Dante_Lockhart Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 These last few months I've gradually got less and less interested in stuff. Gaming, TV, general socialising.. No interest in anything at all. Most of my nights now consist with me sitting on my sofa drinking Jack with some TV on in the background that I'm not really paying attention to. My thoughts are non stop, always pessimistic, and offer no hope or anything good. I'll admit, on occasion suicidal tenancies have crept in but I've never gone as far as acting on them. Just little flashes in my mind. I've welled up a good many times, sometimes just whilst sitting at my desk at work. Not actually broke down in tears though. Anxiety is a constant at the moment. I just feel like there is a knot in my stomach that won't go away. I have no get up and go at all and it feels like I'm just going through the motions of day to day life. Get up, go to work, go home, sleep. I have no desire to fill my evening with anything at all. As I said, nothing is interesting me. It's like I'm in a void, just empty. These last 2 weeks the only thing that has remotely made me smile and come out of this 'depression' is talking to this girl I'm seeing, but then as soon as we finish talking/texting my insecurities and pessimism come out to play and get me down. I'm generally worried about my mental health at the moment. I'm kinda hoping getting it off my chest will help a little. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shillzz Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Have you been to the doctor? If you can get referred for a bit of cognitive therapy you may be surprised about how well it works. Some of these people are miracle workers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiggyrichard Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 I think you should maybe see go see someone mate, go and talk to someone who can help. I know you well enough from off here to care as im sure many do, so all i will say is, please go and see someone mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AVFCLaura Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 I agree with the boys, I've PM'd you. Just know that there are always people here you can talk to. I'm glad you've taken the courage to post how you are feeling because you'll always get support here mate and I guarantee you a lot of people on here have been through similar and can help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
choffer Posted December 15, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted December 15, 2011 Friend of mine confided in me a couple of months ago that they were having almost exactly the same feelings. One trip to the doc, a few meetings with a counsellor and a couple of tiny pills later and they were telling me last night how much better they feel now. The counsellor was particularly helpful apparently, in explaining the root of much depression. It's nothing to be embarrassed about and is an imbalance that can be re-balanced with a little help. Go get it sorted, old chap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomzep Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Something has to chnge and only you can make that change. See a pro and youll be amazed how quickly they can help you figure these things out and set you on your way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shillzz Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 The other thing I'd say is that I think you'd be incredibly surprised about how many people suffer from the same kind of thing. I could have written something along the same lines about a year ago, and I'm 100% sure there will be many others here who can empathise with you. You need to look at it like an illness that needs to be cured, rather than a state of mind or a personality trait. Find yourself a way to deal with it, cure yourself, and move on. Whatever you do, you mustn't let it manifest itself, because from my experience; self-loathing is almost a self-indulging experience that can only exacerbate itself over time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted December 15, 2011 Author Share Posted December 15, 2011 Thanks guys. I do feel that just typing that helped a bit. At first I thought it was just the fact I'll be spending another Xmas alone and all that jazz. Even though I've told myself it's nothing to get worked up over nothing seems to have changed so yeah, maybe it's an underlying problem. I'll look at talking to someone about it. Maybe I just need a good cry? lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irreverentad Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Go and see someone Dante. A lot of people on here care about ya mate. I often feel a bit emotionless and I know it is something I occasionally struggle with. The lack of get up and go is down to routine. I have tried to get out of my routine. Eg go to the gym, go out with friendsw, I will also join a cookery club in the new year. Maybe that would help you to jolt yourself out of you comfort zone. The others are right though, as you are having small suicidal flashes, go and see someone before they grow longer! If you need to talk mate, let me know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
b6bloke Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 This brings back memories of about 4 years ago, I split with my exof 4 years (my choice) and went about my business and even dated but then all of a sudden i started to go through your symptoms. Thought about suicide too but it was more about not wanting to be here anymore and wasnt going to do it. After a social worker friend of mine intervened and made me realise that although I had finished it I had not morned the loss of the relationship and as I felt I had no purpose reminded me that what purposes in life I had as in being a son, a brother, a friend, a dad etc Dont underestimate what is happening Dante, mine followed with panic attacks. It does get better but have PM'd you some ideas but avoid tablets from GP! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
