Dante_Lockhart

I sort of stuck around, kept asking her what was wrong, made an effort etc... She's apologised, is thankful that I'm awesome and we had a wicked weekend. Basically it was like we'd just started dating again.

wooooooaaaaahhh, they HATE that.

Would have to agree here.

If you say it too often, then they'll start to ask themselves what's wrong, even if nothing was wrong in the first place.

It's like you shouldn't natter on about your own imperfections too much, because whilst they probably would'nt have noticed it in the first place, you're just drawing more and more attention to it until it starts to bother them too!

If I know something is wrong, then I'll ask. And I knew something was wrong. It's all good.

Dante, did you manage to sort everything out?

Yeah, it's all good. She admitted she was a bit offish and she usually does it around that time into a relationship. Everything starts pissing her off about the person and then they get the hump and it ends.

I sort of stuck around, kept asking her what was wrong, made an effort etc... She's apologised, is thankful that I'm awesome and we had a wicked weekend. Basically it was like we'd just started dating again.

Have a great time wiggy, just don't turn up to the wedding smashed out your mind and looking like this

Or, ya know, DO that.

Curlbros

Grow a moustache whilst you're over there.

If he wanted a new contract, he should have played better. Simples

My problem with that is this quote

"But they said nothing. And yet in the past I had turned down offers to leave because I was told I would be given a new contract and would play!"

In honour of the inventor of the TV remote control who died today, there will be a minutes mute.

Apparently the inventor of the TV remote's coffin lid has gone missing. So they've had to sellotape him in.

Dab. Don't wipe.

Date night could be a good idea. Set aside one night a week where we just hang out and do something together rather than just coasting through the week making do.

Would probably make me feel better and like I'm getting some attention.

Can I have some testosterone whilst you're over there wiggy?

Guess I'll see how the next few weeks go. Try and make some changes for the better but if I'm getting no response so to speak then you're probably right. Just love her to bits, actually welling up just thinking about ending it with her.

Dante, mate, you cant make someone fall in love with you, it just happens.

If she is not 100% all in after 6 months then you have to ask, does she want this as much as you do? If the answer to this question is 'no' or 'not sure'...then sorry dude but its never going to work.

Both people have to want it to work, if they dont, then there is no point continuing half arsed.

She says she does love me to bits. She says she wants this to work. She just needs some time to herself every now and again without me clinging to her, which is understandable.

How ofter do you see her in a week, pal?

We always spend the night together, either at mine or hers, unless she's at her day job (24 hour shift). A lot of the time we have a lot on during the evenings so don't get much quality time together like we used to (gym, visiting family, bowling, working at home, pottering about, general stuff) and I don't see her in the morning as I'm up and out for work at 7:30.

I'm just the kind of person who needs attention and affection. Can't help it.

Guess I'll see how the next few weeks go. Try and make some changes for the better but if I'm getting no response so to speak then you're probably right. Just love her to bits, actually welling up just thinking about ending it with her.

Dante, mate, you cant make someone fall in love with you, it just happens.

If she is not 100% all in after 6 months then you have to ask, does she want this as much as you do? If the answer to this question is 'no' or 'not sure'...then sorry dude but its never going to work.

Both people have to want it to work, if they dont, then there is no point continuing half arsed.

She says she does love me to bits. She says she wants this to work. She just needs some time to herself every now and again without me clinging to her, which is understandable.

She got me a heart shaped ornament saying 'You are my happy ending' the other day. >_>

Just as an example, last night kind of tipped me over the edge.

I'd made a 3 course meal for her as a surprise. (see food topic). Rather than it being a grateful 'Oh WOW Thank babe, love you *kisskisskiss*' etc... It was a 'I'd have done it this way, could have done with more food on the plate, but thanks for trying'.

Kind of a kick in the bollocks tbh.

Guess I'll see how the next few weeks go. Try and make some changes for the better but if I'm getting no response so to speak then you're probably right. Just love her to bits, actually welling up just thinking about ending it with her.

I can see where you're coming from, but I can't help but think I'm making it sound worse than it is (it's my way).

i wonder what they look for in the chest x-ray?

Aliens.

Whats gone on then Craig? What made you feel it was going the same way as the last relationship?

Started out all over each other, affectionate, talking all night, texting all day etc... now it's just, well I'm not seeing her as much due to work, her working on her own company and stuff, we've not had sex in 2 weeks (this is getting to me more because she gets naked at shows and lapdances I suppose) and things just seem more offish. BUT, that's just me seeing things in my own way.

