foreveryoung Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 (edited) Realised probably for the relationship thread. Edited January 23, 2022 by foreveryoung Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xann Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 (edited) I didn't develop a faster than light drive or doomsday weapon. Edited January 23, 2022 by Xann Idiocy 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted January 23, 2022 VT Supporter Share Posted January 23, 2022 17 minutes ago, foreveryoung said: Overambitious. Took a bigger role at work, it pays well, but I am constantly working, even today I will be sending emails ready for tomorrow. Mrs thinks I'm lazy as I never do anything around the house just sit on my computer, what she doesn't realise is I'm working and grafting for our future, but it's starting to impact our relationship as she does not want to be the one looking after the house (she works nights) while I work 12 hours a day. She wishes I stayed in my regular job on half the salary, but I wanna be living the dream, she obviously don't. You're definitely the diametric opposite of me. What is the dream you're going to be living, and when will it happen? I always suspect (perhaps unfairly) that workaholism becomes terminal, and the workaholic will never be able to relax and let it go. Maybe your missus has a more simple dream and wants to live it now, rather than a more luxurious one at some unspecified time in the future? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foreveryoung Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 4 minutes ago, mjmooney said: You're definitely the diametric opposite of me. What is the dream you're going to be living, and when will it happen? I always suspect (perhaps unfairly) that workaholism becomes terminal, and the workaholic will never be able to relax and let it go. Maybe your missus has a more simple dream and wants to live it now, rather than a more luxurious one at some unspecified time in the future? I actually deleted this as I thought it more for the relationship thread. I do think me Mrs wants the simple life, but then I think maybe she just wants me to do more around the house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PussEKatt Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 That I am too disorganised,also quite often I will write something I am interested in on a scrap of paper then cant find the piece of paper.Also sometimes the wife will ask me if I found that ( thing ) that I was looking for and I will repli,I know exactly where it is.Its in my man cave,I just dont know where in my man cave. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted January 23, 2022 VT Supporter Share Posted January 23, 2022 Just now, PussEKatt said: That I am too disorganised,also quite often I will write something I am interested in on a scrap of paper then cant find the piece of paper.Also sometimes the wife will ask me if I found that ( thing ) that I was looking for and I will repli,I know exactly where it is.Its in my man cave,I just dont know where in my man cave. My wife misplaces stuff WAY more than me. Glasses and keys being the main items. Every bloody day. No method, that's the problem. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bickster Posted January 23, 2022 Moderator Share Posted January 23, 2022 3 minutes ago, mjmooney said: My wife misplaces stuff WAY more than me. Glasses and keys being the main items. Every bloody day. No method, that's the problem. One of my often used phrases around the house... "Where does *insert item* live this week" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seat68 Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 I realise I dwell on things. A throw away email or comment will stick with me longer than it should. It might mean nothing to some but it will stick with me. I hate that as it goes against my personality. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anthony Posted January 23, 2022 VT Supporter Share Posted January 23, 2022 (edited) 4 hours ago, mjmooney said: Actually, elaborating on the laziness thing, my problem was always that I was a dreamer and a procrastinator. It started at school, and carried on right through university and work life. If I had a task to do - an essay to write, say - I'd do anything to avoid it until the very last minute (and often beyond). I'd be daydreaming, reading, listening to music, socialising - but never fully enjoying it, due to the nagging anxiety incurred by the knowledge of the looming deadline. I'd finally rush the job in a state of cold sweat, swearing that I'd never put myself through it again, and that in future I'd do it in good time and be able to properly enjoy relaxing afterwards. But I knew full well that I was kidding myself, and that the pattern would repeat again and again. As it did. Like @villa4europe, I was perfectly capable of doing the job really well, and most of my teachers and bosses knew that and got quite angry with me as a result. You ever had an assessment for ADHD Mike? What you're describing sounds very typical. That said, my approach is "Is this behaviour making me miserable?" If no, then don't worry about it. For me, the answer is yes. It means I can't rely on myself to do anything consistently, which includes having a job. Came across this brief video of a psychiatrist called "Should you be assessed for ADHD?" It particularly focuses on adults. https://youtu.be/lSjHYiTEA4M Edit: doing this on mobile, so excuse me while I work out how to do to the link properly. Edited January 23, 2022 by Anthony Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharkyvilla Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 I wish my shins were a little bit longer. I reckon the rest of my body looks like it should be 6ft but my shins just let me down. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted January 23, 2022 VT Supporter Share Posted January 23, 2022 52 minutes ago, Anthony said: You ever had an assessment for ADHD Mike? What you're describing sounds very typical. That said, my approach is "Is this behaviour making me miserable?" If no, then don't worry about it. For me, the answer is yes. It means I can't rely on myself to do anything consistently, which includes having a job. Nah, it's not that bad. I have a very good attention span for anything that really interests me - and, most importantly, is my choice. I think my problem lies in a sort of misplaced rebellious stubbornness and an anti-authoritarian attitude. Basically I don't like being told what to do, to a rather childish degree. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Mandy Lifeboats Posted January 23, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted January 23, 2022 If I was answering this question when I was in my 20s there would have been a lengthy list. But I am now in my 50s and there's nothing I particularly dislike about myself. I think it's because as you age you care much less about what other people think. On the whole, a I am a good person who is relatively successful in life. I undoubtedly have many faults that irate other people. But that's their problem not mine. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theboyangel Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 (edited) Its not a ‘dislike’ but I know I should be more tolerant with people. If I don’t like or respect someone (especially at work, where I cannot stand laziness and/or incompetence) I can completely blank them out and make minimal effort towards them, other than being polite. I find it difficult to be socially ‘two-faced’ so if I don’t ‘like’ someone, I cannot sit there and happily chat about their weekend etc like others can - I have no interest in them whatsoever as they add nothing to my life… it is a big flaw and know I have been like it since I clashed with one of my primary school teachers. I do try and make more of an effort nowadays Edited January 23, 2022 by theboyangel 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magnkarl Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 I’m way too intense with people I dislike, I meddle in things I shouldn’t with said people. I sometimes feel like a Karen for it. If family or friends need to complain to someone about something they always ask me to do it as I’m like a dog with a bone. I’m a bit like the rocket scientist saying to the neurosurgeon, “well it isn’t rocket science, is it?” The nosey sarcasm needs to be toned down, but what can I say, I’m an old dog with learning difficulties. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
il_serpente Posted January 26, 2022 VT Supporter Share Posted January 26, 2022 On 23/01/2022 at 02:05, mjmooney said: Actually, elaborating on the laziness thing, my problem was always that I was a dreamer and a procrastinator. It started at school, and carried on right through university and work life. If I had a task to do - an essay to write, say - I'd do anything to avoid it until the very last minute (and often beyond). I'd be daydreaming, reading, listening to music, socialising - but never fully enjoying it, due to the nagging anxiety incurred by the knowledge of the looming deadline. I'd finally rush the job in a state of cold sweat, swearing that I'd never put myself through it again, and that in future I'd do it in good time and be able to properly enjoy relaxing afterwards. But I knew full well that I was kidding myself, and that the pattern would repeat again and again. As it did. Like @villa4europe, I was perfectly capable of doing the job really well, and most of my teachers and bosses knew that and got quite angry with me as a result. Are you my long lost older brother? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted January 26, 2022 Share Posted January 26, 2022 Because even though we survive through the struggle that made us, we still look at ourselves through the eyes of the people that hate us. That I have let other people point the finger and tell others and myself they are no good, and lay blame, and undermining the very nature of these undesirable people's being, all because that's the best response these self entitled authorities on matters can muster at the time, and because that's what suits them. I have been complicit in my own withholding back from acting on what I know within myself is going to benefit many down trodden and defeated people who could use a hand and even a voice until they regain or even get acquainted with theirs. All because I'm afraid of it all being for nothing and my looking an arse as a result. If I know deep down we are all here in this together, like it or not, then those moments where I choose to be about myself and my own appearance as an individual by letting a some confrontation and conflict of interest deter me from potentially raising the quality of life for others. The scale to which can only be determined by following through on the idea to fuflill its potential, whether that potential is either ultimately a failed cause or a success, it's not the outcome that matters. A goal allows us direction and it's the path that will let us know if we should aim better or if we were on the right hunt all along. Einstein said its not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer. And my dad once said to me, just because there's poo on the sidewalk, doesn't mean I bend over and smell it. To that I replied, someone's got to clean up. I have spent countless hours and many years immersed in exploring an understanding for this life, from my angle. I'm quite well versed in a thing or two now. I'm still sitting on my hands though because I always stop at what if I fail? When if I followed through it might become, but what if I fly? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted January 26, 2022 Share Posted January 26, 2022 I wouldnt say its a strong dislike but would ahve liked to have been abit taller Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted January 26, 2022 Share Posted January 26, 2022 29 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: I wouldnt say its a strong dislike but would ahve liked to have been abit taller Adonis and Hercules couldn't reach the heights you do @Demitri_C. A levendi as tall as the tallest dendri. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinker Posted January 26, 2022 VT Supporter Share Posted January 26, 2022 Wish I hadn't been so selfish, I look back at things I have done , said and can't understand why I was such a clearing in the woods. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amsterdam_Neil_D Posted January 26, 2022 Share Posted January 26, 2022 Pretty much everything. The fact that I think this is what I dislike most. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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