CarewsEyebrowDesigner Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 people that always feel the need to force conversation. there is nothing wrong with not talking, especially if your coversatioal skills are totally reliant on what you have seen on tv, or gossip. yeah, gossip for that matter. they used to cut out peoples tongues for gossiping. quit it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 people that always feel the need to force conversation. there is nothing wrong with not talking, especially if your coversatioal skills are totally reliant on what you have seen on tv, or gossip. yeah, gossip for that matter. they used to cut out peoples tongues for gossiping. quit it. I agree for the most part, although it's situational for me. I'm quite a chatty guy, in certain situations silence can be uncomfortable and awkward for me. It's just a matter of reading the situation. If I was on a date then I would try to force the conversation because obviously people are shy when first getting to know each other. But you're right, there's nothing wrong with silence in certain situations. As for gossiping, I agree. However, slightly related, I would say that bitching is a little different. It's not nice, but often it's a kind of therapy. It let's you get things off your chest and also strengthens bonds with your friends. Everyone meets people that rub them up the wrong way and sometimes you just need to tell someone about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrackpotForeigner Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 The use of the word "Team" in the workplace. No, I am NOT fooled by the name into thinking that this is something worth being enthusiastic about. Pay me money and I'll do my job, and work with whoever else you've decided to hire. Don't make out like it's something worth "giving 110%" for. A small company owned by the people doing the work might be members of a team. People hand-picked to do a job they love doing might be members of a team. Everyone else is an employee. Let's not try and kid people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blunther Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 On that note, the phrase 'colleague announcement' in a supermarket. They are staff. It is a staff announcement. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 What kind of crazy ass supermarkets do you go to? It's always staff announcement in every one I've been to and the one I worked in as a teenager. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Davkaus Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Sounds like the pit of hell that is Asda. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AVFC_Hitz Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Yeah, I've heard "colleague announcement". Not in Turkey, the supermarkets are on average smaller over here and they have a staff of about 10 young Kurdish men scurrying around the place. Staff will also have a full blown argument in front of you about anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CI Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 "all partners to the checkouts please" can be heard in Waitrose Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
legov Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 people that always feel the need to force conversation. there is nothing wrong with not talking, especially if your coversatioal skills are totally reliant on what you have seen on tv, or gossip. yeah, gossip for that matter. they used to cut out peoples tongues for gossiping. quit it. Agree, although I guess I'm being a tad hypocritical here as I do feel awkward whenever there's silence. Arrggh **** it, I'm an introvert and all you frivolous-minded **** can go on with your vapid talk I'll go and deliberate on the the relationship between Augustus and Frederick or whatever now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
legov Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Not in Turkey, the supermarkets are on average smaller over here and they have a staff of about 10 young Kurdish men scurrying around the place. Same here, most supermarkets here have about 6 cashiers or so plus maybe another 8 crew members. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted March 20, 2012 VT Supporter Share Posted March 20, 2012 If the guy opposite me mentions how he's just come back from holiday and how he has over 100 emails one more time I'm going to throttle him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrentVilla Posted March 20, 2012 Moderator Share Posted March 20, 2012 If the guy opposite me mentions how he's just come back from holiday and how he has over 100 emails one more time I'm going to throttle him. Can I suggest you e-mail him to tell him that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted March 20, 2012 VT Supporter Share Posted March 20, 2012 That would undoubtedly cause him to mention it again, so I'll try and avoid it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Risso Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 "all partners to the checkouts please" can be heard in Waitrose I suppose that as they are part of John Lewis that's technically true, but "partner"suggests that the till operator would have a choice in the matter. I suspect they don't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blunther Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Asda do it, and so does my local Co-Op. Pisses me right off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddywhack Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I've put something similar before, but it really winds me up. A colleague of mine just asked me how to do something on her PC and I told her she needed to copy and paste some particular text. "Copy and what..? How?" How is she working here? You're on a computer 75% of the time in this job. