“She didn’t wear much so she was asking for it”, is the epitome of condoning rape, and victim blaming, so unless I have read this wrong I will stand by my comment, but on the second point I completely agree. On a physical level, a man groping a woman is completely different to a woman groping a man, because the fear factor. Also, it does happen a lot for barmen and there was no novelty factor for me. It always made me feel uncomfortable but never physically intimidated, and as I said, any complaint were just laughed off.