Xela Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 (edited) Sounds like she's a bit of a drama queen. Can't hurt to hear her out though. Just be concrete with your views. Tell her your feelings never changed, it was her that couldn't decide what she wanted. Some people revel in having a chaotic personal life, I'm sure. Edited February 23, 2017 by Xela 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 32 minutes ago, Xela said: Sounds like she's a bit of a drama queen. Can't hurt to hear her out though. Just be concrete with your views. Tell her your feelings never changed, it was her that couldn't decide what she wanted. Some people revel in having a chaotic personal life, I'm sure. I think she just made a mistake sometimes it happens. I will hear her out 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
V01 Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Of course she did, but then she fixed it by dumping you... 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 7 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: I think she just made a mistake sometimes it happens. I will hear her out Good man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodders Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 play it by ear and trust your instinct. Things were going well for 3 months and then she had a panic attack. That happens, for whatever reason, people develop anxieties, have dodgy experiences. As an isolated incident it's resolvable and move on-able. If you decide you'd want to patch things up again, great, but flag up you don't want to go through this again. Obviously. There could be other reasons, why, but there's no point putting motivations to her without knowing the facts. I'd obviously be inclined to be a bit wary initially which is inevitable with something like that, so I guess that's something to consider. But you'll know her best, I'd meet her and see what you think. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RimmyJimmer Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 49 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: UPDATE so this girl messages me last night asking if I am going to get my things. I messaged saying in few days as I am busy over next few days. I also gave her bank details as she has offered to refund me the money for the crete flight. ( I was going to her brothers wedding there) she then said that's fair and "apologies hope your keeping well x" i didn't message back. Then this morning I get a message from her at 9amsaying "morning Demi I feel really bad about how things ended and I've made a rash decision about us that's why I wanted to meet up with you to talk about any worries and doubts that was going through my mind. Would you still like to meet up?" Then she immediately followed it up with "I just feel that everything has been said over text message and we need to have a proper heart to heart to discuss how we feel etc" What do you guys think? My head says one thing my heart is saying another 'She' needs to have a heart to heart to discuss how 'she' feels, nothing has changed for you. Stick to your guns mate and don't get dragged into some emotional tug of war. She's the one with the issues, your feelings seem pretty clear to me. Good luck 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Just now, Rodders said: play it by ear and trust your instinct. Things were going well for 3 months and then she had a panic attack. That happens, for whatever reason, people develop anxieties, have dodgy experiences. As an isolated incident it's resolvable and move on-able. If you decide you'd want to patch things up again, great, but flag up you don't want to go through this again. Obviously. There could be other reasons, why, but there's no point putting motivations to her without knowing the facts. I'd obviously be inclined to be a bit wary initially which is inevitable with something like that, so I guess that's something to consider. But you'll know her best, I'd meet her and see what you think. Thanks rodders great advice mate. And cheers @Xela I think you guys are right should hear her out and see what happens. And of course I will make it known of we are going to get it back together be on my terms Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 1 minute ago, RimmyJimmer said: 'She' needs to have a heart to heart to discuss how 'she' feels, nothing has changed for you. Stick to your guns mate and don't get dragged into some emotional tug of war. She's the one with the issues, your feelings seem pretty clear to me. Good luck Thanks bro 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davkaus Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Well, I hope it works out if you go and have a chat and listen to her side, but I can't help but feel she just wants to prove she can win you back as you've not been chasing her after she kicked you to the curb. People want what they can't have. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Heard a cracker of a story from a mate today... one of his other mates had been dating this girl he met on Match since before Christmas. He'd been single for a while, she was single after coming out of a tough marriage a year earlier and has a kid. Anyway, getting on like a house on fire, he's introduced her to his family, he gets on well with the kid and you know, he's happy. She told him she was off to India for a week with her sister to look at wedding venues (for her sister) and as a result she wouldn't really be contactable. A bit odd but he's a trusting guy. Anyway, he's found out (not sure how) that she's gone away for a week in Cornwall with another guy she met on Match! Baffling creatures. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 3 minutes ago, Davkaus said: Well, I hope it works out if you go and have a chat and listen to her side, but I can't help but feel she just wants to prove she can win you back as you've not been chasing her after she kicked you to the curb. People want what they can't have. This is very true but mate I am not going to make it easy for her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Demitri_C Posted February 23, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 23, 2017 1 minute ago, Xela said: Heard a cracker of a story from a mate today... one of his other mates had been dating this girl he met on Match since before Christmas. He'd been single for a while, she was single after coming out of a tough marriage a year earlier and has a kid. Anyway, getting on like a house on fire, he's introduced her to his family, he gets on well with the kid and you know, he's happy. She told him she was off to India for a week with her sister to look at wedding venues (for her sister) and as a result she wouldn't really be contactable. A bit odd but he's a trusting guy. Anyway, he's found out (not sure how) that she's gone away for a week in Cornwall with another guy she met on Match! Baffling creatures. Fck me what a prick your mate should act like he doesn't knows. Take her to the most expensive restaurant near him order the most priciest alcohol and meal then go to the toilet and never come back 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 It's madness isn't it? Obviously it happens the other way as well with men stringing women on but why do people do that?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davkaus Posted February 23, 2017 Share Posted February 23, 2017 Ideally after letting the other bloke know, if he can. No doubt that poor bastard is paying for the trip and has no idea she's taking him for a ride, either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post rjw63 Posted February 24, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted February 24, 2017 21 hours ago, Demitri_C said: UPDATE... What do you guys think? My head says one thing my heart is saying another 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 So guys tell me has their been a sex position you haven't tried but always wanted to but for some reason hasn't happened? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post AVFC_Hitz Posted March 3, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted March 3, 2017 2 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: So guys tell me has their been a sex position you haven't tried but always wanted to but for some reason hasn't happened? Ive always wanted to be rogered against the fridge but since my dad broke his arm he hasn't got the strength. 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 30 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: So guys tell me has their been a sex position you haven't tried but always wanted to but for some reason hasn't happened? suspended between two trees, doing an amputee's stump dimple, whilst an array of clowns and forest based animals look on 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 46 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: So guys tell me has their been a sex position you haven't tried but always wanted to but for some reason hasn't happened? Anything with a woman, who didn't turn out to be a mentalist. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 I never did the reverse cowgirl before until last night quite enjoyable 16 minutes ago, Xela said: Anything with a woman, who didn't turn out to be a mentalist. Can't help you there mate they are all nuts 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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