She said last night that she needs her own space otherwise I'll end up pushing her away, which hurt, but made me realise that maybe I am a bit smothering at times.

Things do fade a little after a while as you both settle into a routine and become more comfortable around it each, that part is natural.

Im not sure of the "i need my own space" thing tho mate!?!? :?

Just play it cool and dont seem over keen and like your really bothered about it.

I can agree with what Ad says also. I think you need to ask her where you stand on this one mate...because reading between the lines as an outsider, things aint right mate.

I have asked, we had a chat last night. She doesn't wanna feel smothered is all, which is what I'm doing. I know I am. It's like I can't function when I'm by myself. She wasn't telling me to back off, she was just saying she's the kind of person who likes to have a little time to do her own thing. We're both still trying to merge our very different weekly routines together and it's a struggle. It'll come together though. I'm willing to sacrifice to make it work.

Whats gone on then Craig? What made you feel it was going the same way as the last relationship?

Started out all over each other, affectionate, talking all night, texting all day etc... now it's just, well I'm not seeing her as much due to work, her working on her own company and stuff, we've not had sex in 2 weeks (this is getting to me more because she gets naked at shows and lapdances I suppose) and things just seem more offish. BUT, that's just me seeing things in my own way.

She said last night that she needs her own space otherwise I'll end up pushing her away, which hurt, but made me realise that maybe I am a bit smothering at times.

What are you insecure about buddy?

Myself mainly haha.

I was just seeing similarities between how my last relationship ended and how this one was going, but I was probably making it worse by linking things together that I shouldn't. Just my pessimistic nature.

I've acknowledged it and I'll work on thinking more positively. I'm not messing this up.

Did it go well?

On a side note: **** my insecurities. **** them up the ass.

Turns out a female peacock isn't called a peac*nt..

you've eaten them though surely?

Nothing wrong with sticking an extra one or two in... just to test you understand

Chefs are rarely thin ;-)

Only the ones from the chippy for 20p 8)

How does one know when they are cooked properly? I've never cooked them before!

Starter sounds interesting/brave. Good luck!

Hazelnut Butter Grilled Scallops w/ Salad

Scallops.

- 1tsp olive oil

- 1 shallot, peeled, finely sliced

- 75g butter, softened

- 1/2 lemon, zest only

- 1 tbsp finely chopped fresh chervil

- 1 tbsp finely chopped fresh chives

- 45g hazelnuts, finely chopped

- salt and fresh ground pepper

- 6 scallops, cleaned

Salad.

- 1/2 tbsp wholegrain mustard

- 1/2 tbsp good quality white wine vinegar

- 1 1/2 tbsp good quality rapeseed oil

- 1 little gem lettuce, leaves separated

- 1 punnet pea shoots

Preparation.

- For the scallops heat a frying pan until warm. Add the olive oil and shallot and fry gently until softened but not coloured

- Place the butter into a bowl and add the cooked shallot, along with all the remaining scallop ingredients, except the scallops. Season, to taste, with salt and freshly ground pepper and mix well

- Preheat the grill to high

- Place the scallops onto a grill tray and top each one with a spoonful of the hazelnut butter. Place under the grill for 3-4 minutes or until just cooked through. Remove from the grill and set aside to rest for 1 minute.

- For the salad, whisk the mustard, vinegar and oil together in a bowl. Place the lettuce leaves and pea shoots into a bowl, drizzle over the dressing and stir to coat.

- To serve, place 3 scallops onto each of 2 serving plates and serve with a pile of salad.

Good job I searched for this thread before starting another. I'd have been lynched!

Anyways, I'm not a great cook but I can get by. I'm great at recipes I've done before but I'm crap at following a recipe that is new to me. I tend to over think it and mess it up somehow. Usually by getting times and stuff wrong. I tend to keep things simple. Chicken/Turkey, mince meet, pastas, the occasional roast etc.. Well I thought I'd really try and do something special for the missus so tomorrow night I shall be attempting...

Starter: Hazelnut butter grilled scallops with salad

Main Course: Grilled lamb with fondant potatoes and slow-roasted tomatoes

Desert: Eton Mess

Going shopping tonight to get the massive list of ingredients I need.

I reckon once I've prepped all the stuff reading for cooking I should be good to go. Just gotta take my time.

Im sure the young pretender (Dante) will fill the void in my absence!