Popular Post AlwaysAVFC Posted January 19, 2016 Popular Post Share Posted January 19, 2016 2 hours ago, Demitri_C said: happy to hear you got some success there mate! Good luck with the proposal. Never tried okcupid seems to be getting abit more serious with this girl for me now. she asking if i have told anyone about her yet and said she is ok with that if i do..god i feel that conversation of where is this going coming soon... Or she has rumbled you and knows you've put her picture on a Villa forum and is now testing you I've used Ok Cupid, it was alright. I met a girl in Bristol who herself had a gigantic pair of Bristols. She was decent looking but over an hour late, not exactly smart and with a very strong Bristolian accent, I'd have normally not bothered with her but I had to get em out and have a play, rude not to. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 On 17/01/2016 at 15:54, Demitri_C said: I had my first shit test from that indian girl yesterday. She said what time we meeting, i say after villa game. She said come meet me now and im like no way as we discussed footie 1st then date after. She then was like in a joking way so football is more important than me? I was like hell yeah!! The she laughed and then asked what time game finished and end of me missing villa game talk. Be warned men, women do this kind of shit early on to see what they can get away with! It's not just women!! I went out with a guy who called me one night to ask if I wanted to go out on the Saturday and I said no because I was going to the Villa and he said pretty much the above - along the lines of so you're saying football is more important than me then? I think the following silence spoke volumes and needless to say the relationship didn't last after that. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOF Posted January 19, 2016 Moderator Share Posted January 19, 2016 17 hours ago, Xela said: Following on from my post above, I need to get back in the dating game. I had kind of closed myself off for a number of years from the world of dating as I kidded myself I was quite happy on my own but that changed when a young lady showed an interest in me a couple of months ago. Suddenly, having a very attractive girl express a desire to know me better, awoke feelings in me that had laid dormant for too long and made me realise I really miss those feelings you get when someone likes you and you really like them back. The excitement of seeing them, getting messages from them and all those things that you feel in the early stages of a prospective romance. Ultimately, nothing really happened as there were too many insurmountable obstacles to overcome, which I won't bore you with, but if I have learned anything from it, it is that I do want to meet someone. I haven't signed up to a dating site yet but have browsed POF, as you can search on there without registering and I am surprised at the large number of very nice sounding, and looking, single women on there who are fairly local to me, so that gives me hope for the future. I get that the odd time and then I remember how much I like my free time. I'm way too selfish with my time to put my name back in the hat as it were And it's not fair to string someone along if you don't want to do the relationship thing properly. One day I'll miss it and the next day I won't. Now I'm open to the possibility and if someone comes along and bowls me over then great, but I'm quite content for now and I don't see it changing for the foreseeable. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 3 minutes ago, BOF said: I get that the odd time and then I remember how much I like my free time. I'm way too selfish with my time to put my name back in the hat as it were And it's not fair to string someone along if you don't want to do the relationship thing properly. One day I'll miss it and the next day I won't. Now I'm open to the possibility and if someone comes along and bowls me over then great, but I'm quite content for now and I don't see it changing for the foreseeable. Errr, I thought you were married... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOF Posted January 19, 2016 Moderator Share Posted January 19, 2016 7 minutes ago, rjw63 said: Errr, I thought you were married... Errr, we need to have a chat about that ... Your information is, how shall we say, out of date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 I tried POF very, very briefly but was really put off in the first week by the ridiculous messages I received. Do guys really think a first message saying, 'Hey, do you fancy a shag?' is a good thing? I'm not a particularly great catch but still had a few hundred messages in the first week alone. Attractive, younger females must get thousands. I just found the whole site a bit tragic to be honest. I love the idea of speed dating though so maybe that's something to try in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 25 minutes ago, H said: I tried POF very, very briefly but was really put off in the first week by the ridiculous messages I received. Do guys really think a first message saying, 'Hey, do you fancy a shag?' is a good thing? I'm not a particularly great catch but still had a few hundred messages in the first week alone. Attractive, younger females must get thousands. I just found the whole site a bit tragic to be honest. I love the idea of speed dating though so maybe that's something to try in the future. So as a female what would make you reply? a cheeky line, a introduction of himself or a simple line like hey how you doing? