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Trying POF again


Dante_Lockhart

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Not wanting to hijack Dante's thread....but I am currently seeing a girl of POF (have been for over a month) and I have an issue.

I usually see her once during the week and once at the weekends. The weekends we usually go out on dates but during the week I usually go round to hers (we cannot go out as she has a 2 year old boy).

The weekend dates are great and we have a really good laugh an the attraction is there.

The problem I have is with seeing he mid week. It always leads to sex (which I want as much as her!!!) but I always leave feeling a little bit empty (emotionally) and a bit dirty. I have tried not to have sex when I go round but I am my own worse enemy! The next day I am a bit distant with her too. I don't mean to be it is just how I feel.

But the weekend dates are so amazing I get interested all over again.

After being with someone previously for 11 years I dont know if this is common.

Is this normal??

Strange one, I had the ones where I felt awkward after sex and it usually transpired that that spark was not stong enough, the girl I am seeing off POF I wanted to see as often as I could yet before I had it so often where if a girl wnted to see me more than a couple of times over the weekend I paniced.

Just out of interest I have just moved in with the girk I met off POF even though I stay here most of the time anyway though just had my house given the all clear to rent out. :D No longer live next to the drum and base queen in Erdington and live in Lichfield.

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Here's another little pointer... (I'm not on PF anymore by the way, met a girl off there and we've been together 5 or 6 months now. Was only back on there for a month)

When I went back onto POF I found my old profile on another site somewhere, so copy and pasted it across. It was written with help from a couple of female POF veterans (I am male by the way, so thought a female insight was a good idea). I had about 3 pics of me up there, and all my messages where well thought out, well written and generally related to her profile, etc. Hardly ever got any replies. True, it's a numbers game, but the lack of replies was just ridiculous... So I went back to the drawing board.

I watered down my profile to make it shorter, punchy, was only about 1 to 2 paragraphs and my messages just became alot shorter and punchy too. I also put the maximum amount of pictures up of me (Think it was 10)... Now, I'm no Brad Pitt, or even devilishley good looking, in fact, I have ginger hair! But mr reply rate shot up. I was getting an average of 3 in 6 replies, which was a much better hit rate.

Give it a try, simplify. Worked for me....

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Was out last night, the amount of female single talent knocking about was really good

I just don't get this Internet dating thing, the women are out there and you can see and talk to them

So did you pull?

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I've just had to Google POF to find out what it is but then again I have been married (happily) for more years that I care to remember. Clearly I am on the wrong thread

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