Rob182 Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 12 minutes ago, Paddywhack said: What a coincidence, I've been running to your house. Fix your damn boiler, your bedroom's freezing. LOLOLOLOL Ahhhh, the old "it's because it's cold" excuse 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOF Posted November 15, 2017 Moderator Share Posted November 15, 2017 Pwned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 6 hours ago, Paddywhack said: @Rugeley Villa this might be a pathetic, way off the mark suggestion but do you think getting your teeth in to a new hobby together could help you, either as a family or just as a couple? Just something to take your mind off things and get hooked on, doing something positive together. Something like bouldering or going running together? I've little experience of what you're going through, but I'm guessing that whilst quitting coke is a fantastic thing to do, it's left a hole in your life. Fill it with something else fun! Please feel free to tell me to f off, I have no idea what I'm talking about Nah,you're dead right. She keeps getting on at me to start trying to deal with my recovery. It's one thing quitting drugs and booze like I've done, but you have to try and live normal which is hard. I will get some counselling and get active. She thought it was a good idea to jump out of a plane. Not for me thanks. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genie Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 7 hours ago, BOF said: Pwned. I haven’t seen that phrase for years! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Villan_of_oz Posted November 16, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted November 16, 2017 So two days till the wedding and all is set. Unfortunately one of the only things we argue about come up. Her family.... Uggh. The best way to describe it is we are the parents and they are the children. They are irresponsible, selfish, unapologetic, and poor with money. Her mum still hasn't got a wedding dress. This is because she is 55 and still thinks she is 25, so she wears clothes that are just wrong. Worse part is the dad loves it and encourages her mum. Which actually makes me laugh most of the time, but not when she is wearing those clothes to our wedding. My Mrs says she doesn't care what her mum wears, but she does. So after hearing about it as much as I can, I feel like walking round there and telling them both to grow up. But in their family, my Mrs and her siblings just put up with their parents behaviour because 'they'll never change'. I know my personality makes it worse because I'm the type of person that just can't hold in when someone has upset me or vice versa, I'm always on the front foot to sort it out. Not always the best approach, it doesn't always pay off, but it's just how I am. With her family I have to keep my mouth shut, it does my head in and what's worse is my anger subsides, I'm left feeling bad because I know I have also not been supportive to the other half. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddywhack Posted November 16, 2017 Share Posted November 16, 2017 (edited) Edit - shove it up ya. Edited November 17, 2017 by Paddywhack Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOF Posted November 16, 2017 Moderator Share Posted November 16, 2017 13 hours ago, Villan_of_oz said: So two days till the wedding and all is set. Unfortunately one of the only things we argue about come up. Her family.... Uggh. The best way to describe it is we are the parents and they are the children. They are irresponsible, selfish, unapologetic, and poor with money. Her mum still hasn't got a wedding dress. This is because she is 55 and still thinks she is 25, so she wears clothes that are just wrong. Worse part is the dad loves it and encourages her mum. Which actually makes me laugh most of the time, but not when she is wearing those clothes to our wedding. My Mrs says she doesn't care what her mum wears, but she does. So after hearing about it as much as I can, I feel like walking round there and telling them both to grow up. But in their family, my Mrs and her siblings just put up with their parents behaviour because 'they'll never change'. I know my personality makes it worse because I'm the type of person that just can't hold in when someone has upset me or vice versa, I'm always on the front foot to sort it out. Not always the best approach, it doesn't always pay off, but it's just how I am. With her family I have to keep my mouth shut, it does my head in and what's worse is my anger subsides, I'm left feeling bad because I know I have also not been supportive to the other half. Just use the old romantic Simpsons line on her. She'll love that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted November 16, 2017 Share Posted November 16, 2017 14 hours ago, Villan_of_oz said: So two days till the wedding and all is set. Unfortunately one of the only things we argue about come up. Her family.... Uggh. The best way to describe it is we are the parents and they are the children. They are irresponsible, selfish, unapologetic, and poor with money. Her mum still hasn't got a wedding dress. This is because she is 55 and still thinks she is 25, so she wears clothes that are just wrong. Worse part is the dad loves it and encourages her mum. Which actually makes me laugh most of the time, but not when she is wearing those clothes to our wedding. My Mrs says she doesn't care what her mum wears, but she does. So after hearing about it as much as I can, I feel like walking round there and telling them both to grow up. But in their family, my Mrs and her siblings just put up with their parents behaviour because 'they'll never change'. I know my personality makes it worse because I'm the type of person that just can't hold in when someone has upset me or vice versa, I'm always on the front foot to sort it out. Not always the best approach, it doesn't always pay off, but it's just how I am. With her family I have to keep my mouth shut, it does my head in and what's worse is my anger subsides, I'm left feeling bad because I know I have also not been supportive to the other half. That is the last of your worries bud, if she wants to look like a doofus that's her problem. Just enjoy the day with your friends and loved ones. