StewieGriffin Posted March 20, 2023 Share Posted March 20, 2023 (edited) 2 hours ago, Mark Albrighton said: Prompted by the above. Something I feel now that I’m nearing the end of my thirties. When I was 31/32 I would walk past someone in their early twenties and while I knew we’re weren’t the same age, I’d feel like there was some common ground between us. I still felt like we could be considered contemporaries, have the same cultural references. In essence, we could theoretically hang out. That’s basically gone now. Don’t know when it happened, but it at some point over the past 5 or so years it did. And I know that now the common ground and my reference points are going to register more with the 21 year old’s parents and they’re the ones I’m more likely to successfully hang out with. I don’t know if that’s a feeling particularly unique to being late 30’s. Like it’s the last gasp of (what could be considered) youth or something but not really middle age either. A sort of awkward in between age. The thing is, I’m actually fairly content with turning 40. But for whatever reason I’m more conscious of this dynamic change. Absolutely this. I feel I've aged mentally in the last 2 or 3 years (I turned 38 in December) - I reached a stage where I didn't like "modern music/culture" so had less in common with some younger work colleagues. I've realised the idiocy of early 20's me thinking "I'll always be on the cusp of technology, music etc - you parents are so OLD, bugger off back to you 1970s bubble". Stuff like TikTok is absolutely baffling to me, I really dislike modern "popular" music (they don't make it like they did in my day etc etc) and I have no idea who some celebrities/internet people are. My parents always sort of smiled and said "okay", but now Im at a similar mindset they were when they were my age. I always thought Id be young forever, and some of the physical side of ageing doesn't bother me (grey hair, slightly receded hair etc), stuff like the aches and pains from time or being knackered at 10pm most nights is a glaring red beacon that I'm not young but I'm not old enough to be old. I also think at this point I've reached the age where one of my parents probably wont be here in a few years (one is 62 this year, the other 66). I was quite fortunate that 3 of my 4 grandparents lived to good ages, so didn't have to deal with loss very much, but having no grandparents left as of 2 years ago, its somehow only fairly recently dawned on me that my next experience of it will either be one of my parent's or my in-laws - I've found that quite the shift from plodding along thinking that they'll always be there to realising that they've lost their parents so ergo parents die. Why cant we all just be 6 years old and blind to the world forever? Edited March 20, 2023 by StewieGriffin 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidcow Posted March 20, 2023 VT Supporter Share Posted March 20, 2023 4 minutes ago, StewieGriffin said: Absolutely this. I feel I've aged mentally in the last 2 or 3 years (I turned 38 in December) - I reached a stage where I didn't like "modern music/culture" so had less in common with some younger work colleagues. I've realised the idiocy of early 20's me thinking "I'll always be on the cusp of technology, music etc - you parents are so OLD, bugger off back to you 1970s bubble". Stuff like TikTok is absolutely baffling to me, I really dislike modern "popular" music (they don't make it like they did in my day etc etc) and I have no idea who some celebrities/internet people are. My parents always sort of smiled and said "okay", but now Im at a similar mindset they were when they were my age. I always thought Id be young forever, and some of the physical side of ageing doesn't bother me (grey hair, slightly receded hair etc), stuff like the aches and pains from time or being knackered at 10pm most nights is a glaring red beacon that I'm not young but I'm not old enough to be old. I also think at this point I've reached the age where one of my parents probably wont be here in a few years (one is 62 this year, the other 66). I was quite fortunate that 3 of my 4 grandparents lived to good ages, so didn't have to deal with loss very much, but having no grandparents left as of 2 years ago, its somehow only fairly recently dawned on me that my next experience of it will either be one of my parent's or my in-laws - I've found that quite the shift from plodding along thinking that they'll always be there to realising that they've lost their parents so ergo parents die. Why cant we all just be 6 years old and blind to the world forever? Music is shit at the moment in all honesty. I thought it was shit in the late 80's to early 90s even though I was a young buck, because the music was shit. Music is shit now too and waiting for a revolution. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted March 20, 2023 VT Supporter Share Posted March 20, 2023 9 minutes ago, StewieGriffin said: one of my parents probably wont be here in a few years (one is 62 this year, the other 66). See? SEE?? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StewieGriffin Posted March 20, 2023 Share Posted March 20, 2023 2 minutes ago, sidcow said: Music is shit at the moment in all honesty. I thought it was shit in the late 80's to early 90s even though I was a young buck, because the music was shit. Music is shit now too and waiting for a revolution. Can't really disagree with that too much - most of my playlist is 70s rock, with barely anything from about 2015 onwards. I always find music tastes interesting - most people inherit traits of it from their parents, but my mum was into ABBA, Bay City Rollers, Osmonds, David Cassidy etc, and my dad was never really into music much. He likes Queen, but thats about as "cool" as it gets. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StewieGriffin Posted March 20, 2023 Share Posted March 20, 2023 5 minutes ago, mjmooney said: See? SEE?? no offence intended, sir 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted March 20, 2023 Share Posted March 20, 2023 13 minutes ago, StewieGriffin said: my dad was never really into music much. He likes Queen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KentVillan Posted March 20, 2023 Share Posted March 20, 2023 36 minutes ago, sidcow said: Music is shit at the moment in all honesty. I thought it was shit in the late 80's to early 90s even though I was a young buck, because the music was shit. Music is shit now too and waiting for a revolution. Yeah music is always shit. Nostalgia is like a Charles Nzogbia highlights reel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KentVillan Posted March 20, 2023 Share Posted March 20, 2023 Charles N’Stalgia* 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rds1983 Posted March 21, 2023 VT Supporter Share Posted March 21, 2023 8 hours ago, StewieGriffin said: Absolutely this. I feel I've aged mentally in the last 2 or 3 years (I turned 38 in December) - I reached a stage where I didn't like "modern music/culture" so had less in common with some younger work colleagues. I've realised the idiocy of early 20's me thinking "I'll always be on the cusp of technology, music etc - you parents are so OLD, bugger off back to you 1970s bubble". Stuff like TikTok is absolutely baffling to me, I really dislike modern "popular" music (they don't make it like they did in my day etc etc) and I have no idea who some celebrities/internet people are. My parents always sort of smiled and said "okay", but now Im at a similar mindset they were when they were my age. I always thought Id be young forever, and some of the physical side of ageing doesn't bother me (grey hair, slightly receded hair etc), stuff like the aches and pains from time or being knackered at 10pm most nights is a glaring red beacon that I'm not young but I'm not old enough to be old. I also think at this point I've reached the age where one of my parents probably wont be here in a few years (one is 62 this year, the other 66). I was quite fortunate that 3 of my 4 grandparents lived to good ages, so didn't have to deal with loss very much, but having no grandparents left as of 2 years ago, its somehow only fairly recently dawned on me that my next experience of it will either be one of my parent's or my in-laws - I've found that quite the shift from plodding along thinking that they'll always be there to realising that they've lost their parents so ergo parents die. Why cant we all just be 6 years old and blind to the world forever? I'm a similar age to you and @Mark Albrighton and I'm feeling this too about the last few years. I think part of that is covid and lock downs though as i didnt really go out much or socialise since 2020 so the changes feel more drastic in comparison. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidcow Posted March 21, 2023 VT Supporter Share Posted March 21, 2023 7 hours ago, KentVillan said: Yeah music is always shit. Nostalgia is like a Charles Nzogbia highlights reel. No, music was mainly good in the 50s and 60's. Had a wobble in the mid to late 70s when punk HAD to happen. Was good early to late 80's. Was bad late 80s to mid 90s when Britpop HAD to happen. Was good in the 2000s. Now it's been awful for 10 years and something needs to happen. I'm taking about mainstream popular music, there's always a few things bubbling alongside or of minority interest. Often these things lead to whatever it is that finally happens. In my prime, late teens to early 20s I was mainly listening to 50s rock'n'roll. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nick76 Posted March 21, 2023 Share Posted March 21, 2023 (edited) 58 minutes ago, sidcow said: No, music was mainly good in the 50s and 60's. Had a wobble in the mid to late 70s when punk HAD to happen. Was good early to late 80's. Was bad late 80s to mid 90s when Britpop HAD to happen. Was good in the 2000s. Now it's been awful for 10 years and something needs to happen. I'm taking about mainstream popular music, there's always a few things bubbling alongside or of minority interest. Often these things lead to whatever it is that finally happens. In my prime, late teens to early 20s I was mainly listening to 50s rock'n'roll. See it’s all about individual views, having grown up with parents that loved 50’s and 60’s music I think that era of music was awful, didn’t think the music was very good and yes there were “legends” in that era but I never thought those were good era’s but the I guess it’s about personal taste and sometimes generation although there are exceptions. Edited March 21, 2023 by nick76 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tinker Posted March 21, 2023 VT Supporter Popular Post Share Posted March 21, 2023 There's good music in every generation you just haven't found it. Tbh the amount of music available now is so vast there's something for anyone and everyone. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KentVillan Posted March 21, 2023 Share Posted March 21, 2023 3 hours ago, sidcow said: No, music was mainly good in the 50s and 60's. Had a wobble in the mid to late 70s when punk HAD to happen. Was good early to late 80's. Was bad late 80s to mid 90s when Britpop HAD to happen. Was good in the 2000s. Now it's been awful for 10 years and something needs to happen. I'm taking about mainstream popular music, there's always a few things bubbling alongside or of minority interest. Often these things lead to whatever it is that finally happens. In my prime, late teens to early 20s I was mainly listening to 50s rock'n'roll. I just meant we tend to remember the good stuff from the sea of crap. There’s great music from any era if you dig around enough. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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sidcow Posted March 21, 2023 VT Supporter Share Posted March 21, 2023 4 minutes ago, mjmooney said: We'll meet again. No we won't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidcow Posted March 21, 2023 VT Supporter Share Posted March 21, 2023 (edited) I'm having Disco Inferno when the coffin dissappears. You know it makes sense. Edited March 21, 2023 by sidcow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delboy54 Posted March 21, 2023 Share Posted March 21, 2023 ".....parents probably wont be here in a few years (one is 62 this year, the other 66)....." Bl**dy nora I am 65 in June, and reading that made me feel old . I run 5km parkrun every week sub 29 mins. During the week at least two more runs between 7km and 10km. Still stand at the back of the Holte in K5 row 27, after a 2 hr drive to VP..... Yes I still think I am 28 until I look in the mirror and there is a grey haired almost bald old man looking at me. I fall asleep in front of the TV in the evening, moan about how modern music is so bad, modern football not as good as it used to be, jumpers for goalposts etc etc... I think when my grandparents were in their 60's they were and acted old, I think these days living a healthy lifestyle those in their 60's now are probably as healthier than they have ever been. It is somewhat sobering when in 5 years time I will be 70 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KentVillan Posted March 21, 2023 Share Posted March 21, 2023 Speaking of funeral songs, I’ve only ever been to one funeral where the deceased picked a decent song. Low point for me was my ex’s aunt’s funeral where they played an unplugged version of Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol. Have been fortunate never to experience You’ll Never Walk Alone but I think that would just be the absolute **** worst 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post bickster Posted March 21, 2023 Moderator Popular Post Share Posted March 21, 2023 7 minutes ago, KentVillan said: Low point for me was my ex’s aunt’s funeral where they played an unplugged version of Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol. Was she run over by any chance? 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted March 21, 2023 VT Supporter Share Posted March 21, 2023 16 minutes ago, KentVillan said: Speaking of funeral songs, I’ve only ever been to one funeral where the deceased picked a decent song. I know I've mentioned my mate Steve's funeral on here before. He left instructions, which were carried out: Route 66 by Buckwheat Zydeco Anarchy in the UK by the Ukulele Orchestra of Great Britain Werewolves of London by Warren Zevon I delivered the eulogy, which was basically an account of the many times we got blind drunk. Way to go. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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