Popular Post Paddywhack Posted March 14, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted March 14, 2017 2 minutes ago, rodders0223 said: Can confirm, currently sat in a blow up paddling pool with my Aunt. Morpheus? 18 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 13 minutes ago, rodders0223 said: Can confirm, currently sat in a blow up paddling pool with my Aunt. Maybe you can double date with @Xela and one his aunties? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 3 hours ago, Demitri_C said: Maybe you can double date with @Xela and one his aunties? I'll reply when I can understand what you wrote Dem 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 20 hours ago, Rugeley Villa said: Pure laziness from me but anyway. My wife's best friend has been doing this online dating thing for about a year now with not much look in terms of finding someone ideal. It's been a case of sex first night or blowing them off on the way home in car etc. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 20 hours ago, Ginko said: Well I can't think of any reason why she's not having much luck finding a nice guy to have a relationship with... Hopefully the nice guy doesn't waste too much time on her... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 Aite, last time, I promise, because frankly I'm even more **** bored and tired about this whole debacle than you lot are. The girl from work has called it off stating she's all over the place and not ready to see anyone. One week I make her insanely happy but then when we start to make a little progress romantically she gets way too upset about things and makes herself really unhappy by what could or should be. I gave it my best shot and told her all relationships have teething issues in the beginning but let's face it, this is something bigger than me. I really care about her and she cares about me too but it's just getting a little much. Part of me is a little relieved that I'm not constantly worrying if/when she'll change her mind again, but I'd be kidding myself if I said I wasn't gutted we didn't give this a proper shot. Sigh, such a turnaround since Friday night. Oh well. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikeyp102 Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 6 minutes ago, Ginko said: Aite, last time, I promise, because frankly I'm even more **** bored and tired about this whole debacle than you lot are. The girl from work has called it off stating she's all over the place and not ready to see anyone. One week I make her insanely happy but then when we start to make a little progress romantically she gets way too upset about things and makes herself really unhappy by what could or should be. I gave it my best shot and told her all relationships have teething issues in the beginning but let's face it, this is something bigger than me. I really care about her and she cares about me too but it's just getting a little much. Part of me is a little relieved that I'm not constantly worrying if/when she'll change her mind again, but I'd be kidding myself if I said I wasn't gutted we didn't give this a proper shot. Sigh, such a turnaround since Friday night. Oh well. **** her off now mate.. she's playing games 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 She's really not, though I know how it looks and you'll think I'm defending her but it's just not the situation. She's just got a lot of shit going on up there. Anyway, sorry for boring you with the ups and downs, chaps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Xela Posted March 14, 2017 Popular Post Share Posted March 14, 2017 Sorry to hear about that @Ginko You can't have done any more than you did but as you say, this is bigger than just you and seems she has too much 'baggage' at present. It frustrates me as I think some people revel in drama. Maybe it's because I'm a simple creature but If I like someone I tell them and that's it. I just don't get why things need to so difficult all the time with certain people. Long term you may have dodged a bullet but I feel your immediate pain as you clearly think a lot of her. Just do what I'm doing - dedicating my life to real ale, non league football and Korean racer chicks. Chin up fella 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 1 hour ago, Xela said: Hopefully the nice guy doesn't waste too much time on her... Tbf she is a nice girl. I mean doesn't everyone have sex or intercourse on first night? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 3 minutes ago, Ginko said: She's really not, though I know how it looks and you'll think I'm defending her but it's just not the situation. She's just got a lot of shit going on up there. Anyway, sorry for boring you with the ups and downs, chaps. If it's meant to be it will be. Anyway good luck mate and no you don't bore us why can't life be simple eh. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 1 minute ago, Rugeley Villa said: Tbf she is a nice girl. I mean doesn't everyone have sex or intercourse on first night? Maybe when I was 18! I mean, i'm only judging her by what you have told me but after meting a nice guy for a date she then has a coke fueled threesome with two labourers from Leeds straight after. She's probably not long term relationship material. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 7 minutes ago, Ginko said: Anyway, sorry for boring you with the ups and downs, chaps. Not at all mate, keep us updated 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 Just now, Xela said: Maybe when I was 18! I mean, i'm only judging her by what you have told me but after meting a nice guy for a date she then has a coke fueled threesome with two labourers from Leeds straight after. She's probably not long term relationship material. She's came out of a messy divorce and an abusive relationship last year so for a bit she did let her hair down. She's actually after a proper relationship although it might not sound like it. Me and the wife were pretty shocked tbf but strange things happen when you're intoxicated. Regarding sex on first date I suppose I'd be the same now I'm older and it would be nice to actually properly date without shagging first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark Albrighton Posted March 14, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted March 14, 2017 Sorry to hear that @Ginko Definitely the right move in drawing a line under it, it's good that you see it that way. I've been in the same position with a girl from work and tried to win her round, it just made it worse. Just be pleasant around her, keep it friendly, but make sure you allow yourself space from her. Onwards and upwards. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
choffer Posted March 14, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted March 14, 2017 1 hour ago, Rugeley Villa said: Tbf she is a nice girl. I mean doesn't everyone have sex or intercourse on first night? Sex or intercourse? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 Thanks guys, it means a lot. She's a lovely girl, as you say she just has a lot of baggage and it makes me want to help her and be there for her more but it's not something I can change. It's just such a shame as when we forget all the worrying and the stuff that hasn't even happened and probably won't we're great together. I'm still going to be her friend, but I've been the guy friend who wants to be the boyfriend too many times in my life and it never works. I'll get back on the dating scene soon enough. Thanks again fellas. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted March 14, 2017 VT Supporter Share Posted March 14, 2017 They're all mad. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mottaloo Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 1 minute ago, Ginko said: Thanks guys, it means a lot. She's a lovely girl, as you say she just has a lot of baggage and it makes me want to help her and be there for her more but it's not something I can change. It's just such a shame as when we forget all the worrying and the stuff that hasn't even happened and probably won't we're great together. I'm still going to be her friend, but I've been the guy friend who wants to be the boyfriend too many times in my life and it never works. I'll get back on the dating scene soon enough. Thanks again fellas. You sound like an honest sincere dude and I've been in a similar situation. I asked myself "is it all my responsibility to fix her issues ?" and although it can sound a bit cruel, I said "no it wasn't", but only for my own sanity and health. It's not being selfish - I mean, be there for her if she wants pointers or a bit of advice but as the other lads on here seem to be saying, just keep a bit of distance and look after YOU and what YOU want 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted March 14, 2017 Share Posted March 14, 2017 (edited) I'm going to run out of likes soon chaps. You're all great. If any one of you had a vadge I'd be round there like a shot. Edited March 14, 2017 by Ginko 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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