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I may not have a new job, and glad I didn't get excited and hand my notice in. Still waiting to hear from the second interview. He did say it could be Tuesday before I hear anything but unless there were more interviews today I think I would have heard by now if I got it. I've spoken to the ones that offered me the other role and they are not offering as much as I was expecting. After expecting a decent bump on my current salary, they are initially saying it will be a couple of grand less than I'm on. I'm stuck in a massive rut and need to move but I have a feeling this is going to be a non starter. I'll wait for the official contract offer and say where I am. They need someone in sooner than later so they might be flexible if left with no choice but not holding much hope though. While I was waiting for the train, a bloke came up to me and asked if I was getting plastered tonight (he also asked nearly everyone on the platform). It turns out it's the end of the world tomorrow and I need to get on the Whiskey, Gin and Absinthe. After the realisation I might not have a new job after all, it is very tempting.

Interview 1 yesterday, had possibly an unusual situation where I heard back today where they said I scored the same as someone else and asked me to answer 3 questions in a tie break type situation. Anyway did it and been offered the job. Interview 2 tomorrow so just need to hold them off a little. 1 is along the same lines as what I'm doing but more money and will get me out of the rut I'm in where I am. 2 is something more along the lines of what I've been looking to do, but not got a sniff till now. It is probably going to be less £ than 1 but more than what I'm on and a chance to do something new. It's field based and include a company car, so that will have benefits but have an impact on what I take home. Not got a decision to make yet but it will be tough. I am off to draft a resignation letter anyway though.

I've got a stag weekend in a couple of months. Which I'm looking forward to but not so much the hangover(s) I can usually match most drink for drink but I've only drank more than about 4 beers a handful of times in the last year. So with hangovers getting worse as I get older and maybe a lower tolerance to alcohol, its going to be horrible.

Not a bad way to start doing it

I've got myself a couple of interviews next week. Part of one is a Short occupational assessment – 15 minutes Do you reckon this is simply going through my job history in relation to the role?

You weren't the only one blasting it out in Bath today.

I think you've done everything you could, took responsibility, gave it a go, it's not worked out but it's in your little girls best interests if that's the best way to go. I suppose now is the tricky bit and the timescale of how long she lives with you, when it becomes taking advantage of your good nature or if arguments start to happen which chip away at your future friendship to the detriment of your daughters upbringing, and of course you both need to be able to get on with your lives. But as it stands I think you've done everything as you probably should. At Uni one of my best mates had a one night stand with a visiting friend of our housemate, which resulted in a phone call a month or two later to say she was pregnant. My mate has had no part of his daughters upbringing apart from child maintenance. He's still a really good mate now 10 years after leaving uni but I'm not sure I could have done the same, I think I'd have wanted to see my child even if I didn't want anything apart from an amicable relationship with her mum.

I find Job hunting extremely frustrating at times whether its not hearing back or unsuccesful interviews but will always keep plugging away. All this talk of careers, I've had an email this morning from a company I had an interview with back in October to say they are recruiting for the same role again, so its either working side by side with the succesful person then. or most likely they've either progessed or moved on. They cited a lack of experience in a certain area before and not much has changed for me since then, but will certainly follow it up.

Yes it's the thread which makes me really jealous of those getting new jobs and doing jobs they love. Sitting at a desk all day and in front of a PC is the most off putting bit of going in a financial direction. Plus I'm probably nearly 17 stone, have an active job and cycle 14 miles a day, god knows what I'd be like if I sat at a desk. Just need that break in an account manager type role but struggling getting to the interview stage in that. A couple of applications went of yesterday.

If I thought of something I could go with, I'd love to.

@Demitri_C thought I'd take it to careers thread. I regret not considering doing a trade at all when I was younger. I was always expected to go the academic route but I suppose towards the end of school and certainly after, jacked it all off to go out a lot as well as smoking a lot of weed. Sorted myself out and now working in catering starting out as a chef and now front of house management. Ideally I want a job that has something I can focus on doing myself rather than constant people management. I think what I would like to do is an account manager role in the food or drink industry, as that does allow me to use some of what I know and not a complete career change. It's just I don'y have a huge amount of sales experience on my CV and what I do is reactive. So in terms of that role I need to try and get some experience and increase my commercial awareness. Other than that, course wise I can only think of doing something in finance/accounting at least that might give me options where I work if I don't sort anything new in the mean time. My IT knowhow is fairly limited so that's probably not an option.