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 1 minute ago, Demitri_C said: So as a female what would make you reply? a cheeky line, a introduction of himself or a simple line like hey how you doing? Definitely not the latter, I'd hate that! I had many, many messages that simply said 'Hello, how are you' and I ignored them all. I mean, come on, make a slight effort! I'm not your normal run of the mill female I don't think so maybe my answer isn't the norm but a cheeky line would probably make me cringe so I'd go for the introduction (if it was of interest) or just something perhaps based on my own profile to show they had actually read it rather than were just contacting every single new female in the area that registers (which does seem to happen!). So, maybe if I'd mentioned music or football they could comment on that, ask who I supported and who they supported, or what bands they were in to. The two guys I spoke to most from PoF, the first had started with a conversation about music and that the bands I'd listed sounded like his record collection which appealed to me, and the second was talking about Birmingham and pubs etc in the city centre, asking if they were still any good. It's pretty basic stuff but I'd much rather that as a conversation starter than 'You look well fit'. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post lapal_fan Posted January 19, 2016 Popular Post Share Posted January 19, 2016 Hi, I'm Lapal_fan and as soon as I saw that you're into antique accordions and soft shelled molluscs, I knew you were the transgender person for me! I love the feeling of sand running over my left testicle, do you? You can write to me via the Royal Mail, I don't do technology. I also love walks on the beach and mutual fisting. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 14 hours ago, Stevo985 said: I tried it once, ironically because I got invited by a girl I wanted to sleep with. It was at The Vaults in Birmingham. Maybe it was a one off, but let me tell you, the men there hit the jackpot. There was me and one other guy and we were head and shoulders above everyone there in terms of looks and personality. Seriously. And I'm no oil painting. The other guys there were ugly weirdos. The girls on the other hand, were smoking. Well, I'd say 12-15 of the 20 there were good looking. We cleaned up. Unfortunately, I was so intent on bedding the girl I'd been invited by I never followed up any of the other leads Went to the one at the vaults too. Agree with the above Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dAVe80 Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 On 17 January 2016 at 15:54, Demitri_C said: I had my first shit test from that indian girl yesterday. She said what time we meeting, i say after villa game. She said come meet me now and im like no way as we discussed footie 1st then date after. She then was like in a joking way so football is more important than me? I was like hell yeah!! The she laughed and then asked what time game finished and end of me missing villa game talk. Be warned men, women do this kind of shit early on to see what they can get away with! What's the old joke again? Woman says to husband: "You know, I sometimes think you love the Villa more than me?" Husband replies: "I love the blues more than I love you." 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 2 hours ago, H said: Definitely not the latter, I'd hate that! I had many, many messages that simply said 'Hello, how are you' and I ignored them all. I mean, come on, make a slight effort! I'm not your normal run of the mill female I don't think so maybe my answer isn't the norm but a cheeky line would probably make me cringe so I'd go for the introduction (if it was of interest) or just something perhaps based on my own profile to show they had actually read it rather than were just contacting every single new female in the area that registers (which does seem to happen!). So, maybe if I'd mentioned music or football they could comment on that, ask who I supported and who they supported, or what bands they were in to. The two guys I spoke to most from PoF, the first had started with a conversation about music and that the bands I'd listed sounded like his record collection which appealed to me, and the second was talking about Birmingham and pubs etc in the city centre, asking if they were still any good. It's pretty basic stuff but I'd much rather that as a conversation starter than 'You look well fit'. Villa Park as a first date? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 3 hours ago, H said: Definitely not the latter, I'd hate that! I had many, many messages that simply said 'Hello, how are you' and I ignored them all. I mean, come on, make a slight effort! I'm not your normal run of the mill female I don't think so maybe my answer isn't the norm but a cheeky line would probably make me cringe so I'd go for the introduction (if it was of interest) or just something perhaps based on my own profile to show they had actually read it rather than were just contacting every single new female in the area that registers (which does seem to happen!). So, maybe if I'd mentioned music or football they could comment on that, ask who I supported and who they supported, or what bands they were in to. The two guys I spoke to most from PoF, the first had started with a conversation about music and that the bands I'd listed sounded like his record collection which appealed to me, and the second was talking about Birmingham and pubs etc in the city centre, asking if they were still any good. It's pretty basic stuff but I'd much rather that as a conversation starter than 'You look well fit'. The thing is a lot of men on these sites have either low confidence, no game etc so they probably use that latter approach as they are polite and trying to come across like a an ahole like certain ones do! The man probably instead of thinking he is making no effort feels he has balls for messaging the woman. It goes to show how differently men and women think! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Xela Posted January 19, 2016 Popular Post Share Posted January 19, 2016 (edited) 21 hours ago, Shropshire Lad said: I was on POF for about a week, but I found it dispiriting, although that could have been just the mood I was in at the time. Xela, have you ever tried speed dating? I went with some mates a couple of years ago and it was a good experience. It ultimately came to nowt for me, but I really enjoyed it. I was pleasantly surprised at the number of nice, attractive girls who turned up. At the very least it's an easy, fun bit of warm up for getting back out there properly (if you felt you needed the practice that is!). I have tried speed dating. July 2005 (I have a 'Rain Man' memory for events!). Pitcher and Piano in Brum. About 15 women from memory and a lot of them very nice. I had 4 or 5 matches and dated 2 of the girls I met, although nothing really serious. After the event finished, it was still fairly early so about 10 of us decided to carry on in our group up Broad Street. I was there with my friend and there was a few other lads and 3 or 4 women. I'm not kidding you, within about 10 minutes of being in the next venue (think it was Rococo, or whatever was there in 2005) this girl, lets call her 'Gemma', because I think that is what her name was, was trying to suck the saliva off my tonsils. If it wasn't for the fact I had to leave early as I had a 6am flight to Amsterdam, I'm pretty sure she would have had the pleasure of my distinctly average sized penis, thrust erratically inside her for a period of no more than four minutes. Alas, it wasn't to be and we had a few dates the following week and in the cold sober light of day, she wasn't as appealing as before and I actually remember thinking she wasn't actually that nice of a person as she had that snarky, bitter take on life that damaged women usually have. I also dated someone else, a girl called Lisa, but there was no spark, but she was generally a pleasant girl. The mate I went with, ended up dating a girl he matched with, for about 6 months. So, my only experience of it was a good one. Edited January 19, 2016 by Xela 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 22 hours ago, Demitri_C said: Mate it's a shame they haven't launched that doubles app yet I think we can make good wingmen for each other Im on pof dont really like it. I find it more weirdos and egos. But yes xela get back in the game.being single is good for a while but I think after that I think you can't beat when you have the thrill of getting to know someone A dating doubles app? What's all that about? My mate recommends Match as a decent site, and he did also say that POF does have a few attention seekers and ego maniacs on there. The best ones are meant to be the paid ones, as that filters the chaff out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 20 hours ago, Demitri_C said: I thought about a weekend break away with that girl I'm seeing but just think it's too soon. When does it become not too soon? 6 months onwards? I went away with my ex, to Paris, about 8 weeks after our first date. It just felt right and didn't feel too soon at al. I don't think there is a set time, if it feels right, go for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 4 hours ago, BOF said: I get that the odd time and then I remember how much I like my free time. I'm way too selfish with my time to put my name back in the hat as it were And it's not fair to string someone along if you don't want to do the relationship thing properly. One day I'll miss it and the next day I won't. Now I'm open to the possibility and if someone comes along and bowls me over then great, but I'm quite content for now and I don't see it changing for the foreseeable. I've had enough of the 'me' time now. Been years since I've been involved in what you would call a serious relationship! 4 hours ago, H said: I tried POF very, very briefly but was really put off in the first week by the ridiculous messages I received. Do guys really think a first message saying, 'Hey, do you fancy a shag?' is a good thing? I'm not a particularly great catch but still had a few hundred messages in the first week alone. Attractive, younger females must get thousands. I just found the whole site a bit tragic to be honest. I love the idea of speed dating though so maybe that's something to try in the future. I do feel sorry for the genuine women on dating sites, like you said, bombarded with messages, and 90% must be just crude messages or a copy and paste generic message. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Albrighton Posted January 19, 2016 VT Supporter Share Posted January 19, 2016 3 hours ago, Xela said: So, my only experience of it was a good one. My speed dating was in the upstairs of All Bar One. See, if my experience was as good as yours, I would have tried my luck at another speed dating night soon after. I had zero interest in the saliva on my tonsils but it was a worthwhile evening regardless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Albrighton Posted January 20, 2016 VT Supporter Share Posted January 20, 2016 5 hours ago, Xela said: I'm pretty sure she would have had the pleasure of my distinctly average sized penis, thrust erratically inside her for a period of no more than four minutes. Also - "distinctly average"??? "four minutes"??? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 14 hours ago, Xela said: A dating doubles app? What's all that about? My mate recommends Match as a decent site, and he did also say that POF does have a few attention seekers and ego maniacs on there. The best ones are meant to be the paid ones, as that filters the chaff out. On Dragons Den a few weeks ago these two guys came up with a app idea similar to tinder but instead of one person you sign up as doubles (to take away the awkwardness) and you go out as a foursome than a twosome. I actually think that is a really good idea. One of the dragons (I think it was Peter Jones) invested so I would imagine this app will be big in next few years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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