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Villan_of_oz Posted November 19, 2017 VT Supporter Popular Post Share Posted November 19, 2017 (edited) So I'm married. Day went well, mothers in-law dressed beautifully. According to the MC I gave the best speech he'd ever heard. I was a little overwhelmed by that call as I thought my speech was lame. Shows I know nothing. Mrs is happy, which means I can go back to things being peaceful and quiet, oh yeah we already have 3 kids. No chance of that. Edited November 19, 2017 by Villan_of_oz 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrentVilla Posted November 19, 2017 Moderator Share Posted November 19, 2017 On 15/11/2017 at 20:46, Genie said: I haven’t seen that phrase for years! BOF’s runs a few years behind everyone else (I think it’s all the excel spreadsheets), rumour has it I He has recently started shouting whhhhaaaaatttttssss up? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genie Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 1 hour ago, TrentVilla said: BOF’s runs a few years behind everyone else (I think it’s all the excel spreadsheets), rumour has it I He has recently started shouting whhhhaaaaatttttssss up? He’s the funniest guy on here....... Not! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrentVilla Posted November 19, 2017 Moderator Share Posted November 19, 2017 13 minutes ago, Genie said: He’s the funniest guy on here....... Not! Watch out, you just went on his list of people he is going to Tango! 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 7 hours ago, Villan_of_oz said: So I'm married. Day went well, mothers in-law dressed beautifully. According to the MC I gave the best speech he'd ever heard. I was a little overwhelmed by that call as I thought my speech was lame. Shows I know nothing. Mrs is happy, which means I can go back to things being peaceful and quiet, oh yeah we already have 3 kids. No chance of that. Congratulations buddy 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 We are not getting on great at the moment. It's just nothingness and we are drifting apart a lot. Had a talk today and I've decided to go my mums, so we can have some space. I think she's happier about that more than she's letting on. I think this will be the straw that breaks the camels back, although I don't think we have much of an option. Im maybe wrong, but I've got an idea that she doesn't really want this relationship anymore, and after time apart it will be easier for her to say so. I'm gutted, but I'm just at a point now where whatever happens happens. I'm usually good at reading signs, and I'm definitely picking up on her not wanting to be with me. I was going tomorrow after work, but she's taking the kids out for dinner later, so I might grab my stuff then. The sad thing is, I don't even know what makes me happy anymore. Obviously my kids do, but other than that my mind is empty. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 Maybe it's me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 6 minutes ago, Rugeley Villa said: Maybe it's me. You have a post-opiates void, but I don't know how you fill it. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 2 minutes ago, rjw63 said: You have a post-opiates void, but I don't know how you fill it. She asked me earlier apart from time with the kids, what makes me happy, what makes me excited. What can we do which we would find fun that doesn't include alcohol, or doing something fun with the kids. I honestly have not got a ***** clue. Its like I don't even know myself or what I enjoy. If I can't make myself happy how can I make someone else happy. I'm happy I'm clean and I feel much better for it, but yes everything feels very empty at the minute. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 We probably got together because of that lifestyle, so what chance do we have now it's gone. Would we of got with each other properly if it wasn't for the way we lived our lives? Possibly not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 3 minutes ago, Rugeley Villa said: She asked me earlier apart from time with the kids, what makes me happy, what makes me excited. What can we do which we would find fun that doesn't include alcohol, or doing something fun with the kids. I honestly have not got a ***** clue. Its like I don't even know myself or what I enjoy. If I can't make myself happy how can I make someone else happy. I'm happy I'm clean and I feel much better for it, but yes everything feels very empty at the minute. That sucks. I keep myself happy by looking after a hard-working fiancee, and collecting albums. You should get a turntable and start getting stuff again. It's a good hobby. Internet scrabble also keeps my mind working but I hate losing You could also categorise your porn collection...:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted November 19, 2017 Share Posted November 19, 2017 seriously though, sounds like you need to chat to an expert 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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