In pretty much the same boat (35), I’ve just let my career go the way it seems to be heading. I feel I’m doing something that I’m not particularly suited to, I'm good at my job (albeit with a complete lack of motivation at the moment) but that’s because I'd back myself on doing any job that I was put in. I've struggled with progression due to being unsuccessful in interviews, so presumably its potential employers seeing the same in me as I guess I feel myself, despite me knowing that despite this I’d do a bloody good job. Anyway, seriously thinking of trying to do something as I'm stagnating at the moment and I hate it. Realistically it needs to be something I can do while still working and something I can afford to do. Like being back at school I just don’t know what. I really envy people that had a career path they knew what they wanted to do.

It would all have depended on my mood on how i'd react, bad mood and I don't think i'd hold myself back (maybe my child in the back of the car would be enough to think about it and hold back, not sure) but otherwise I would have been too tempted to wind him up further, I loved doing it on the pitch in football and rugby just seeing them get more and more wound up. Occasionally it hurt when they broke, it was usually worth it though.

Yes must have played a part, I was reading an article in the last week or 2 that their latest album got massively criticised by fans. I have no idea how big his input is into their songs but for a man that has had a history of issues he's had an awful lot to deal with recently if has been struggling.

I'm not sure if you are aware of who this is or it was an 'old man playing football' but he did actually play for the Villa.

No sign of a slow down by me at the moment. Just walked past an average 3 bed bungalow with a sold sign on that went on the market not long ago for £460k, so presumably they got that more less. If there is to be a massive crash, I imagine it's going to be down to more than just the housing market. As someone that's looking to buy there first home. I have mixed feelings about wishing for this as there could be other consequences. Whatever happens I'll be moving from this Village, I'd love to stay but prices are just way too much for me, unless we are able to buy our housing association home in the future.

No the crash wasn't due to speeding more a poorly maintained lorry on a road that debatably shouldn't have heavy goods vehicles. However it is a sensitive area with speed, it is a steep hill near a school with plenty of near misses. Methods have been put in place to attempt to make things safer. Drivers thinking that the low speed isn't necessary and want to overtake other vehicles in an area like this, deserve to get fined.

There was a tragic accident a couple of years ago in Bath where some people were killed including a little girl when a lorry couldn't stop. There is now a 20 speed limit and a speed camera. My Mrs on pre natal visits in Bath hospital has twice had drivers driving up her ass then taking the opportunity to over take only to get caught by the camera. She's quite enjoyed seeing them shouting and swearing when they've realised.

Well I'm now a Dad, My little girl Eliza was born just over 7lb earlier today. It's been a bit of a surreal day and hasn't really sunk in yet.

In terms of new builds, is the the price they are listed at like a car, in terms of you'd never pay asking price? Although I'm pretty sure the housing going up in the next town for 2,3,4 beds had prices starting at £327k a month or so ago and looked yesterday and it was £367k so going by that your not getting much off when you enquire if it's going up like that.

Yes I think if I can avoid it, I'd rather not go down the help to buy route. It's just from what I've seen, houses round here that still need modernising are mostly still quite expensive. I think I first just need to see what I can realistically afford and then just see what's about. The deposit isn't so much an issue, it would be the actual mortgage. I'm happy to do some work as long as it would be something we could move into while it's being done. The third option for us is, we live in a housing association house, which my Mrs has been here for 3 years. There seems to be lots of conflicting information about right to acquire in terms of time in the house and even if right to buy is possible in the future. Although either way this would be if we couldn't afford anything else as we could really do with an extra bedroom.

Any advice on who to speak to initially look at the finances before actually applying for a mortgage, the bank or someone else? I think I'm seriously going to have to look at doing a help to buy on a new build as house prices by me are pretty steep. It's only been recently I've even been looking at what the market is like round here and what's available, and not really worked out what I might be able to afford.

Mine is getting extremely close now, I'll be a dad in less than 2 weeks.

My mum and dad arrived in NZ today, they are going to have a great time I'm sure.