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2 minutes ago, Demitri_C said:

Man this guy girl sounds like a  very strange person.  Why would you be jealous if someone you have no interest in gets a gf?

 

Wierd

Because people are weird.

You've never been jealous when an ex girlfriend gets a new fella?

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17 minutes ago, Demitri_C said:

Man this guy girl sounds like a  very strange person.  Why would you be jealous if someone you have no interest in gets a gf?

 

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Don't want to be with them but don't want anybody else to be with them. I think this is a pretty common thing. 

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@leemond2008 I think this is one of those situations where you really do need to say how you feel ASAP, otherwise it will become a kooky unfulfilled sexual tension thing like Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers, that will just eat away at you.

But if you decide to do that, you need to be prepared for her saying that's not how she sees it, and then probably telling him as well.

It's one thing losing your mate for a woman (bad), but another thing losing your mate for a woman who never even lets you DHUTWU (very bad).

Personally I've been in a similar situation with a married woman - but I wasn't good friends with her husband, he was a word removed to her... I didn't really feel any guilt and it wouldn't have wrecked any friendships.

It still didn't work out, because frankly a lot of people (men and women) in situations like that are using the third wheel as a stepping stone out of the relationship or a chance to enjoy a bit of attention. But as others have said, it can work out, and I have a mate who's happily married with kids after doing something similar.

Whatever, the only way to sort it out is to take control of the situation and talk openly about it. Like I said, if you keep biding your time waiting for the right moment, it'll never come, and you'll be in limbo.

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11 hours ago, Stevo985 said:

Because people are weird.

You've never been jealous when an ex girlfriend gets a new fella?

Thats a completely different question and scenerio. If your the one breaking up with the ex then surely you wouldnt be jealous. I have not been jealous of any of my exs that i have broke it off with. As there is a reason they are an ex.

Now if its a ex that you was really into who broke up with you then jealousy may come into it as a normal emotion in that circumstance. 

But i dont see where that fits in this scenario unless i missed that they use to date? If they have never dated why would she be jealous if he finds another woman if she has no feelings for him?

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11 hours ago, Mjvilla said:

Don't want to be with them but don't want anybody else to be with them. I think this is a pretty common thing. 

Yeah thankfully i have had this. Its a very wierd and possessive trait i think.  But as stevo said people are wierd

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34 minutes ago, Demitri_C said:

Thats a completely different question and scenerio. If your the one breaking up with the ex then surely you wouldnt be jealous. I have not been jealous of any of my exs that i have broke it off with. As there is a reason they are an ex.

Now if its a ex that you was really into who broke up with you then jealousy may come into it as a normal emotion in that circumstance. 

But i dont see where that fits in this scenario unless i missed that they use to date? If they have never dated why would she be jealous if he finds another woman if she has no feelings for him?

Yes they used to date. 

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I mentioned a few times my idiot mate and his dafter missus causing loads of shit that in the end meant I had to drop his a mate, anyway she found me on one of the dating apps and sent me a message which has always been my biggest nightmare with these **** things.  I'm surprised she is actually on there, I always assumed he found his women on the dark web they are so rotten.  I just could've done without it.

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1 hour ago, sharkyvilla said:

I mentioned a few times my idiot mate and his dafter missus causing loads of shit that in the end meant I had to drop his a mate, anyway she found me on one of the dating apps and sent me a message which has always been my biggest nightmare with these **** things.  I'm surprised she is actually on there, I always assumed he found his women on the dark web they are so rotten.  I just could've done without it.

Did you meet up with her

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6 hours ago, sharkyvilla said:

I mentioned a few times my idiot mate and his dafter missus causing loads of shit that in the end meant I had to drop his a mate, anyway she found me on one of the dating apps and sent me a message which has always been my biggest nightmare with these **** things.  I'm surprised she is actually on there, I always assumed he found his women on the dark web they are so rotten.  I just could've done without it.

DHUTWU

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14 hours ago, mottaloo said:

Wonder if @leemond2008 is ok and if he took any of our sage advice ? (possibly excluding the DHUTWU part !)

But...that was the best part!

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23 hours ago, mottaloo said:

Wonder if @leemond2008 is ok and if he took any of our sage advice ? (possibly excluding the DHUTWU part !)

Yeah I'm all good mate, I've taken a bit of a back seat, we are still talking most days or nights but I haven't seen her for a few weeks, going round this weekend though so I'm just gunna see how things pan out.

I feel like I'm in a better headspace now than when I first posted about the whole situation.

So in answer to your question no, at present I have not DHUTWU

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