irreverentad

There is no person in the world that would turn down 60K pay rise and the chance to win things at the highest level. Unless they completely lacked ambition of course.

steve bull, le tissier...

Le Tissier did suffer a total lack of ambition.

I am actually pretty glad he did suffer it. Southampton built their team around him therefore he could showcase his talent to the maximum. Brilliant player.

If he had gone to a bigger club that would not have happened.

The sacrifice is he never won anything. But he is Xavi's boyhood idol.

i note we're getting linked with a lot of the same players as sunderland. obviously lazy journalism, but makes me worry that we might actually be in for the same kind of players as mon is, which is certainly not a good omen

The players Lambert has actually signed would indicate the opposite.

Yeah, what Eames said, can you help with any of the bankruptcy admin for example?

Offered to help her go through her forms with her. But she doesn't want me to. Her family are a nightmare.

I have been taking the little one out for walks while she cracks on with study and stuff.

Not sure what more I can do?

I love helping her with that but I just thing we need to go out as just us a bit more.

It was one of the things that failed in my marriage

and the fact she turned lesbian :winkold:

I understand it has been a tough road with this lady but it seems like the current 'setback' is due to her trying to get a career off the ground and do something for herself. I'd give it a bit more time but of course, let her know how you feel.

Thats why I said "one of the things" :winkold: yup the other was her hunger for clunge!!!

The nursing thing has been blown out of proportions. It is one of the things, but by no means the only thing. As I said there are many spinning plates!

Sorry Ad, I wasn't having a go and I'm sure you realise all this stuff. Sometimes you just want to hear somebody else tell you what you already know for confirmation, I do anyway.

I understand how you feel too though. If you didn't like her as much as you did then you wouldn't be feeling so bad about not seeing her as much at the moment.

Depending on how long-term you think this relationship could be, you have to decide whether or not this is what you want for the next couple of years, but like I said, finding someone to care about so much isn't easy. Keep yourself busy and try venting about it to other people. Having the same argument with her and making her feel bad isn't fair on her and it'll make you feel like shit too.

I know you weren't pal. It was good advice. Your advice is the reason I feel a bit of a dick having a go at her about it.

I would love the relationship to be long term as she is amazing but I cannot build it on the foundations of hardly seeing her and just sitting in her flat all the time when I do.

Sorry mate, but it sounds to me like at the first sign of trouble you're thinking of getting out...

You think this is the first sign of trouble? We have had death threats, racist abuse with her kid, her marital home being repossessed, her ex track her down, her mum being rushed into hospital etc....not even close.

I am not looking or wanting to get out.

But I need some quality time with her. It was one of the things that failed in my marriage the fact that me and my wife never did anything together and I will not repeat that mistake twice.

To be honest, any woman who would put her relationship before her children isn't any kind of woman I would want to be dating, just saying. I'm going to go out on a limb here but I suspect that the whole thing with training to be a nurse is not just for her sake but to ensure she can provide for her kid.

I guess it really comes down to how much you think she is worth putting your relationship a little on hold. If you absolutely love spending time with her and she's one of the most fantastic people you've ever met then I'd say stick it out. Things will get easier, if only you get used to them more. Maybe you should take up a hobby or spend the free time you now get when she's so busy doing other things that you didn't have time for before. Having free time and not doing much with it will just make you think of her and that will eventually cause you to get angry about her not having time for you and guilt for feeling this way despite knowing what she's going through.

Speaking as a guy who has been single for a while and will be for at least the next year or so due to studying to get a better career (so perhaps I can empathise with your lady friend there although she has way more pressure than I do) it's bloody hard finding someone you connect with and people like that shouldn't be discarded so easily.

It all comes down to how you feel about her and whether you think she is worth the wait.

I got into this relationship fully understanding that her son would be No.1 and her retraining is one of the things I feel most proud about.

I feel strongly about her and she is amazing it is just I hate hardly seeing her. In the last 7 days I have seen her last Saturday evening for the night about 3 hours then the next morning for a couple of hours before she went on placement. Just frustrated.

But she is special.

i work with aload of nurses and i dont see how she doesnt have any time to spend with you? yes there is studying involved and you work but none of the ones i speak to have this problem with their relationships

The problem isn't the nursing alone. It is the other issues and time pressures like her son, going through bankruptcy, Divorce, her family etc etc.

Her son is the main one as she has a complex about not being there for him eg single parent and DV victim. He still comes through to her bed at night which is hugely annoying.

However, because the other time pressure are so sensitive I feel like a Grade A clearing in the woods for not being more understanding. But it feels a bit like I have a text/housesit relationship with her at the moment.

You say you've told her all this. Maybe tell her from a different angle? As in tell her the same point but approach it differently. Without me knowing how you've already told her and without knowing whether ot not you're a good communicator (these are the things an internet forum doesn't tell you) all I can do is say that you need to tell her in such a way that she doesn't feel like the one being blamed but that she understands you're not inconsequential and that you can't simply be forgotten while she goes through it all. It's a tricky balance though. I don't envy you. It'd probably be pretty easy to make her think like you're being selfish. You just have to manage to convince her that you're not being selfish but that you still want some fun and that life doesn't stop in the meantime.

