Jonesy7211

I understand why you'd think that. I just love her with all heart and soul, it's not that easy for me. My plan, once I get home, is to speak to her definitively to get an answer. It's like living in purgatory. This week has shown me not knowing about what's going on is so much worse than knowing the truth, no matter how bad.

I've got a very mild fatty liver, but this would not cause the symptoms I have I've been told. They said it's really common in people with auto immune issues. They said they think it might be caused by an infection, which is why they're leaning towards encephalitis or meningitis. I'm on a ward waiting for more tests.

No, but she bought my lad over to see me.

I'm 42, and my diet is not too bad during the week, but on a weekend it's awful. We enjoy a takeaway with the kids on a Saturday, and I always make a Sunday roast, but it's in no way good for you. I even roast the carrots in honey I suspect the issue with my liver is more related to all the corticosteroids and strong meds I use to control my health condition. I'm probably more worried than I should be because the gent in the bed to my left has liver cancer.

For all those of you wished me luck today, I really appreciated it. Turns out not a brain tumour, but rather a virus that's caused huge issues. I'm due a lumber puncture tomorrow to check for encephalitis and meningitis. My liver is awful too. The blood tests showed my liver is in a really bad state. Weird, because for the last 7-8 years I've had very little to drink. I've probably had 12 units all year. Had a lovely day having MRI and CT scans, blood tests, ECG's and morphine.

Not trying to push this on you, but I'd recommend a company called whysup. All over social media, specialising in mental health and addiction. I attended a meeting with their MD, who really was the man who had it all, humble beginnings, but was so utterly depressed he became such a risk to himself via drink, drugs, and gambling that he was sectioned. He didn't realise he'd got into this state. He was sectioned further times because he thought nobody noticed and he could handle it and neither statement was close to the truth. There's obviously much more to it than this, and after being sectioned further times and nearly losing his life, wife, and family he eventually turned it around. All of the changes were first mental changes, but he's recognised some of these and shares his journey to positivity, analysing different steps along the way. You may get something from the videos or not, but it may help. You may in turn share this with somebody you thinks needs some kind of help. (I do not work for them, just had a really great group session with the MD)

She doesn't let me do that anymore, Farmer Giles. Fair one really.

Gammons in the hospital moaning that there's no staff and they're having to wait ages. One old boy was doing his nut. I couldn't resist so I asked him who did he vote for in 2019? He said Tories with no idea why I was asking. I told him to be quiet and blame himself, he's part of the problem. Penny dropped them. They're short staffed and tired from working long hours at night, but still doing it. Fair enough, 12 hours and counting is a long wait, but we know why the waiting times are going up.

Fingers crossed you get a positive result. I've been on immunosuppressants for 12 years and that has caused me all sorts of problems that had symptoms of other, more serious problems, but manageable once I got to the bottom of them. I hope this is the same for you.

This issue with all fans having "bias" claims are relative to the historical size of a club over the Premier League era. This has rubbed off on the fans too. The sky 7 all complain about it because they're used to getting decisions in their favour the majority of time. We, and the clubs that sit outside the sky 7 are actively expecting decisions to go against us we're outraged it keeps happening. So we're just waiting for the next decision. I'd also argue there's a worthwhile point to be argued in how we deal with the media. We're not open about our business, and after Tony left there's been no silly sound bites out of the club, we don't have any rent a gobs. Martin Samuel has previously said that journos now write more columns about the sky 7 clubs and clubs in crisis because they generate more clicks. Finally, the standard of the ex players making a living as a commentator is awful. They don't know much about any clubs they didn't play for. There's loads of Man utd and Liverpool players, and over the next few years we'll see City players getting a job there too. This will not help the situation.

Poo jokes are the best way to deal with it, the consultant will love it.

This is more true than people realise. I don't think they'll know the relief and happiness you can get when you have a great dump.

She is really close to her mum, and she's wanted to go back for a few years. She's close to her sisters and her mates too. We talk about it and always agree where we are is best for the kids for right now. They're doing very well in school and life, and have really good friends. I'm not even against the idea in principle. I feel really selfish because one the major reasons we stay is also for a health condition I have, ulcerative colitis. I have regular visits for infusions, blood tests, cameras, checkups. I'm sure she does hold that against me. I do take her up once every two or three weeks though.

