GarethRDR Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Just added a profile pic, as the username does tend to lead to people thinking I'm a bloke! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Just popped in to say 'would'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post GarethRDR Posted February 4, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 4, 2014 Why thank you Jon, that's kind of you to say. 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adw95 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 (edited) Woman asks bunch of men what to do about her relationship? I wonder what their answer would be... Edited February 4, 2014 by adw95 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Woman asks bunch of men what to do about her relationship? I wonder what their answer would be... Postma him, and then kick him out. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Dante_Lockhart Posted February 4, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 4, 2014 Can't believe I get married in June. Only seems like yesterday when I was telling you guys about my new lady 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tegis Posted February 4, 2014 VT Supporter Share Posted February 4, 2014 Can't believe I get married in June. Only seems like yesterday when I was telling you guys about my new lady Ah yes, and the hunt to find her on the web. Was fun Congratulations mate! Enjoy it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Just added a profile pic, as the username does tend to lead to people thinking I'm a bloke! Thanks for all the advice - really appreciate it. Weird talking to a bunch of strangers about something so personal, but it's actually quite therapeutic. Think I just need to be brave and move on - can't imagine being single, but it can't be that bad... As others have said, it isn't, and it's very liberating. If you haven't had extended periods of being single, then I would advocate it. Took me ages (and a few failed relationships) to find my 'ideal/right/someone that would have me' partner, and I eventually met her by chance in a new bar near where I lived, aged 37. She's perfik for me, and 3 years down the road, I am married to a gorgeous lady and have a 21 month old daughter. I would never advocate staying with the 'wrong' person through fear of being alone. You have to respect yourself enough to believe you are better than the way this person has treated you. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MakemineVanilla Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Woman asks bunch of men what to do about her relationship? I wonder what their answer would be... I suppose they could start by explaining what men are really like. Creatures of simple needs and responses and who should be sympathetically viewed as victims and mere life-support systems for their genitals. Walking around with a sack full of enough sperm to inseminate the population of China, is bound to produce some aberrant behaviour. That when the balls are full the head is empty and that the male libido works like a cistern which needs emptying regularly or it overflows. And, that therefore the sexual act has a different meaning to them and a mindless opportunistic shag, has no bearing on their loyalty to other relationships. Men should be treated like a Pavlovian experiment and they should be trained with clear and simple commands and rewards. Expecting genuine empathy from a man is expecting too much. Don't tell them how you feel; tell them what you want/need. And remember, once a person has lost one dog, they tend to put out better food and build higher fences next time around. That sort of thing. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 (edited) ah, I was going with 'better luck next time, we're not all dickheads' Edited February 4, 2014 by chrisp65 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post hogso Posted February 4, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 4, 2014 George - meet Leemond Leemond - George Posted from Cupid's iPhone 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Frobisher Posted February 4, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 4, 2014 I suppose they could start by explaining what men are really like. Creatures of simple needs and responses and who should be sympathetically viewed as victims and mere life-support systems for their genitals. Walking around with a sack full of enough sperm to inseminate the population of China, is bound to produce some aberrant behaviour. That when the balls are full the head is empty and that the male libido works like a cistern which needs emptying regularly or it overflows. And, that therefore the sexual act has a different meaning to them and a mindless opportunistic shag, has no bearing on their loyalty to other relationships. Men should be treated like a Pavlovian experiment and they should be trained with clear and simple commands and rewards. Expecting genuine empathy from a man is expecting too much. Don't tell them how you feel; tell them what you want/need. And remember, once a person has lost one dog, they tend to put out better food and build higher fences next time around. That sort of thing. I find this line of thinking a somewhat pitiful excuse for cheating on a partner: "it's not my fault, it's inherent to my nature as a man" - well so is rape and murder, but the vast majority of the population seem able to control these instincts. It also doesn't address female sexuality, that women cheat on men and, shockingly, I know, enjoy sex, too. As for males being unable to feel empathy - that is simply wrong. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MakemineVanilla Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 I suppose they could start by explaining what men are really like. Creatures of simple needs and responses and who should be sympathetically viewed as victims and mere life-support systems for their genitals. Walking around with a sack full of enough sperm to inseminate the population of China, is bound to produce some aberrant behaviour. That when the balls are full the head is empty and that the male libido works like a cistern which needs emptying regularly or it overflows. And, that therefore the sexual act has a different meaning to them and a mindless opportunistic shag, has no bearing on their loyalty to other relationships. Men should be treated like a Pavlovian experiment and they should be trained with clear and simple commands and rewards. Expecting genuine empathy from a man is expecting too much. Don't tell them how you feel; tell them what you want/need. And remember, once a person has lost one dog, they tend to put out better food and build higher fences next time around. That sort of thing. I find this line of thinking a somewhat pitiful excuse for cheating on a partner: "it's not my fault, it's inherent to my nature as a man" - well so is rape and murder, but the vast majority of the population seem able to control these instincts. It also doesn't address female sexuality, that women cheat on men and, shockingly, I know, enjoy sex, too. As for males being unable to feel empathy - that is simply wrong. In the court of community opinion no man would be allowed to offer that excuse as a defence but in the same court it is often accepted as an excuse to forgive. In fact male hormones are never admissible as mitigation in law but female hormones often are. Society's view of the ability of each sex to exercise moral agency is substantially different. I definitely think women have affairs for different reasons than men. As for empathy, I think the much higher instance of men being somewhere on the autistic spectrum, makes a lack of empathy far more likely to be found in men. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 It's difficult to speak on behalf of what women might think, what with me only playing that role of a Thursday lunchtime. But I suspect there are as many different reasons for women to have affairs as men. Some for the thrill, some for revenge, some for love and some through some sense of having found something better and 27 reasons that haven't occurred to me yet. Though I would concede that a thousand years of indoctrination makes us (male and female) believe that with women, it's rarely just for kicks and a quick fizzy o. From my experience of close friends and work colleagues, there are women that quite like all sorts of adventures. By 'my experience' I just mean I know them and their ways, I'm personally about as vanilla a chap as you'll ever meet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarewsEyebrowDesigner Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 I know a lady that 'cheated' on her malefriend with a guy within earshot of said malefriend. I may or may not have been the other guy. She did it for thrills. People are complex. I wouldn't stereotype. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 George - meet Leemond Leemond - George Posted from Cupid's iPhone This is a wonderful idea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MakemineVanilla Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 It's difficult to speak on behalf of what women might think, what with me only playing that role of a Thursday lunchtime. But I suspect there are as many different reasons for women to have affairs as men. Some for the thrill, some for revenge, some for love and some through some sense of having found something better and 27 reasons that haven't occurred to me yet. Though I would concede that a thousand years of indoctrination makes us (male and female) believe that with women, it's rarely just for kicks and a quick fizzy o. From my experience of close friends and work colleagues, there are women that quite like all sorts of adventures. By 'my experience' I just mean I know them and their ways, I'm personally about as vanilla a chap as you'll ever meet. When assessing the respective libidos of men and women, I think that if we take notice of whose libido is used to manipulate them and whose not, who pays for it and who tends not to, we can arrive at a reasonable conclusion, as to which gender suffers the greater sexual imperative. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 So George is a newly single, young Villa fan? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Only on VT could a woman go to participate in the Winter Olympics and get replaced. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted February 4, 2014 Share Posted February 4, 2014 Only on VT could a woman go to participate in the Winter Olympics and get replaced. she wasn't all that, we've moved on Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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