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irreverentad Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I've put something similar before, but it really winds me up. A colleague of mine just asked me how to do something on her PC and I told her she needed to copy and paste some particular text. "Copy and what..? How?" How is she working here? You're on a computer 75% of the time in this job. Maybe she is on VT! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted March 20, 2012 VT Supporter Share Posted March 20, 2012 people that always feel the need to force conversation. there is nothing wrong with not talking, especially if your coversatioal skills are totally reliant on what you have seen on tv, or gossip. yeah, gossip for that matter. they used to cut out peoples tongues for gossiping. quit it. Psst! The Human Brain Is Wired For Gossip by Jon Hamilton Hearing gossip about people can change the way you see them — literally. Negative gossip actually alters the way our visual system responds to a particular face, according to a study published online by the journal Science. The findings suggest that the human brain is wired to respond to gossip, researchers say. And it adds to the evidence that gossip helped early humans get ahead. "Gossip is helping you to predict who is friend and who is foe," says Lisa Feldman Barrett, distinguished professor of psychology at Northeastern University and an author of the study. Barrett is part of a team that has been studying how gossip affects not just what we know about an unfamiliar person but how we feel about them. The team has shown that getting secondhand information about a person can have a powerful effect. But Barrett and her team wanted to answer another question: Once hearsay has predisposed us to see someone in a certain way, is it possible that we literally see them differently? That may seem like a strange thing to ask. But it makes sense when you consider that the human brain has a whole lot of connections between regions that process visual information and areas involved in our most basic emotions, Barrett says. So the team brought in volunteers and had them look at faces paired with gossip. Some of these faces were associated with negative gossip, such as "threw a chair at his classmate." Other faces were associated with more positive actions, such as "helped an elderly woman with her groceries." Participants in the study were shown a neutral face paired with (A) negative gossip, ( positive gossip, © neutral gossip, (D) negative nonsocial information, (E) positive nonsocial information, and (F) neutral nonsocial information. When the study participants viewed the faces again, their brains were more likely to fix on the faces associated with negative gossip. Then the researchers looked to see how the volunteers' brains responded to the different kinds of information. They did this by showing the left and right eyes of each person very different images. So one eye might see a face, while the other eye would see a house. These very different images cause something called binocular rivalry. The human brain can only handle one of the images at a time. So it unconsciously tends to linger on the one it considers more important. And the researcher found that volunteers' brains were most likely to fix on faces associated with negative gossip. "Gossip doesn't just influence your opinions about people, it actually influences how you see them visually," Barrett says. The finding suggests we are hardwired to pay more attention to a person if we've been told they are dangerous or dishonest or unpleasant, Barrett says. Other scientists say that makes sense from an evolutionary perspective. "I was actually pretty excited to see this paper," says Frank McAndrew, a professor of psychology at Knox College in Galesburg, Ill. "For years, people like me have been saying that our intense interest in gossip is not really a character flaw. It's part of who we are. It's almost a biological event, and it exists for good evolutionary reasons." Even when primitive humans lived in small groups, they needed to know things like who might be a threat and who was after a particular mate, McAndrew says. And learning those things through personal experience would have been slow and potentially dangerous, he says. So McAndrew says one shortcut would have been gossip. "People who had an intense interest in that — that constantly were monitoring who's sleeping with who and who's friends with whom and who you can trust and who you can't — came out ahead," he says. "People who just didn't care about that stuff got left behind." And it makes sense that our brains pay special attention to negative gossip, McAndrew says. "If somebody is a competitor or somebody is higher than you in the food chain, you want dirt about them," he says. "You want negative information, because that's the stuff you can exploit to get ahead." NPR Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voinjama Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Scientists chatting absolute **** again. I am sure there are more important things in the world they could be researching other than gossip. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarewsEyebrowDesigner Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 interesting. i guess i'll be left behind then, because gossiping and exploiting others are things i have no time for. although we should differentiate between letting people know that one chap is a bit of a bastard, with some evidence, and petty unsubstantiated gossip. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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