Popular Post Xela Posted January 20, 2016 Popular Post Share Posted January 20, 2016 6 minutes ago, Morley_crosses_to_Withe said: Like Alex has any friends let alone one that's female LOL 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Mark Albrighton Posted January 20, 2016 VT Supporter Popular Post Share Posted January 20, 2016 Ahhhhh!!! "Xela" = Alex!!!!! Blimey. I've been thinking it was like the male version of Xena warrior princess or something. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HanoiVillan Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 17 minutes ago, Shropshire Lad said: Ahhhhh!!! "Xela" = Alex!!!!! Blimey. I've been thinking it was like the male version of Xena warrior princess or something. Me too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Ginko Posted January 20, 2016 Popular Post Share Posted January 20, 2016 Oh he is, just imagine Xena with a beard, gout in one of her legs and extremely delicate bowels and there you have it: Xela - Keyboard Warrior Princess. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 1 minute ago, Ginko said: Oh he is, just imagine Xena with a beard, gout in one of her legs and extremely delicate bowels and there you have it: Xela - Keyboard Warrior Princess. Its tendonitis not gout! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
V01 Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 I thought it was a subtle way to tell us he's backwards, then I read his posts. There's more subtlety in a MON side. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
choffer Posted January 20, 2016 VT Supporter Share Posted January 20, 2016 1 hour ago, Xela said: Some bars have singles nights as well. A female fried of mine went to one the other week at the Velvet Rooms on Broad St and said it was a decent night She's currently seeing a guy she met that night. Its an alternative to speed dating but I guess still relies on you actually approaching women and speaking, which might not be ideal for shy people. They're not always fun. I went to one a few years ago at some fancy bar by the river in Fulham. Initially the odds seemed good but it was cougar-central and I genuinely felt like prey with these 50-yr old women circling , each pass getting closer. I lasted about 40 minutes before it became too unnerving and I bailed. Genuinely terrifying experience. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 One thing I'm sure ALL of VT can agree on, is that Xela is just a big silly tit, with absolutely no friends and owns a waifu pillow. Now let none of us speak of, or to, him again. Then hopefully he will leave and close the door behind him. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 On 19/01/2016 at 16:43, Wainy316 said: Villa Park as a first date? You asking? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
H Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 On 19/01/2016 at 17:50, Demitri_C said: The thing is a lot of men on these sites have either low confidence, no game etc so they probably use that latter approach as they are polite and trying to come across like a an ahole like certain ones do! The man probably instead of thinking he is making no effort feels he has balls for messaging the woman. It goes to show how differently men and women think! I really don't think that's the case with sites like POF. You only need to scroll through the profile photos to see that and that goes for the men and the women. However, if someone is low on confidence and trying to be polite, that's all very well but you can't possibly think someone is going to reply if you merely say 'Hello'? You don't need to act like a tit, just ask a question or comment on one of the interests the person you're contacting has. Men surely are aware that these women are going to get more than one message off many different guys so they're immediately going to be filtered out if their message doesn't actually contain anything. And if they think the woman is going to respond purely based on their photo and a word, they can't be that low on confidence... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 4 hours ago, H said: You asking? Erm....Yes. Who needs POF when you have VT? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 1 hour ago, Wainy316 said: Erm....Yes. Who needs POF when you have VT? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PieFacE Posted January 22, 2016 VT Supporter Share Posted January 22, 2016 So generally speaking, how many dates do people go on before they become "exclusive" or whatever you call it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hogso Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 (edited) OMG man it depends on your feels, only yer heart can tell you tha troof x 3 or 4. Edited January 22, 2016 by hogso 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 31 minutes ago, PieFacE said: So generally speaking, how many dates do people go on before they become "exclusive" or whatever you call it... Hmm i can only speak from experience and mine is I dont assume we are exclusive until she brings it up in conversation. Therefore I am open to other women until then...I wouldnt bring it up personally as i did once and it backfired as showed I was keen on her and then she had the power as she knew I was interested (waiting for Stevo to tell me to stop over thinking things :P) I kind of will be in your boat soon as I gather from what the girl i am seeing she really likes me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 23 hours ago, H said: I really don't think that's the case with sites like POF. You only need to scroll through the profile photos to see that and that goes for the men and the women. However, if someone is low on confidence and trying to be polite, that's all very well but you can't possibly think someone is going to reply if you merely say 'Hello'? You don't need to act like a tit, just ask a question or comment on one of the interests the person you're contacting has. Men surely are aware that these women are going to get more than one message off many different guys so they're immediately going to be filtered out if their message doesn't actually contain anything. And if they think the woman is going to respond purely based on their photo and a word, they can't be that low on confidence... But it depends on the profile really, there is a lot of profiles where there is nothing for you to feed on. if a man has low self confidence he will approach it differently to someone who has confidence and understands how to attract women. I am not saying just a "hey" is good not at all. But most people I know who have said something along the lines of "hiya how you doing today" get blanked. Some people find it difficult with the initial first message hence why they send a response like that. Sometimes even when you mention an interest in their profile you still get blanked!! Women look at it differently to men, if men get a message from a woman first its like wow she is different she has courage to message me first. But for a woman (probably because they receive a large amount of messages) its like filtering to see which guy sounds different or can handle me. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PieFacE Posted January 22, 2016 VT Supporter Share Posted January 22, 2016 22 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: Hmm i can only speak from experience and mine is I dont assume we are exclusive until she brings it up in conversation. Therefore I am open to other women until then...I wouldnt bring it up personally as i did once and it backfired as showed I was keen on her and then she had the power as she knew I was interested (waiting for Stevo to tell me to stop over thinking things :P) I kind of will be in your boat soon as I gather from what the girl i am seeing she really likes me. Yeah it's an awkward one. Tomorrow will be our 7th date and it just so happens a lot of my friends and family are out drinking together so we're going out with them and doing the whole introducing thing which is a bit nerving. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 7 minutes ago, PieFacE said: Yeah it's an awkward one. Tomorrow will be our 7th date and it just so happens a lot of my friends and family are out drinking together so we're going out with them and doing the whole introducing thing which is a bit nerving. If she is willing to meet your family then I would say thats a very good sign for you if your happy to get in a relationship with her. A girl who wasn't interested in being gf/bf would be terrified to meet all your friends and family. Good luck bud 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HanoiVillan Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 42 minutes ago, PieFacE said: Yeah it's an awkward one. Tomorrow will be our 7th date and it just so happens a lot of my friends and family are out drinking together so we're going out with them and doing the whole introducing thing which is a bit nerving. Well, whether you were planning to or not, you've just pretty much guaranteed that now everyone will assume you're exclusive. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PieFacE Posted January 22, 2016 VT Supporter Share Posted January 22, 2016 45 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: If she is willing to meet your family then I would say thats a very good sign for you if your happy to get in a relationship with her. A girl who wasn't interested in being gf/bf would be terrified to meet all your friends and family. Good luck bud Yeah I thought so, she says she's nervous about it but is willing so think that's a good sign. Hope you get your girl to meet the family too Nice one! 10 minutes ago, HanoiVillan said: Well, whether you were planning to or not, you've just pretty much guaranteed that now everyone will assume you're exclusive. Yeah that's okay with me to be fair. I'm not the type of person who's going to date multiple people at once anyway, and I'm pretty sure she's not either so, could be a good thing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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