I will do.

Last night was the first hit at it and I did it while I was pissed off that she wouldn't come to Manchester with me on Saturday. So it wasn't handled great. Shouldn't have done it while angry. Although to be fair she understood my issues but just got upset with herself. But had no real plan to change it.

How long does it take to become a nurse?

3 years. She has just over 2 left.

Right back to serious relationship advice needed.........

Girl I am currently seeing I have been with her for about 9 or 10 months.

She has a lot of stuff going on at the moment. She is studying to be a nurse, currently on 8 week placement, going through bankruptcy and she has a 3 year old child. For the last month or so she is juggling so many plates that I seem to be the one to get dropped all the time. Weekends, if she is not working on placement, consist of me going round to hers and staying in and having the day with her and her son. It is great but it is just getting a bit dull.

Date nights have stopped and time which we spend alone together out of the house has nearly dried up. I understand that this is because she feels guilty about being on placement all week then doing paperwork and study and not getting as much time as possible with her son.

I feel like a bastard as there are things I want to do with her eg go away for the night, or go into Manchester early evening round the shops, have a meal then go to a few bars etc. Therefore I get pissed off when she says she can't.

We usually see each other twice a week then all weekend. However because she has been on mainly lates eg not getting back til 9:30/10pm I have hardly seen her. Also she was working last weekend. Therefore when I do see her I want quality time with just me and her and not sitting in her flat.

I know I sound like a selfish clearing in the woods, and her kid is great, but I just want some adult time too.

I have told her this and it upsets her because she feels I am blaming her.

I am proud that she is changing her life re job, domestic violence victim in the past etc but what is the point if I never get alone time with her???

What do i do?

i would much rather we gamble 6-8 mil on an overseas striker, been a long time since we signed Angel so bought time we risked the international striker market.

let MON pay Fletcher 80k a week.

Angel probably put us off going back into that market.

Oi! explain yourself - and it best not be a pop at the Juan and only!

The complexities of that deal due to 3rd party ownership was huge. I seem to remember we did the transaction through the FA so nothing could come back on us.

A return of 44 goals in 173 games 1 goal ever 4 games) is not good for a £9.5m striker now and certainly not bought 10 years ago.

I wonder if he wasn't South American if he would be so revered.

The one on the left would get it!

*squirts* Gareth?

Haha. Does look similar.

The one on the left would get it!

Anyone for a 30 year old virgin?

We've been over this before Ad, not interested. :!:

I've shaved down there now!!!

Anyone for a 30 year old virgin?

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Pendleton looks like the kind of girl who might surprise you in bed, perhaps the kind of girl to wear crotchless underwear and stick a finger up your ass.

Ennis on the other hand looks like the kind of girl who'd giggle at the thought of going into Ann Summers.

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Watch the documentary about Pendleton! She is an emotional wreck.

She is more likely the type of girl who only does missionary and instead of going for Round 2 likes to roll round and have a cuddle.

Ennis looks keen to try new things. She is a heptathlete after all! :winkold:

After watching that documentary the other week, Pendleton seems like the type who would cry after sex. But hey maybe i'm doing it wrong!

The reason for all these pages? Some muppet itk from twitter?

A poster on a Sunderland forum actually. Nothing to do with Twitter initially.

Oh that's ok then, we're defiantly in for him.

Who knows if we are or not.

What I will say is both Abraham and Kendrick have written articles in the last couple of weeks saying we are at the very least interested in him.

The reason for all these pages? Some muppet itk from twitter?

A poster on a Sunderland forum actually. Nothing to do with Twitter initially.

The main problem is I cannot believe for the life of me that Fletcher is worth £13m. Then I try and rack my brains to think of a good alternative that would be realistic. I cannot.

It is slim pickings out there for teams to buy strikers.

Although he still is not worth anywhere near £13m!

I am relaxed. Even if we do bid for him and it get accepted, I would have thought he would want to leave Wolves on good terms and not leave for a local rival. And more relevant, I would expect MON to give him a stupid wage where we wouldn't.

The people who are against drugs are pretty likely to have either no clue at all / never touched them / don't understand at all but are media led.

Sorry but that is horse shit.

I have never touched drugs, out of personal choice. I am against them but I am not media led.

I have read (not in newspapers etc) about the effects and risks both physical and social. I also have seen the effects on friends who choose to take them. 2 especially who were affected very badly.

Drugs are a personal choice. But to say the people who are against them are just media led is silly.

I think if it's anyone then it'll be Newcastle.

Screams Fulham to me.

I think we're in for another player from the Eredivisie. A 22 year old Right/Fullback called Cuco Martina from RKC Waalwijk. But the mid-table Premier League club wants to remain discrete. Apperently PSV and the unknown will be battling over cuckoo's signature.

Hope it's us! Very under the radar talent.

Source?

Can't see us buying another Right back.