You see, that’s where I disagree.
if we look at the dictionary definition of racism:
The Oxford Dictionary defines racism as “Prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one 's own race is superior.” If further defines the same as “The belief that all members of each race possess characteristics, abilities, or qualities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races.” (Oxford Dictionaries | English, 2017)
The dictionary definition absolutely suggests that intent is key.
There is clearly a difference between what is racist and what could be deemed to be racist.
As a decent human being, I will always do my best to avoid any situation where I could be deemed to be racist. That does not change my belief on what IS racist. In fact, replace the word racist with offensive, as it applies to everything.