remember I highlighted a few months ago some girl randomly added me on Facebook and I shared my concerns? Well we been together three months. No arguments, get on like a house on fire. She says no guy has ever treated her like this or cooked for her like i did. absolutely no problems at all... You know what's coming next. I get a message this morning saying can we meet tomo at Starbucks we need to talk and I need to be honest. So I say if your gonna break it off with me just say. She says "sorry I thought I was ready for a relationship but it's still too soon for me after coming out of a 4.5 relationship I need more time." Yet prior to this she introduced me to her brother and sister in law who absolutely loved me. Made me her +1 for her brothers wedding in Greece (made me book the ticket) and met some of my friends which they all got on great and they loved each other. I will never for the life of me get women. Think I'm just gonna just stay out of relationships Mental mate! She'll be posting "Where are all the nice men?" on Facebook in a few months. Same with my 'situation', as well as @Ginko, there just seems to be no rhyme or reason to how some of their minds work. Oooh I like you but a ) I'm going to ignore you for no reason (me), b ) i like you but a previous work colleague hurt me so I'm going to assume you will do the same (Ginks) or c ) I like you a lot but I don't want to be with you anymore (Dem) Madness. I class myself as a fairly straight forward guy and I play with a straight bat.. If i like someone I say so, I don't get why people need to make relationships so messy and complicated. You like me and I like you and we're both single.... what's the issue? I'm sure some people revel in having complicated personal lives. @Demitri_C sorry to hear about your situation buddy. No need to be nasty to her tomorrow, just be yourself and get your stuff and say goodbye. it's her loss at the end of the day. Edited February 21, 2017 by Xela 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 Itz becuz u ave tiny diks lol Sho dem my monster an dey luv it up da bum lol 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RimmyJimmer Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 1 minute ago, Xela said: Mental mate! She'll be posting "Where are all the nice men?" on Facebook in a few months. Same with my 'situation', as well as @Ginko, there just seems to be rhyme or reason to how some of their minds work. Oooh I like you but a ) I'm going to ignore you for no reason (my example), b ) i like you but a previous work colleague hurt me so I'm going to assume you will do the same (Ginks) or c ) I like you a lot but I don't want to be with you anymore (Dem) Madness. I class myself as a fairly straight forward guy and I play with a straight bat.. If i like someone I say so, I don't get why people need to make relationships so messy and complicated. You like me and I like you and we're both single.... what's the issue? I'm sure some people revel in having complicated personal lives. @Demitri_C sorry to hear about your situation buddy. No need to be nasty to her tomorrow, just be yourself and get your stuff and say goodbye. it's her loss at the end of the day. I think the older/more experienced you get, game playing becomes a real turn off...as in, the first sign of it you just walk away without even trying to work out what they're game is. Someone posted earlier, if you like someone and they like you then get together...it really is as simple as that. If it's not, then try another one 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Davkaus Posted February 21, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 21, 2017 (edited) 13 minutes ago, Xela said: If i like someone I say so, I don't get why people need to make relationships so messy and complicated. You like me and I like you and we're both single.... what's the issue? I had to read this 3 or 4 times before I realised that you weren't actually propositioning @Demitri_C Edited February 21, 2017 by Davkaus 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 8 minutes ago, Davkaus said: I had to read this 3 or 4 times before I realised that you weren't actually propositioning @Demitri_C Well he can cook! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 9 hours ago, hogso said: Fairs. What about whapping it out and asking if she'd like to have a go on it, tried that? You're me, you know that's never worked for us. And I think we're all in agreement that women are mental. Isn't it funny how in all the chick flicks it's the guy who has the commitment issues? Know your audience I guess. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 1 hour ago, Xela said: Mental mate! She'll be posting "Where are all the nice men?" on Facebook in a few months. Same with my 'situation', as well as @Ginko, there just seems to be no rhyme or reason to how some of their minds work. Oooh I like you but a ) I'm going to ignore you for no reason (me), b ) i like you but a previous work colleague hurt me so I'm going to assume you will do the same (Ginks) or c ) I like you a lot but I don't want to be with you anymore (Dem) Madness. I class myself as a fairly straight forward guy and I play with a straight bat.. If i like someone I say so, I don't get why people need to make relationships so messy and complicated. You like me and I like you and we're both single.... what's the issue? I'm sure some people revel in having complicated personal lives. @Demitri_C sorry