mjmooney Posted November 15, 2018 VT Supporter Share Posted November 15, 2018 49 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: Woah!! I never knew something such as SAD exists. I've always wondered if there was as one of my friends always seems to be down at this time of year when summer ends. Really? It's been really well documented. Pretty sure my missus gets it - she hates autumn and winter, and craves sunlight and long daylight hours (whereas I actually love this time of year). Apparently serious sufferers respond well to artificial sunlight treatment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted November 15, 2018 Share Posted November 15, 2018 I don't mind the start of winter because you have Halloween and Firework nights, and then it's the lead up to Xmas, which I always enjoy. But Jan 1st - Apr 1st can just **** off as far as I'm concerned. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted November 15, 2018 Share Posted November 15, 2018 1 hour ago, mjmooney said: Really? It's been really well documented. Pretty sure my missus gets it - she hates autumn and winter, and craves sunlight and long daylight hours (whereas I actually love this time of year). Apparently serious sufferers respond well to artificial sunlight treatment. I honestly nwver knew this condition exists 50 minutes ago, lapal_fan said: I don't mind the start of winter because you have Halloween and Firework nights, and then it's the lead up to Xmas, which I always enjoy. But Jan 1st - Apr 1st can just **** off as far as I'm concerned. Thata the way I look at it!! Then it makes me appreciate whwn it starts getting warmer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted November 15, 2018 Share Posted November 15, 2018 I really struggled with health anxiety and panic attacks for around 2/3 years. Not sure how I managed to shake it off but the brighter days do come back, I promise Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted November 15, 2018 Share Posted November 15, 2018 3 hours ago, StefanAVFC said: I really struggled with health anxiety and panic attacks for around 2/3 years. Not sure how I managed to shake it off but the brighter days do come back, I promise Mate if this was on based on VT I never would have thought you did! You seem like you have a lot going for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted November 15, 2018 Share Posted November 15, 2018 4 hours ago, lapal_fan said: I don't mind the start of winter because you have Halloween and Firework nights, and then it's the lead up to Xmas, which I always enjoy. But Jan 1st - Apr 1st can just **** off as far as I'm concerned. This 100% Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodders Posted November 15, 2018 Share Posted November 15, 2018 (edited) Nah, I **** love winter. I concede March - April can be deceptively shit at times though. Just when you start to look forward to sunny days out, the weather goes "**** YOU" and you're left stranded in a park wearing t-shirt and shorts at 4.30pm on the verge of hyperthermia unable to console yourself with the prospect of sticking the boiler on because you've already told yourself that March is here and you're wearing shorts, it would be fecking stupid to have the boiler on nowadays, it would be a concession that you were WRONG and we know how much people love to admit that they were wrong. So you get home, checking for frostbite on the way, sticking multiple layers before downing some whiskey and tea before crawling under the full strength duvet you've reluctantly removed from storage again, saddened by your foolish premature decision-making. The next day you go to work with a shirt and two jumpers and all day it is **** boiling and in your intemperate state you kick a cat into a bin on the way home for looking at you the wrong way whilst cursing the CAPRICIOUS BASTARD SUN for refusing to make it's mind up. Edited November 15, 2018 by Rodders Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tayls Posted November 19, 2018 Share Posted November 19, 2018 (edited) On 14/11/2018 at 08:19, Rugeley Villa said: We got a site induction the other day, and mental health was mentioned. He went into detail about it too, which I thought was good. Men don’t have to be men anymore, which I think is important in coming to terms with your own personal situation. My wife’s brother has been on the phone all week to her . He’s not one to talk about things, or see anyone, but he’s finally opening up to my wife about how he’s feeling which is a big first step for him, because he literally does not talk about things. We’ve all known for a while he’s had problems, and he’s admitting what we already knew. @Tayls, well done mate. Can’t imagine what you all went through, but glad everything is working out. You said you suffer from health anxiety? Is this you constantly worrying about your health, and your families health? Apologies for the late reply! Cheers though dude. Re health anxiety - yea it has been my thing that has been with me since I was about 13/14. I’m 30 now. It’s not as bad now as it used to be, because I’ve got other things to focus on and keep my mind off it, but it certainly does pop up still. I do worry about others also, I’m almost physically sick at the thought of anything