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Sounds to me that Whelan is getting twitchy. Only ourselves have bid, they cannot do anything in regards to transfers until he is sold and N'Zogbia is rumoured to be thinking of striking (which may lower his value) I think we can get him for £9m

Hahahaaha! Genius!. Just the image I had of him

With squinty eyes and an abnormally large right arm! Like an internet addicted version of hellboy.

My god B6. I love your posts but they don't half terrify me for when I eventually drag my arse back onto the dating scene! haha

Even if she wanted to I could not take her back in the future. It would always be in the back of my mind that she was not happy. And I would try to over compensate to make her happy. I think someone should love you for who you are. I hope I have handled it well but I do feel like a wimpy clearing in the woods in trying to make sure she is ok before handling my own feelings. But as I said how can I be angry at someone for being honest to me. I love her too much for that. I drove down to my parents yesterday night arrived at 4am. They have been great in helping put me back together although I know it will be a long process. I need to find out how to enjoy 'me' . I need to discover who I am. As all I have known is what 'we' like and our shared goals. I am going to do an open uni course (already have economics degree) and some charity work to try and find me! I know things will be amicable and we have agreed on on of the stuff we have and our lowest price for the house so there will be no arguments in the future. We will just have to pigeons with each other until it is sold.

Thanks for all advice guys. I am sorry to say that after we talked last night the marriage is over. I cannot do anything unless she wants to try. She says it would be giving me false hope. I could see in her eyes that there was nothing there but friendship. It is the most painful thing that has ever happened. 48 hours ago I thought my marriage was perfect and now it is gone. We have agreed to sell the house and car and I will lose the dog we have had since it was a puppy. It hurts more that I cannot be angry with her as I love her. The crazy thing is that I AK the one comforting her eg seeing if she has people to talk to, telling her not to be upset, saying to her that if she is leaving me then she better do something great with her life. It would be much easier if I could call her every name under the sun. The one thing I take out if this is that I will never fully commit to someone again. As now when I think things are going well I will be doubtful and paranoid that they are not and I cannot open myself up to this pain again. I am 29 and I have not been in the.dating game since I was 18 and I am scared I will never find anyone else. It is a bit self pitying but I now have no clue on how to handle a relationship.

Thanks pal, You offer some really good advice. She is my life and I really thought we would be together until we died. I cannot understand why she did not try to talk months ago when she was first unhappy. Maybe it is shock but while I will NOT allow myself to become a doormat I cannot see life with out her.

This may sound stupid but I am almost certain she is not physically cheating. It is whether she is emotionally wanting someone else.

I agree. I am sick of the don't knows. I would rather have a definate answer. I just in two minds about whether to pressurize her into an answer at this stage. As I said I am stunned. No idea at all.

With a potential divorce on the cards and all the financial pitfalls that could occur she'd be mad to admit to seeing someone else. She knows it would be a 50/50 split and we would sell the house for not much more than we bought it for 6 years ago. No kids involved either. So she has nothing to lose. I really wan to rescue our marriage but I don't want to keep making her unhappy. Tamuff is talking a lot of sense. Go to the gym and see for yourself what is going on. Insist that that is what you are going to do. You probably aren't doing anything wrong mate so do not blame yourself. While I am pretty sure she is not cheating. I might just turn up and make a suprise visit rather than tell her I will go. I want to fight for my marriage BUT she has to want it too otherwise whats the point. She told me this morning that she wouldshould both think things over today and she will have made a decision by tonight. WTF!!!??? I replied that I don't need to think about things as I took our vows seriously. No I am at work waiting for her to see if she wants to make our marriage worked. It is so messed up! This time yesterday I thought we were the most solid couple in the world and that we would always be together.

With a potential divorce on the cards and all the financial pitfalls that could occur she'd be mad to admit to seeing someone else. She knows it would be a 50/50 split and we would sell the house for not much more than we bought it for 6 years ago. No kids involved either. So she has nothing to lose. I really wan to rescue our marriage but I don't want to keep making her unhappy.

Hi mate, really sorry to hear that. I'm in a scarily similar situation to you in that I've been with my OH for 11 years, married for 3, and yes I've put on a few extra pounds these last few years so should probably get my house in order! Is your OH mixing in any different circles lately? Spending more time on the Internet (Facebook?) for example. Much like in employment, I don't think people generally try to end a relationship unless they think they have something better to go to. Hi Tamuff, Thanks for the reply. I have thought about if she is seing someone else but she does not have time. She picks me up after work about 5:30pm. Then she goes to the gym and we spend our weekends together generally. She has lost a lot of weight in the last few months so the gym thing checks out. I just don't know what I can do. I asked her if it would help if we spend more time together ie date night or I lose some weight and I keep getting the non committal answer. She has never said the weight was the problem but I fear as she has lost a bit she might now think she is better than me. I am just devastated that after being together for 11 years she does not want to fight for our relationship. I am in a state of shock and cannot really believe it is happening to me. I feel I am in a nightmare. Honestly there was no clues. I surely deserve more of an explanation.