to hear about your situation buddy. No need to be nasty to her tomorrow, just be yourself and get your stuff and say goodbye. it's her loss at the end of the day. She posts all this bollocks on fb about positive things happen to positive people quotes like that. She doesn't even do what she preaches. Option C is definitely how we are. She likes me I like her what the hell is the problem? Women just like drama in their life and maybe because I didn't cause any she wants some excitement in her life. Who knows? Really don't wanna go back on tinder but looks like gonna have to Cheers @Xela as annoyed as I am I can't be a hole it's just not in my nature. But I'm certainly going to be more ruthless 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 1 hour ago, Ginko said: You're me, you know that's never worked for us. And I think we're all in agreement that women are mental. Isn't it funny how in all the chick flicks it's the guy who has the commitment issues? Know your audience I guess. I see a great comedy character whom switches that around. Her "everything is so complicated.. I don't know if I'm at that level of commitment.. I'm no.." (!) "Nah love, **** that. If you're not up for it then I'm going home to wank over rape porn and finish watching time team, they're in Bishop Auckland looking at brass nails and shit, see ya later". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowychap Posted February 21, 2017 Share Posted February 21, 2017 On 01/02/2017 at 18:34, Xela said: So, online dating. Sites to avoid and sites to recommend? Might as well give it one last go before I chop it off and throw it away. How will you type? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikeyp102 Posted February 22, 2017 Share Posted February 22, 2017 11 hours ago, Demitri_C said: So you remember I highlighted a few months ago some girl randomly added me on Facebook and I shared my concerns? Well we been together three months. No arguments, get on like a house on fire. She says no guy has ever treated her like this or cooked for her like i did. absolutely no problems at all... You know what's coming next. I get a message this morning saying can we meet tomo at Starbucks we need to talk and I need to be honest. So I say if your gonna break it off with me just say. She says "sorry I thought I was ready for a relationship but it's still too soon for me after coming out of a 4.5 relationship I need more time." Yet prior to this she introduced me to her brother and sister in law who absolutely loved me. Made me her +1 for her brothers wedding in Greece (made me book the ticket) and met some of my friends which they all got on great and they loved each other. I will never for the life of me get women. Think I'm just gonna just stay out of relationships Sorry to hear it. They are all crazy, snakes with toys as o said before. Back to pornhub 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted February 22, 2017 Share Posted February 22, 2017 20 hours ago, snowychap said: How will you type? With my willy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HanoiVillan Posted February 22, 2017 Share Posted February 22, 2017 1 hour ago, Xela said: With my willy. Bernard Manning (!) had that as a joke: 'A secretary ran into the bosses office and said "Can I use your dictaphone?" He says, "no, use your finger like everybody else"' 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted February 23, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted February 23, 2017 On 2/13/2017 at 13:19, Stevo985 said: On the plus side @Genie, I'm sending a very nice Chassis buyer to JLR on March 1st. You should introduce yourself She's actually going be a brakes buyer. It's fate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharkyvilla Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 On 5 February 2017 at 17:43, AVFC_Hitz said: There's a poor man's Tinder that I used in Sofia called Badoo. I found a nice girl on there and we're still going casually. However when I loaded it up in Birmingham at Christmas it was full of munters. I got a Badoo request on Facebook from my mate's ex-girlfriend (who I wouldn't touch with someone else's barge pole) yesterday evening. I've never signed up for it, I assume she has and it allows people to contact through Facebook or something? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 UPDATE so this girl messages me last night asking if I am going to get my things. I messaged saying in few days as I am busy over next few days. I also gave her bank details as she has offered to refund me the money for the crete flight. ( I was going to her brothers wedding there) she then said that's fair and "apologies hope your keeping well x" i didn't message back. Then this morning I get a message from her at 9amsaying "morning Demi I feel really bad about how things ended and I've made a rash decision about us that's why I wanted to meet up with you to talk about any worries and doubts that was going through my mind. Would you still like to meet up?" Then she immediately followed it up with "I just feel that everything has been said over text message and we need to have a proper heart to heart to discuss how we feel etc" What do you guys think? My head says one thing my heart is saying another Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Run away, fast. A million and one red flags there. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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