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Thought I would add a definitions:


Definition: Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge."

When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.

Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk.

Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population.


Definition: Most people believe that an extrovert is a person who is friendly and outgoing. While that may be true, that is not the true meaning of extroversion. Basically, an extrovert is a person who is energized by being around other people. This is the opposite of an introvert who is energized by being alone.

Extroverts tend to "fade" when alone and can easily become bored without other people around. When given the chance, an extrovert will talk with someone else rather than sit alone and think. In fact, extroverts tend to think as they speak, unlike introverts who are far more likely to think before they speak. Extroverts often think best when they are talking. Concepts just don't seem real to them unless they can talk about them; reflecting on them isn't enough.

Extroverts enjoy social situations and even seek them out since they enjoy being around people. Their ability to make small talk makes them appear to be more socially adept than introverts (although introverts may have little difficulty talking to people they don't know if they can talk about concepts or issues).

Extrovert behavior seems to be the standard in American society, which means that other behavior is judged against the ways an extrovert would behave. However, extroverted behavior is simply a manifestation of the way an extrovert interacts with the world. Extroverts are interested in and concerned with the external world.

If these are not very good, then please someone post a better definitions.

For what it is worth, I'm certainly an introvert with decent social skills (I like to think!). I need alone time, even from the GF.

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I'm certainly more to the introvert side of the scale. However, when I get comfortable with another person's personality that person or group of people can make me very extrovert. Alcohol does help too :)

I guess some of it is down to being a bit shy, but the definition given above does fit me quite well. While I like to believe that my social skills are quite ok I have no problems being alone with my thoughts and solitude rarely bores me. If I've been social for a period of time, I can find myself in need of some alone time. And if there's something that really bores me it is indeed trivial chat. I rarely avoid social situations though, I just don't always actively seek them. If invited to a party I'll go and usually have a splendid time but I almost never take the initiative myself, often to be mistaken for being boring. Though I may be a bit boring anyway.

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89% Introvert... on the rest of the Myers-Briggs scale:

50% Intuitive

62% Thinking

1% Judging

(thus an INTJ)

David Keirsey"]

All Rationals are good at planning operations, but Masterminds are head and shoulders above all the rest in contingency planning. Complex operations involve many steps or stages, one following another in a necessary progression, and Masterminds are naturally able to grasp how each one leads to the next, and to prepare alternatives for difficulties that are likely to arise any step of the way. Trying to anticipate every contingency, Masterminds never set off on their current project without a Plan A firmly in mind, but they are always prepared to switch to Plan B or C or D if need be.

Masterminds are rare, comprising no more than, say, one percent of the population, and they are rarely encountered outside their office, factory, school, or laboratory. Although they are highly capable leaders, Masterminds are not at all eager to take command, preferring to stay in the background until others demonstrate their inability to lead. Once they take charge, however, they are thoroughgoing pragmatists. Masterminds are certain that efficiency is indispensable in a well-run organization, and if they encounter inefficiency-any waste of human and material resources-they are quick to realign operations and reassign personnel. Masterminds do not feel bound by established rules and procedures, and traditional authority does not impress them, nor do slogans or catchwords. Only ideas that make sense to them are adopted; those that don't, aren't, no matter who thought of them. Remember, their aim is always maximum efficiency.

In their careers, Masterminds usually rise to positions of responsibility, for they work long and hard and are dedicated in their pursuit of goals, sparing neither their own time and effort nor that of their colleagues and employees. Problem-solving is highly stimulating to Masterminds, who love responding to tangled systems that require careful sorting out. Ordinarily, they verbalize the positive and avoid comments of a negative nature; they are more interested in moving an organization forward than dwelling on mistakes of the past.

Masterminds tend to be much more definite and self-confident than other Rationals, having usually developed a very strong will. Decisions come easily to them; in fact, they can hardly rest until they have things settled and decided. But before they decide anything, they must do the research. Masterminds are highly theoretical, but they insist on looking at all available data before they embrace an idea, and they are suspicious of any statement that is based on shoddy research, or that is not checked against reality.

Others with my personality type are: Alan Greenspan, Ben Bernanke (lofty company with those two ;) ), Eisenhower, US Grant, Nietsche, Niels Bohr, Peter the Great, Hawking, Keynes, Lise Meitner (whoooo?), Ayn Rand, Isaac Newton, Andy Grove, and Hillary Clinton

Fairly standard Myers-Briggs test

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Your Type is: ENFJ

ENFJs are the benevolent 'pedagogues' of humanity. They have tremendous charisma by which many are drawn into their nurturant tutelage and/or grand schemes. Many ENFJs have tremendous power to manipulate others with their phenomenal interpersonal skills and unique salesmanship. But it's usually not meant as manipulation -- ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers, which they usually are.

ENFJs are global learners. They see the big picture. The ENFJs focus is expansive. Some can juggle an amazing number of responsibilities or projects simultaneously. Many ENFJs have tremendous entrepreneurial ability.

ENFJs know and appreciate people. Like most NFs, (and Feelers in general), they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. ENFJs often take on more of the burdens of others than they can bear.

Famous ENFJs:

Michael Jordan, NBA basketball player

Pete Sampras, Tennis Champion

U.S. Presidents:

Abraham Lincoln

Ronald Reagan

Barack Obama

Extraverted 11%

Intuitive 62%

Feeling 12%

Judging 1%

You are:

slightly expressed extravert

distinctively expressed intuitive personality

slightly expressed feeling personality

slightly expressed judging personality

Pretty interesting actually... Good question PV and good link Levi.

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Helen Fisher has done some research in personality types and their connections to neurochemistry and relationships. Translating from her types to Myers-Briggs, she theorizes that three best personality matches are (the middle two of the MB scale are the main bases):

* NT with NF (the testosterone dominated NT is complementary with the estrogen dominated NF)

* SP with SP (both tend to be impulsive thrill-seekers, thanks to higher-than-normal levels of dopamine)

* SJ with SJ (both crave absolute stability, thanks to a serotonin-based neurochemistry)

She puts this forward as the reason why there's disagreement on whether opposites attract or like attracts like: depending on personality, one may prefer the opposite or not (though across the board, intuitives prefer intuitives and sensings prefer sensings). She hypothesizes that there are physical indicators of neurochemistry that are instinctively recognized by those of the matching type (I focused on the NT/NF pairing when reading her book at Barnes & Noble a while back... and she described the typical NT as being tall, on the thinner side (which I guess I still qualify as, apart from a pot belly), having a substantially longer ring finger than index finger (my ring finger's nail starts after my index finger ends!), etc. and having a preference for curvier women (which is an obvious indication of higher estrogen levels...)... not a bad description of me, if I do say so myself).

If with an NT, the question to ask is "What do you think?". If with an NF, it's "What do you feel?". If with an SP, it's "What do you do?", and with an SJ, it's "Who do you know?".

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