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There's probably a lot of stuff I left out there that I could go into but I just wanted to back up the post I quoted because it really rang true with me. Im not sure how this post will come across as it is probably more of a rant than anything!

 

You sounds like a determined character. Even ambitious. Well, at least compared to me.

Have you considered starting something up yourself? More than anything, you need to be determined.

It's basically the only way I can do what I want in this day and age. My problem is I don't really have the determination and ambition to keep it going, and I have low tolerance for paper work, forms and tax rules. I give up at the first sign of a form. But those are the hurdles.

You're still young. I left the studies at 21, worked in retail for a few years, then at 27 I started studying again, but chose something I had a passion for.

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That's a great post AndyM, summed up how I felt a few years so myself, coasted through a job etc then that ended and I was left wondering what the hell to do with myself.

To be honest I've become very angry that we are of a generation that was basically lied to, all the way through school I was told go to college, go to uni it's the only way to get anywhere, in reality that's a load of shite, oh how I wish I had done an apprenticeship or learned a trade when I was 18.

I'm now 28 and have only done office jobs so I'm

Now basically confined to that type of work, can't afford to start messing about with apprenticeships or going back to college. Just wish I had started on the bottom ladder of a big company with the ability to move up a ladder, I can't stress enough how much a mistake it is to work for small

Companies with a ceiling above you from day one, I've certainly fallen fowl of that.

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That's a great post AndyM, summed up how I felt a few years so myself, coasted through a job etc then that ended and I was left wondering what the hell to do with myself.

To be honest I've become very angry that we are of a generation that was basically lied to, all the way through school I was told go to college, go to uni it's the only way to get anywhere, in reality that's a load of shite, oh how I wish I had done an apprenticeship or learned a trade when I was 18.

I'm now 28 and have only done office jobs so I'm

Now basically confined to that type of work, can't afford to start messing about with apprenticeships or going back to college. Just wish I had started on the bottom ladder of a big company with the ability to move up a ladder, I can't stress enough how much a mistake it is to work for small

Companies with a ceiling above you from day one, I've certainly fallen fowl of that.

Im kinda in the same boat as you, same age confined to boring office jobs at the moment, but come on fella your 28 not 48. Cant give up as easy as that. We'll basically at the start of our working lives. You could go college at night to retrain, learn a new skill you could turn into a career, go back to uni and do an nhs funded course rather then paying silly prices for another degree. From your post it sounds like you have threw in the towel and confined yourself to your 'boring office job'. Find out what you want to do in life and then take it from there. Easier said then done because im in exactly the same boat in that I still have no idea what I want to do in life, but im not a quitter and refuse to be confined to mediocrity. Edited by donnie
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Yeah you make some good points there mate, just feel like I'm stuck in a rut and the longer it goes on the more helpless you feel to turn it around.

I think what's opened my eyes is realizing I'm not a kid anymore, the place I used to work I wa the youngest by 15-20 years so i still felt like a young kid with all the choices and opportunities in front of me, fast forward 5 years and starting a new job I don't really like and I'm now working with 18-19 year olds, albeit slightly below my position but seeing them have the drive and motivation to look for better jobs and try to better themselves has kinda made me look in the mirror and realize I should be doing the same.

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When I was 24 I had absolutely **** all going for me really. Average job, average friends, average girlfriend. No real prospects.

When I was 27 the shit hit the fan, I lost everything including a much more than average girlfriend. I slipped into deep depression and it took me two years to recover "fully", or as best I probably ever will.

I'm now 30. I own my own business that turns over a quarter mill a year, I've got no girlfriend as such but I've got good options! I'm confident, charismatic and I know who I am. I still suffer sometimes, but with even mild success comes the added stress. I see a therapist and that's a great help, not because I have to but because I'm confident enough to make changes in my life.

24 and feeling like your wasting it? **** me, yourself SUPPOSED to be wasting it right about now. Things will click when it's time...

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Yeah you make some good points there mate, just feel like I'm stuck in a rut and the longer it goes on the more helpless you feel to turn it around.