choffer Posted December 15, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted December 15, 2011 As good as it is to unburden yourself on here or with your mates, the only way you're going to get any real help is from someone who knows what they're doing, Dante. Get yourself into the Doc asap. He/she'll know what to do and set wheels in motion to get your noggin all fixed up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted December 15, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted December 15, 2011 Yep. Kinda been there. I agree with everybody else's advice, and I'd add two things: (1) Avoid alcohol. Not easy, I know, but it's not good for depression, not at all. (2) Exercise. Being me I'd say running because it's my thing, but also because it's easy (in the sense of not needing expensive gear or lots of partners - although partners are a VERY good idea if you can find them). It is proven as an effective counter to depression and anxiety (definitely works for me). And remember: This too, shall pass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shillzz Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 (1) Avoid alcohol. Not easy, I know, but it's not good for depression, not at all. (2) Exercise. Being me I'd say running because it's my thing, but also because it's easy (in the sense of not needing expensive gear or lots of partners - although partners are a VERY good idea if you can find them). It is proven as an effective counter to depression and anxiety (definitely works for me). From my own experience, these are 2 incredibly excellent pieces of advice. The only thing I'd add is that the exercise part becomes more effective if it involves being outside in the fresh air. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted December 15, 2011 Author Share Posted December 15, 2011 Cheers dudes. You've convinced me that I need to talk to someone about it. I would also like to add that the cigarettes are helping with the anxiety. I've recently started up again and now I have forgotten why I quit for 6 months. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GarethRDR Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Do what I do, and power-wank your troubles away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blunther Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Classic depression. Been there, done that, got some Citalopram from the quacks, feel great. Can't believe I spent about ten years of my life with it before getting help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AVFCLaura Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Classic depression. Been there, done that, got some Citalopram from the quacks, feel great. Can't believe I spent about ten years of my life with it before getting help. Had to google Citalopram and the first thing it said was: Citalopram has been found to greatly reduce the symptoms of diabetic neuropathy and premature ejaculation. Mmm hmm.... Anyway, I'd always recommend alternative therapies first before trying prescription medication fella. Much better to get to the root of the problem rather than trying to mask it. Prevention is better than cure, etc etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted December 15, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted December 15, 2011 Classic depression. Been there, done that, got some Citalopram from the quacks, feel great. Can't believe I spent about ten years of my life with it before getting help. Had to google Citalopram and the first thing it said was: Citalopram has been found to greatly reduce the symptoms of diabetic neuropathy and premature ejaculation. Mmm hmm.... Anyway, I'd always recommend alternative therapies first before trying prescription medication fella. Much better to get to the root of the problem rather than trying to mask it. Prevention is better than cure, etc etc.I agree. Nothing wrong with medication in its place, but if you can sort it without, so much the better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irreverentad Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Classic depression. Been there, done that, got some Citalopram from the quacks, feel great. Can't believe I spent about ten years of my life with it before getting help. Had to google Citalopram and the first thing it said was: Citalopram has been found to greatly reduce the symptoms of diabetic neuropathy and premature ejaculation. Mmm hmm.... Anyway, I'd always recommend alternative therapies first before trying prescription medication fella. Much better to get to the root of the problem rather than trying to mask it. Prevention is better than cure, etc etc. To be fair Laura, what if premature ejaculation was the root of his problem? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaretMahoney Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Thanks guys. I do feel that just typing that helped a bit. At first I thought it was just the fact I'll be spending another Xmas alone and all that jazz. Even though I've told myself it's nothing to get worked up over nothing seems to have changed so yeah, maybe it's an underlying problem. I'll look at talking to someone about it. Maybe I just need a good cry? lol. Crying is healthy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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