My view, too. But funerals shouldn't be about what the deceased want, it's all for the survivors, really. So I've said to my family they can do what they want, whether it's a huge ceremony or throwing me in a skip. I don't care.
What do you think the "survivors" would want? I think their main goal would be to do the deceased proud and thus telling ones family what one wants and them being able to produce that once deceased could be a better funeral for the survivors than them doing their own thing.
What im saying is maybe pretending one cares may actually be a gift to his loved ones when passing.
*excuse all the ones, just trying to not make a subject on death personal