Thank you for your support, like everyone else offering any advice or care, it's so greatly appreciated. I really hope she's not cheated again. It'd make me so hateful, and that's really not who I ever want to be. When I was young my parents were that way, I'm always determined not to be them.

Sorry, must have explained badly. Up until my head starting hurting a few weeks ago we were having sex 4-5 times a week, depending on what time my oldest fell asleep.

Parents will usually have different approaches, it's about how you communicate with each other. There are probably many many times she's been right and I've been wrong. Not worried about any ammo she has. My son much prefers me. He's old enough for his opinion to matter in court. Also I've still got evidence she cheated, on an old phone. Lots of apologies admitting what happened.

I don't mean to be a control freak, I just find it hard not to understand why someone would split up a family. I could understand if I was in the pub all the time (I've been out without her twice in six month), if I cheated on her, I beat her and the kids, if I didn't support them, do housework (I do a lot more), beat them, or treat them badly. I just want to talk to her so I can understand. She might say something that I didn't consider a problem, and I can either make changes or agree to leave them for a better life.

In all honesty, no. We still have (had) a healthy sex life after all these years. This is quite likely a sexist and biased view, but my life experience tells me women associate sex with love, unlike men. That being said she cheated on me before I was diagnosed with depression, when I was at my lowest and needed her the most.

Thank you for sharing, it's appreciated. It happened in a similar way to us. I asked my son to finish his homework, as he has kick boxing on Monday, football on Tuesday, and swimming on Wednesday. I said he'd be up too late in the week to finish otherwise. He threw some insults at me, and it went from there as she disagreed and accused me of making him do an impossible task, when I never said. It was meant to be lesson in not leaving things, and freeing up time in the future. I sincerely hope it turns around, like it did for you.

I tried that when I apologized, to which her response was "that's not an excuse". She walked away and told me to leave her alone.

I don't dare call them at the moment, I don't want her to hear or misconstrue anything I say to them. I've messaged my close mates and we're going to have a WhatsApp conf call at lunch tomorrow. Not knowing is killing me. I struggle with anxiety anyway, so my head really wasn't in the best place before all this. Even if there have been things I've been doing wrong, I'd like to work on what it is.

I can't imagine a worse thing to do to me. My dad was the worst father and husband. Physically abusive to me and his first two wives, only thought about himself, knobbed everything with a pulse, going on several boys holidays a year whilst we didn't go anywhere etc. I've gone the other way and they always come before me because I suffered from my dad's behaviours. I don't doubt there's something else at play, but she simply won't talk to me. Thank-you for your sympathy, it genuinely means a lot.

My wife asked for a divorce today. I love her with all my heart, and I don't know what to do. We had a fall out over the kids behaviour, and I went overboard as she just wouldn't listen to opinion. Only interested in what she thought. I shouted at her for being a hypocrite, which I know I shouldn't have. I did apologize a few hours later. To which she responded she wanted a divorce. Two things stand out. I've been with her longer than I haven't been (23 years) since I was 19. I can't imagine being without her, and being alone. I've given up so much for her. I've always fought for her and what she wants. The other thing is my kids. I can't imagine living in a world where I don't see them everyday. It sends me into despair. I'm also very ill, and waiting to find out if I've got a brain tumour. Appointment is on Thursday. I've been having severe headaches for a while, can't stop sweating, light sensitive, poor balance, and I'm confused a lot. When I saw the doc last week he asked why I'd waited for so long. I'm utterly terrified, and my behaviour is probably worse because of it. Just for clarity, I think I'm a good husband and father. I give them everything that is important. Time, love, money, and encouragement. I even forgave my wife when she cheated on me 10 years ago. I just don't understand what's brought this on. She won't even talk to me. I've never lifted my hands towards her, never treated as less than an equal and my best friend. I have my negative side, like a lot of men. I do try to work on them though. She's thinks I can't hear her, but she's already speaking to the kids about moving upto Liverpool to live with her mom. When we met she lived at home with her mom, but moved to Tamworth with me as there were better opportunities here for her as a social worker with a degree in criminology. My son doesn't want to go though.

Disappointing from Sky too. They silence was deafening. No way that they don't show that 30 times and Carragher spits all over the mic if that's gone for us.

VAR doing it's bit for the immoral Geordie Saudis. Over the line and the handball, take your pick.