I think what's opened my eyes is realizing I'm not a kid anymore, the place I used to work I wa the youngest by 15-20 years so i still felt like a young kid with all the choices and opportunities in front of me, fast forward 5 years and starting a new job I don't really like and I'm now working with 18-19 year olds, albeit slightly below my position but seeing them have the drive and motivation to look for better jobs and try to better themselves has kinda made me look in the mirror and realize I should be doing the same.

Damn you sound like me again...just started a new job and like you alot of people there are younger then me like early 20's. When they find out im 28 it can be a bit awkard. But sod it no point worrying about it. Im earning a decent wage at the minute as a retail analyst but it leaves me deeply unhappy due to the boredom of the role. So doing 2 courses at minute, one a open uni degree im nearly finishing and the other in SEO to see where either lead me. If they lead me no where then ive saved enough to survive 3 years of no work to do an nhs funded degree but 3 years of no holidays will be a killer so thats my last resort.

What do you do for a living if you dont mind me asking??

But yeah 28 is still young to be honest, especially when so many people older then us are starting all over again having seen their careers wiped out by the recession.

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Confession time...

Me and my "girl" are looking for somebody for me to ****, whilst she watches...

I'm actually a bit nervous. I'm not entirely sure why, I think it's that there's a little added pressure with it being an "event" rather than just a natural thing.

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Confession time...

Me and my "girl" are looking for somebody for me to ****, whilst she watches...

I'm actually a bit nervous. I'm not entirely sure why, I think it's that there's a little added pressure with it being an "event" rather than just a natural thing.

Buy some viagra then

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When I was 24 I had absolutely **** all going for me really. Average job, average friends, average girlfriend. No real prospects.

When I was 27 the shit hit the fan, I lost everything including a much more than average girlfriend. I slipped into deep depression and it took me two years to recover "fully", or as best I probably ever will.

I'm now 30. I own my own business that turns over a quarter mill a year, I've got no girlfriend as such but I've got good options! I'm confident, charismatic and I know who I am. I still suffer sometimes, but with even mild success comes the added stress. I see a therapist and that's a great help, not because I have to but because I'm confident enough to make changes in my life.

24 and feeling like your wasting it? **** me, yourself SUPPOSED to be wasting it right about now. Things will click when it's time...

 

It took me into until I was a dad for the first time in my early 30s to really "knuckle down" and put some effort into life.  I was changing jobs every couple of years, and not really getting anywhere.  Then it all just seemed to click into place after I got my arse into gear.

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Confession time...

Me and my "girl" are looking for somebody for me to ****, whilst she watches...

I'm actually a bit nervous. I'm not entirely sure why, I think it's that there's a little added pressure with it being an "event" rather than just a natural thing.

 

What's her favourite breed?

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Confession time...

Me and my "girl" are looking for somebody for me to ****, whilst she watches...

I'm actually a bit nervous. I'm not entirely sure why, I think it's that there's a little added pressure with it being an "event" rather than just a natural thing.

Buy some viagra then

Bloody good shout to be fair! It never occurred to me.

Has anyone ever tried the stuff?

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Confession time...

Me and my "girl" are looking for somebody for me to ****, whilst she watches...

I'm actually a bit nervous. I'm not entirely sure why, I think it's that there's a little added pressure with it being an "event" rather than just a natural thing.

Buy some viagra then
Bloody good shout to be fair! It never occurred to me.

Has anyone ever tried the stuff?

Yep. We got some at uni. I used it with a girl I was seeing at the time. You still need sexual stimuli for you to become aroused; it's not that you get a rod on as soon as the stuff kicks in.

What I do remember about it is this: I was going about my artistry but when I came, I tried to carry on, which was possible, because rather than my cock go floppy, I maintained a 80-90% erection. The problem was, however, it doesn't stop the feeling of sexual desire draining away, and the feeling of me wanting to be anywhere else but on that bed at that moment still washed over me.

It's useful if you think that you might not be able to perform at all, but I thought it'd help me become a sexual demon who can go at it for a good five minutes. It didn't :(

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Confession time...

Me and my "girl" are looking for somebody for me to ****, whilst she watches...

I'm actually a bit nervous. I'm not entirely sure why, I think it's that there's a little added pressure with it being an "event" rather than just a natural thing.

 

Thread back to normal :D . And good luck. Sounds like a winning situation as long as jealousy can be kept away.

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