happening to my family - but I’d say it’s mostly me thinking I feel ill, so I google symptoms and convince myself I have something specific... Edited November 19, 2018 by Tayls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted November 20, 2018 Share Posted November 20, 2018 On 15/11/2018 at 15:18, Rodders said: Nah, I **** love winter. I concede March - April can be deceptively shit at times though. Just when you start to look forward to sunny days out, the weather goes "**** YOU" and you're left stranded in a park wearing t-shirt and shorts at 4.30pm on the verge of hyperthermia unable to console yourself with the prospect of sticking the boiler on because you've already told yourself that March is here and you're wearing shorts, it would be fecking stupid to have the boiler on nowadays, it would be a concession that you were WRONG and we know how much people love to admit that they were wrong. So you get home, checking for frostbite on the way, sticking multiple layers before downing some whiskey and tea before crawling under the full strength duvet you've reluctantly removed from storage again, saddened by your foolish premature decision-making. The next day you go to work with a shirt and two jumpers and all day it is **** boiling and in your intemperate state you kick a cat into a bin on the way home for looking at you the wrong way whilst cursing the CAPRICIOUS BASTARD SUN for refusing to make it's mind up. I dont mind March because as it's abit of a shit month. Me and the missus usually book a city break abroad as it's cheap and gives us something to look forward to . This year is vienna and Bratislava Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HanoiVillan Posted November 20, 2018 Share Posted November 20, 2018 5 hours ago, Demitri_C said: This year is vienna and Bratislava Good choices IMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted November 20, 2018 Share Posted November 20, 2018 8 minutes ago, HanoiVillan said: Good choices IMO. Well off topic but I found Bratislava incredibly meh. I much preferred Budapest or Prague. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted November 20, 2018 Share Posted November 20, 2018 On 15/11/2018 at 15:26, Demitri_C said: Mate if this was on based on VT I never would have thought you did! You seem like you have a lot going for you Thanks I guess it goes to show you never know what's going on inside people's heads! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted November 20, 2018 Share Posted November 20, 2018 15 hours ago, Tayls said: Apologies for the late reply! Cheers though dude. Re health anxiety - yea it has been my thing that has been with me since I was about 13/14. I’m 30 now. It’s not as bad now as it used to be, because I’ve got other things to focus on and keep my mind off it, but it certainly does pop up still. I do worry about others also, I’m almost physically sick at the thought of anything happening to my family - but I’d say it’s mostly me thinking I feel ill, so I google symptoms and convince myself I have something specific... Exactly what I have, and I also had it from an early age. My first memory of it starting was around the age of 13. Tbf, it’s a big burden on my life. I also worry terribly about my family, to the point where I sometimes wish I was dead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted November 20, 2018 Share Posted November 20, 2018 1 hour ago, StefanAVFC said: Well off topic but I found Bratislava incredibly meh. I much preferred Budapest or Prague. I done both buda and Prague. Loved buda but Prague was ok. Doing Bratislava day trip as so close to vienna. Might as well two in one trip! 1 hour ago, StefanAVFC said: Thanks I guess it goes to show you never know what's going on inside people's heads! Absolutely right. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Carlos_the_third Posted December 27, 2018 Popular Post Share Posted December 27, 2018 Recently been diagnosed with OCD at the age of 24 after somewhat of a meltdown this year. Looking back, I’ve had it on and off since I was a kid, but it was always manageable - things like when I was around 10 having to pray for random things I’d seen on the news seven times (eg ‘I pray that no one ever dies from an earthquake ever again’), constantly replaying conversations to check if I’d offended anyone, and more recently constant checking of my work in my job to try and find errors. This year’s meltdown was triggered by entering a relationship with someone I really really cared about (basically my best friend who I’d had feelings for for ages), and was all around ‘did I love her enough’ etc - again, guilt and hyper-responsibility being two key things. Unfortunately decided I had to end the relationship due to the severe self doubt that caused leading me to be a miserable shell of my former self, and the ensuing meltdown led to an OCD diagnosis - this kind of helped, in that I now know what I’m dealing with, and kind of made everything worse, as I so wish I’d known this before to avert the current predicament. Anyway, I’ve been doing a lot of research on OCD, and found out just how vile (but also how interesting) an illness it is. OCD sufferers are typically known as hand washers/excessively thorough cleaners/tidyers, but