ender4 Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 So this is a weird question but I’m a little bit confused with life right now and I’m hoping the VT hive mind has some ideas. In my life, I’ve always had a goal. Started with educational goals, then career goals, then family goals, then material goals, then experiences goals. So started by getting a degree, then getting a job and advancing my career, then meeting my wife, getting married, buying a house together, having kids, buying decent cars, going on regular holidays. And now I’ve just got the point where everything in life is settled, just paid off my mortgage, have 2 decent cars, go on 3 nice holidays a year, have a job that I really enjoy. So what to do with life now? Feels like I’ve completed this game. Also, I’m on a decent salary and I’m not a big spender. I’m pretty content with what I own and spend money on. My pension pot is healthy and I have savings. I’m not into flash cars or have any expensive tastes or hobbies. What do I spend my money on now? Do I make myself spend on ‘bigger & better’ things? Or just keep saving for no purpose. Im a little freaked out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr_Dogg Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 Helloooo mid life crisis. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob182 Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 Just enjoy it, I guess? Spoiler And post humble brags on the internet 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fightoffyour Posted January 31 VT Supporter Share Posted January 31 Put it all on black Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xann Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 Enjoy for the years before the shit hits the fan. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bickster Posted January 31 Moderator Share Posted January 31 Live fast, die young Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Popular Post Anthony Posted January 31 VT Supporter Popular Post Share Posted January 31 (edited) The one resource you do have, in ever diminishing amounts, is time. Spend your limited time with people you love, doing things you love. Try to live in the moment, not always thinking of the next step. Edited January 31 by Anthony typo 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Albrighton Posted January 31 VT Supporter Share Posted January 31 I’d give a bit to charity. Whatever you feel comfortable with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dAVe80 Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 Get yourself a massive vinyl record collecting habit. That'll soon empty your pockets of any disposable income you've got kicking about. If I get in a position where I've got some spare money and/or time, I think I'd start following the England cricket team around the world. Get to watch the cricket and visit some lovely, warm places. I get if you're not into cricket, that might not be for you though. Can you start doing more of the things you enjoy? Have you got time to do some volunteering? Could you get invovled in a local community group? If you're in a trade union, could you start getting more involved in that? Are you into local politics? Could you try and become a local councillor? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 1 hour ago, Mark Albrighton said: I’d give a bit to @rjw63Whatever you feel comfortable with. Yes I agree wholeheartedly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 @Anthony is bang on, the one thing you can't buy is time. Use it. Can you retire yet? Maybe go down to 3 or 4 days a week? You are in a wonderful position, that 95% of the rest of the population would love to be in. Down to your hard work and non-materialistic ways, so you deserve to be in that position. Enjoy the spoils now. If you don't want to buy stuff, then you can create memories instead. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tayls Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 You don’t necessarily need to do anything. You have kids, focus on them instead. (Not saying you don’t already of course). Treat them to the nice things, make their lives easier, because they sure as hell aren’t getting help from the government. As soon as I had my kids, first at 29, my goal was pretty clear. Everything I have done in the past six years of my life is for them, and it will be going forward as well. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MCU Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 4 hours ago, ender4 said: So this is a weird question but I’m a little bit confused with life right now and I’m hoping the VT hive mind has some ideas. In my life, I’ve always had a goal. Started with educational goals, then career goals, then family goals, then material goals, then experiences goals. So started by getting a degree, then getting a job and advancing my career, then meeting my wife, getting married, buying a house together, having kids, buying decent cars, going on regular holidays. And now I’ve just got the point where everything in life is settled, just paid off my mortgage, have 2 decent cars, go on 3 nice holidays a year, have a job that I really enjoy. So what to do with life now? Feels like I’ve completed this game. Also, I’m on a decent salary and I’m not a big spender. I’m pretty content with what I own and spend money on. My pension pot is healthy and I have savings. I’m not into flash cars or have any expensive tastes or hobbies. What do I spend my money on now? Do I make myself spend on ‘bigger & better’ things? Or just keep saving for no purpose. Im a little freaked out. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foreveryoung Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 4 hours ago, ender4 said: So this is a weird question but I’m a little bit confused with life right now and I’m hoping the VT hive mind has some ideas. In my life, I’ve always had a goal. Started with educational goals, then career goals, then family goals, then material goals, then experiences goals. So started by getting a degree, then getting a job and advancing my career, then meeting my wife, getting married, buying a house together, having kids, buying decent cars, going on regular holidays. And now I’ve just got the point where everything in life is settled, just paid off my mortgage, have 2 decent cars, go on 3 nice holidays a year, have a job that I really enjoy. So what to do with life now? Feels like I’ve completed this game. Also, I’m on a decent salary and I’m not a big spender. I’m pretty content with what I own and spend money on. My pension pot is healthy and I have savings. I’m not into flash cars or have any expensive tastes or hobbies. What do I spend my money on now? Do I make myself spend on ‘bigger & better’ things? Or just keep saving for no purpose. Im a little freaked out. Life problems aye? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ender4 Posted January 31 Author Share Posted January 31 3 minutes ago, MCU said: How old are you if you don't mind me asking? Getting close to my mid-40’s 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ender4 Posted January 31 Author Share Posted January 31 28 minutes ago, Xela said: @Anthony is bang on, the one thing you can't buy is time. Use it. Can you retire yet? Maybe go down to 3 or 4 days a week? You are in a wonderful position, that 95% of the rest of the population would love to be in. Down to your hard work and non-materialistic ways, so you deserve to be in that position. Enjoy the spoils now. If you don't want to buy stuff, then you can create memories instead. Still 20+ years to my official retirement, though I will retire much much earlier. The other issue with that is that I really (currently) enjoy my job. I also can’t cut down hours as my workload wouldn’t change whether I do three, four or five days at work. It’s flexible enough that I can do whatever hours I need to do to get the job done. Im a little stuck what memories I want to create. Obviously time with the kids is great, especially the holidays. But what else to do unless I go crazy with a full-blown midlife crisis mode. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 (edited) 4 hours ago, ender4 said: So this is a weird question but I’m a little bit confused with life right now and I’m hoping the VT hive mind has some ideas. In my life, I’ve always had a goal. Started with educational goals, then career goals, then family goals, then material goals, then experiences goals. So started by getting a degree, then getting a job and advancing my career, then meeting my wife, getting married, buying a house together, having kids, buying decent cars, going on regular holidays. And now I’ve just got the point where everything in life is settled, just paid off my mortgage, have 2 decent cars, go on 3 nice holidays a year, have a job that I really enjoy. So what to do with life now? Feels like I’ve completed this game. Also, I’m on a decent salary and I’m not a big spender. I’m pretty content with what I own and spend money on. My pension pot is healthy and I have savings. I’m not into flash cars or have any expensive tastes or hobbies. What do I spend my money on now? Do I make myself spend on ‘bigger & better’ things? Or just keep saving for no purpose. Im a little freaked out. Do whatever you’re comfortable with. If you ain’t a spender you ain’t a spender although I have heard of people saying that when they get diagnosed terminal that they wish they had spent more of their money having fun. You’ve got kids so you’ll no doubt find comfort knowing they will have a bit when you’ve gone. How about putting a bit of your time back into the planet and the less fortunate ? Not saying donate money but you could get a lot of satisfaction helping a good cause with your time, but maybe that’s not you. Edited January 31 by Rugeley Villa 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr_Dogg Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 Make a bucket list and start ticking them off. Even if it's just a travel bucket list. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fruitvilla Posted January 31 Share Posted January 31 4 hours ago, ender4 said: So what to do with life now? Feels like I’ve completed this game. Help others? ... A Rotary club near you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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