On the racism/defending the culture issue - I find this all very difficult.
If you have chosen, or at least your family did, to come to the UK and reside, and contribute to the community/economy, send your children to school here etc. it is unbelieveable to think that you would then expect them to behave like they are living in a mud hut in Bangalore when it comes to finding a husband/wife.
I have a very close friend who is Shikh and whilst married now and sorted to a partner of her choice, she has been through hell to get there, when all her family wanted to do was palm her off on the first person to ask if he could marry her.
On the OP - yes Indian girls are hot!!