there are so many other types, including intrusive thoughts that latch on to the things you care about most - this could be someone who is very religious constantly thinking about the devil, someone constantly imagining violently harming their nearest and dearest, someone convincing themselves they’re a paedophile, obsessive doubts over your sexuality, or like me someone obsessively thinking they don’t love their partner enough and therefore missing out on all the good bits of the relationship (and life!). Everyone has intrusive thoughts (eg I wonder what’d happen if I jumped in front of this train) but OCD sufferers assign meaning to their thoughts and play them over and over again in their head to try and ‘figure out’ the answer to find certainty and or prove that they don’t actually want to do that. Think this post has a couple of purposes - firstly, to see if anyone else here has experience of OCD, and how they manage it, and secondly, to raise awareness, as it takes ridiculously long to diagnose OCD (over ten years on average), often due to the shame of the thoughts (eg how are you going to tell your wife that you constantly think about stabbing her or your kid when that is the last thing you’d ever do and you know they may think poorly of you if you don’t have a medical reason for these constant thoughts??). Apparently it’s relatively treatable - through CBT (specifically, a type called Exposure and Response Prevention therapy), and medication may also be used (although I am really resistant to going on meds if at all possible - this is just a personal choice though). However, finding an OCD specialist is hard, and doing regular talk therapy may make things worse rather than better. If anyone does relate to any of this, and wants someone to chat to about it, I’m more than happy to PM if you’d rather not have it on a public forum! I’ve done so much googling (a classic OCD thing that needs to stop...), that I should be able to point anyone else struggling in the right direction. OCD UK and the IOCDF are good starting websites though if anyone is interested. p.s. I hope that everyone had as good a Christmas as possible - I know it can be a hard time of year 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 (edited) My grandad has just been diagnosed with Dementia. Not sure what to expect, but I know he’s feeling pretty shit at the moment. Anyone been through this with a family member or loved one? Edited February 7, 2019 by Rugeley Villa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theboyangel Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 3 hours ago, Rugeley Villa said: My grandad has just been diagnosed with Dementia. Not sure what to expect, but I know he’s feeling pretty shit at the moment. Anyone been through this with a family member or loved one? I’ve been there Ruge with my grandad. There’s no sugar coating this degenerative disease. It’s not a great road to travel down and it’s a long road too. my grandad lasted 10yrs with it but for most of those 10, he wasn’t the man we all knew and loved. I’m sorry for you and your family, make the most of your time (especially with your kids) with him whilst you can. It’s a sad way to go and I totally understand why people consider euthanasia and go out on their own terms. Apologies for the miserable response. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 (edited) 12 minutes ago, theboyangel said: I’ve been there Ruge with my grandad. There’s no sugar coating this degenerative disease. It’s not a great road to travel down and it’s a long road too. my grandad lasted 10yrs with it but for most of those 10, he wasn’t the man we all knew and loved. I’m sorry for you and your family, make the most of your time (especially with your kids) with him whilst you can. It’s a sad way to go and I totally understand why people consider euthanasia and go out on their own terms. Apologies for the miserable response. Thanks for the blunt honesty mate. He’s been gradually losing his marbles, but we put it down to age(83) . He’s got worse over the last few weeks though and really isn’t himself. More tests tomorrow, but it seems mild at the moment. He’s also got one or two other health issues going on. He’s scared, but all the family are going to muck in together. Edited February 7, 2019 by Rugeley Villa 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 In my Grans last months of living, she developed Dementia and it was heartbreaking. Better off dead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theboyangel Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 1 minute ago, Rugeley Villa said: Thanks for the blunt honesty mate. He’s been gradually losing his marbles, but we put it down to age(83) . He’s got worse over the last few weeks though and really isn’t himself. More tests tomorrow, but it seems mild at the moment. He’s also got one or two other health issues going on. He’s scared, but all the family is going to muck in together. It’s understandable being scared, sadly he could get frustrated with himself and others around him. its difficult but you just have to be patient and understanding. feel free to DM at any time 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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