Demitri_C Posted October 13, 2017 Share Posted October 13, 2017 2 hours ago, Stevo985 said: Definitely not the first one. I'd be bothered, but I think I'd be more bothered by the deceit than the fact she was with someone else. In fact I think I'd be relieved because it would give me a reason to end it. ****. That's not right. Something's broken. I think I've known for a while. Think you know what to do. You can't stay with someone for sympathy as won't help either one of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted October 13, 2017 Share Posted October 13, 2017 11 minutes ago, Stevo985 said: I've been away for a week with work. I'll see what it's like for a bit. Maybe go away for a weekend together? It might just be the rut of everyday life. Go to the Lake District or the Cotswolds and see how it goes... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted October 13, 2017 Share Posted October 13, 2017 Knocking shops are gonna be busy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted October 20, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted October 20, 2017 Had the discussion last night. She was devastated. I truly don't know what I want, but she said that's enough to show that we shouldn't be together. I stayed at my mom's. Going back after work today to have another talk. I think I'm going to suggest some time apart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Both sorry to hear that Ben and also admire you for doing it rather than dragging it on. Let me know if you need a cuddle x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOF Posted October 20, 2017 Moderator Share Posted October 20, 2017 33 minutes ago, Stevo985 said: Had the discussion last night. She was devastated. I truly don't know what I want, but she said that's enough to show that we shouldn't be together. I stayed at my mom's. Going back after work today to have another talk. I think I'm going to suggest some time apart. Ah that's crap, sorry to hear it. But you're probably doing the right thing. It's just that the right thing can be shit at the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 1 hour ago, Stevo985 said: Had the discussion last night. She was devastated. I truly don't know what I want, but she said that's enough to show that we shouldn't be together. I stayed at my mom's. Going back after work today to have another talk. I think I'm going to suggest some time apart. Well, firstly, you need to get your priorities straight, ok? It goes 1. PS4 with me on Fortnite - Last night, I was incredibly upset that I had to play BF1 instead. I mean.. after we came so close on Wednesday night? Why Ben, why? 2. I hope it went as smoothly as it could have done. I'm lucky that I've never had that chat. I remember my second girlfriend when I was about 15 and I just called her, said "umm" for literally 15 minutes and then just said "I think we should break up" and she just told me to **** off and put the phone down. Never heard from her again. So maybe there's something you can maybe take from that?? It should help I reckon. 3. There isn't really a point 3, but I'm going with it - STOP TAKING DRUGS BEN. I watched Gordon Ramsay last night, and don't think I don't know what you're up to when you sniff on PS4 headset. 4. Try not to cry too much, because having your eyes filled with tears will really not help me when I need your help on Fortnite, ok? THINK OF THE TEAM. 5. Get well soon - this too shall pass (Michelangelo, ninja turtle. [1993]) 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted October 20, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted October 20, 2017 (edited) 1. Soz. Might be on tonight. 2. It went as smoothly as can be expected. She's not angry with me, in fact she said thank you for telling her. But she's incredibly upset and I feel like the biggest word removed in the world for hurting her. 3. I'll be taking lots of drugs this weekend. I can promise you that. 4. I've bottled all my tears. They're in the post. jono will deliver them soon. 5. Thanks. Edited October 20, 2017 by Stevo985 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOF Posted October 20, 2017 Moderator Share Posted October 20, 2017 2 minutes ago, Stevo985 said: 3. I'll be taking lots of drugs this weekend. I can promise you that. Alcohol and nicotine doesn't count. Class A or GTFO 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted October 20, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted October 20, 2017 5 minutes ago, BOF said: Alcohol and nicotine doesn't count. Class A or GTFO I agree 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Hope you find hapiness @Stevo985 whatever happens with this one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 So I just read that if you have performed oral sex on more than 5 women you are likely to develop head/neck cancer. Whose screwed on here then??! 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOF Posted October 20, 2017 Moderator Share Posted October 20, 2017 4 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: Hope you find hapiness @Stevo985 whatever happens with this one Sounds like he'll definitely find it this weekend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Click Quote Having oral sex with multiple partners significantly increases risk of head and neck cancer in men, study finds Smoking also adds to the risk of contracting the virus associated with the cancer Andrew Griffin Women who had one or no oral-sex partners during their life were far less likely to contract the specific kind of HPV Men who have oral sex with multiple partners are at a much higher risk of developing head and neck cancer, according to a new study. Those who smoke and have oral sex with five or more partners are the most likely to develop the cancer triggered by exposure to the human papilloma virus, known as HPV, according to new research published in the journal Annals of Oncology. Only 0.7 per cent of men will develop oropharyngeal cancer - cancer of the middle part of the throat - during their lifetimes. But the risk is much lower for women, people who don’t smoke and those who have had oral sex with less than five partners. Head and neck cancer is predicted to overtake cervical cancer in the USA by 2020. Though there are more than 100 kinds of HPV, the danger focuses on three specific kinds: HPV 16 or 18, which trigger cervical cancer, and HPV 16 which triggers oropharyngeal cancer. Doctors hope that proof of the increased risk caused by the two behaviours helps identify the people who are more at risk of developing head and neck cancer. That could be used to more reliably screen the people who are at risk, the researchers behind the study said. “For these reasons, it would be useful to be able to identify healthy people who are most at risk of developing oropharyngeal cancer in order to inform potential screening strategies, if effective screening tests could be developed,” said Amber D’Souza, associate professor at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health and one of the authors of the study. “Most people perform oral sex in their lives, and we found that oral infection with cancer-causing HPV was rare among women regardless of how many oral sex partners they had. Among men who did not smoke, cancer-causing oral HPV was rare among everyone who had less than five oral-sex partners, although the chances of having oral HPV infection did increase with number of oral sexual partners, and with smoking.” Don’t have oral sex while pregnant, warn experts The researchers looked at 13,089 people aged between 20 and 69. They investigated how many of them carried traces of cancer-causing HPV, and compared that with the number of people who would be expected to get the head and neck cancer as a result. The study found that women who had one or no oral-sex partners during their life were far less likely to contract the specific kind of HPV – among them, only 0.5 per cent of non-smokers were affected. But that risk increased among women who had two or more oral sex partners. The same trends rang true among men. For those who had five or more oral sex partners and also smoked, a full 15 per cent of them tested positive for the particular kind of virus. Scientists hope to use those findings to develop screening techniques that catch the head and neck cancers but aren’t burdened by cost, or the fact they would trigger needless anxiety for most people. “Currently there are no tests that could be used for screening people for oropharyngeal cancer. It is a rare cancer and for most healthy people the harms of screening for it would outweigh the benefits because of the problem of false positive test results and consequent anxiety,” said co-author Carole Fakhry, associate professor at the Johns Hopkins Department of Otolaryngology Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOF Posted October 20, 2017 Moderator Share Posted October 20, 2017 So always bring a piece of cling film/saran in your pocket as a tongue johnny just in case? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a m ole Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 give or receive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 That is mental Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xann Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Wash her out with Domestos first. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Milfner Posted October 20, 2017 Share Posted October 20, 2017 Maybe Michael Douglas was right after all... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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