Hi Guys, Really needing some advice here. My wife of 3 years (together for 11 years) told me last night that she thought we should split up. She told me that she loves me but is not 'in love with me'. This was not said during an arguement (we don't ever really argue), I turned around to her and asked her if anything was wrong as she looked a bit down. I was shocked as I thought things were good and we wanted the same things in life. I can be very lazy and have become a bit chubbier over the years and I have said I will go to the gym. She said she doesn't know if she can recreate the 'spark'. I have asked for a chance to change and prove to her that I can make our marriage work. I am just confused why she does not want to fight at all. When I ask her if she wants to try she says "I don't know". I have asked he if she fancies/seeing anyone else but she swerars she is not. I am frustrated as I don't know how or if I can fix things. Even if I can in the short-term, it will always be in the back of my mind that she is not attracted to me. But I love her so much. My vows meant something to me and that is why I want to fight. I am sorry if this is all jumbled but I am finding it hard to think straight. Any one got any advice or been in the same position?

I am pretty sure he did the the pre-season before his breakout year at Man City. I think with Ireland it is more to do with his mental state. If this helps him feel prepared and puts him in a good state of mind then great. I would also hope that his wife's car accident has helped him become more focused in wanting a achieve something in his life. These incidents have a habit at making you appreciate your situation. Good luck to him. If he gets it right he could be massive for us.

depends how he does next year and how he does for england What, when Carroll & Rooney are upfront? Bent has always scored goals and never gone to one of the top 4 or 5 (depending on your view of Spurs). At 27, we ARE his big career move.

Agreed

Unfortunately I fear you may be right. He wont be here next season I fear He will be. Besides the fact we will strengthen in the coming weeks, who will buy him? United- Nope Chelsea- Nope Man City- Will want a 'bigger name' Arsenal- Would be a good fit but Wenger won't pay big for a 27 yo Liverpool - Suarez & Carroll so Nope Spurs- Not again Where do you think he will go? Should have been clearer, he wont be here for the 12/13 season. Who do you think we will strenghten with in the coming weeks? I dont think I am as optimistic as you on that front Not sure. But they will be players who want to play for us. Things like this happen all the time. It goes in cycles. A new team will be built. Best comparison I can make is the season where Little signed Draper, Milosevic & Southgate. New heroes will come along and crewate optimism. Randy will not let the team slide down the table because in the long term it reduces commercial revenue, Kudos, Pride & fans/customers. Therefore, I am sure he will give funds to McLeish. Anyway our CEO only gets back either today or tomorrow.

Unfortunately I fear you may be right. He wont be here next season I fear He will be. Besides the fact we will strengthen in the coming weeks, who will buy him? United- Nope Chelsea- Nope Man City- Will want a 'bigger name' Arsenal- Would be a good fit but Wenger won't pay big for a 27 yo Liverpool - Suarez & Carroll so Nope Spurs- Not again Where do you think he will go?

Not sure if it has been mentioned, but the line on the bottom of the BBC report reads: "And while reports suggest Villa are holding out for £20m, BBC Sport understands the club do not want to lose Downing at any price."

I thought he had a bust up with Bentley and Bentley stormed out before a match...

Ireland might just work behind Bent. Bent makes runs and seems to prefer the ball coming through the middle of the park rather than out wide. Is McLeish the kind of manager to put an arm around him though?

Wow. Thats some meltdown...

There are some drama queens around this week.

I think it's anything but steady. It could prove to be a masterstroke, but more likely be a disaster. Half decent manager, Decent team - Steady Top half finish for me. I cant see the potential masterstroke as much as i cant see the disaster half decent manager? **** dont tease me, we are getting a shit manager lets not kid ourselves or wander into the world of make believe his english premier league record is shit, it is consistantly shit in fact he has got the most constantly shit record in the premier league, THAT is just how shit he is. people can talk shit about hibs or rangers or scotland and say he did a good job there, great, that is scotland where mighty managers such as gordon strachan, billy mcneil, terry butcher and other managerial heavy weights win titles each year.and what did he do in his last season for rangers? have a good old guess? yes he led them to 3rd in the scottish league, their worst performance in 20 years in the league yippppppeeeeee You forgot Martin O'Neill and Alex Ferguson

£2m is probably so we can be on good terms with them when we go in for Foster, Dann or whoever