A'Villan Posted July 15, 2019 Share Posted July 15, 2019 On 11/07/2019 at 21:44, AvfcRigo82 said: Anyone seen @A'Villan? Wondering if he's been shagged to death or tied to some bedposts somewhere? hahaha, no, sorry to disappoint but the rendezvous was rearranged 'til this Thursday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post choffer Posted July 16, 2019 VT Supporter Popular Post Share Posted July 16, 2019 10 hours ago, A'Villan said: hahaha, no, sorry to disappoint but the rendezvous was rearranged 'til this Thursday. 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ingram85 Posted July 16, 2019 Share Posted July 16, 2019 (edited) Dude get out of it now. Guaranteed that on Thursday early evening you'll get a text starting exactly like this.... "OMG I'm so sorry but" Edited July 16, 2019 by Ingram85 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted July 16, 2019 Share Posted July 16, 2019 55 minutes ago, Ingram85 said: Dude get out if it now. Guarantee'd that on Thursday early evening you'll get a text starting exactly like this.... "OMG I'm so sorry but" Let him get it wet first . 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted July 16, 2019 Share Posted July 16, 2019 You all sound like women haters! i'm sure she has sound and valid reasons for rescheduling 17 times. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted July 16, 2019 Share Posted July 16, 2019 I'm not sure he said she re arranged it. Knowing how he picks and crafts his words, I suspect you've been lured to a wrong conclusion. Or snakey bitch tits Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 Sorry I didn't make it clear, it was me who had to reschedule on her this time. If it were the other way around, I'd be saying all the best, but I won't be arranging another time with you. I'm a busy guy (more than I'd like to be at current), so I know how difficult it can be to find time that works with another busy persons schedule. I'm willing to be patient, but I won't ever tolerate someone leading me on, regardless of how pleasant or promising they dress things up to be. But put it this way, if I am booked in to see a specialist who has a three week waiting list, and something unavoidable scuppers that appointment.. I'm not one to call the whole thing off because the meeting has been delayed some weeks. Tomorrow will determine whether this girl and I will be speaking to each other beyond this point. Both of us have delayed it to the point where if we wanted to meet, we would've. And if we honestly couldn't find the time, our schedules probably won't work anyway. I have another date coming up which I'm excited for, a petite Lebanese cutie who has made it clear to myself and a few others she likes me. There's no f in luck so if I disappear in the near future, hopefully it's because I'm getting my end wet as @Rugeley Villa would put it. Although I don't know why I'd disappear for very long! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 Well, I can forget about that one. She says she's had a death in the family yesterday and everything is a blur. I sent through condolences and just said I won't be contacting her again, as I thought there was little interest from her end at this point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 All in on Miss Hot Lebanon then 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 So this girl has gone off at me with an obvious chip on her shoulder about my antics prior to my last message. She says it is me who is clearly too busy to meet and that I was passive aggressive in my reply to her in regards to her having a death in the family. It's hard to know if she's self aware and telling it as it is, or someone who is just defending themselves to save face, or whatever. I have to trust that she is as I would be and trying to make something happen whilst doing the best to ensure not to lead others astray. I've obviously offended her in any case. I can see how too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mottaloo Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 (edited) Dude, don't overthink it and don't let her place any blame on you. The older i get, the more selfish i get as in "i don't need this sh1t" kind of way and I'm ok with my way of thinking. Back in the day i used to fecking apologise for everything and accept it was always my fault when it wasn't at all. No more being a doormat. At the end of the day, you owed each other nothing so just shrug it off and look forward to Miss Beirut who sounds less complicated (famous last words, i know !). Edited July 17, 2019 by mottaloo 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Ingram85 Posted July 17, 2019 Popular Post Share Posted July 17, 2019 59 minutes ago, A'Villan said: So this girl has gone off at me with an obvious chip on her shoulder about my antics prior to my last message. She says it is me who is clearly too busy to meet and that I was passive aggressive in my reply to her in regards to her having a death in the family. It's hard to know if she's self aware and telling it as it is, or someone who is just defending themselves to save face, or whatever. I have to trust that she is as I would be and trying to make something happen whilst doing the best to ensure not to lead others astray. I've obviously offended her in any case. I can see how too. 1 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rodders0223 Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 6 hours ago, A'Villan said: Well, I can forget about that one. She says she's had a death in the family yesterday and everything is a blur. I sent through condolences and just said I won't be contacting her again, as I thought there was little interest from her end at this point. To be fair this does sound a bit blunt as you've written. She cancelled once and you cancelled once? So that's 1-1 She may be an absolute time waster, game playing nightmare ( the kind we have all dealt with) but if she has had a death in the family it's a bit harsh to state you won't be contacting her again after the condolences. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A'Villan Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 2 hours ago, rodders0223 said: To be fair this does sound a bit blunt as you've written. She cancelled once and you cancelled once? So that's 1-1 She may be an absolute time waster, game playing nightmare ( the kind we have all dealt with) but if she has had a death in the family it's a bit harsh to state you won't be contacting her again after the condolences. I can be a bit direct and as a result seemingly tactless because I say what I think before I've taken the time to process how that may come across. If she knew what I meant, she'd know that my message was simply to with her the best genuinely, but that I wouldn't be contacting her again. Life is often harsh and unfair, and that is why I try to be kind and forgiving whenever I can. It's interesting though, how people rise to the occasion when challenged. I didn't want to walk on eggshells because she was dealing with something unfortunate. I thought it better to let her know my position than give any false impressions. I got more honest dialogue out of her just today than I have from the weeks of conversation we've had leading up to now. And the thing is I feel for her loss. That's tragic and I wouldn't be apathetic towards anyone dealing with that. However there is always time for expressing oneself honestly. I'm glad we've established both of us made assumptions rather than making certain through an open dialogue. She has said that she really likes my vibe and can tell that I'm 'spiritual', which was a nice compliment as I am interested in spirituality, whether I'm wholesome or not. She also stated that she understands the assumptions I made were elicited by her behaviour, which says she has character to own that, and that my words weren't unwarranted. I'd be open to seeing her, but without anything concrete on the horizon, I feel it best to leave her to it for now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Rugeley Villa Posted July 17, 2019 Popular Post Share Posted July 17, 2019 It all seems complicated to me. Me and my missus met in the pub on a Thursday night. It was a £1 a pint hence why I was in there. She comes up to my table and asks for my number. I then get a text off her Sunday morning. By the afternoon I’ve already arranged to go down and give her one. Nice and easy. Didn’t expect to be married and have three kids with her mind. Although it just started out as fun, I quickly got rid of the other three I was messing about with and fell in love with her pretty quick . The End . 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post rjw63 Posted July 17, 2019 Popular Post Share Posted July 17, 2019 3 minutes ago, Rugeley Villa said: It all seems complicated to me. Me and my missus met in the pub on a Thursday night. It was a £1 a pint hence why I was in there. She comes up to my table and asks for my number. I then get a text off her Sunday morning. By the afternoon I’ve already arranged to go down and give her one. Nice and easy. Didn’t expect to be married and have three kids with her mind. Although it just started out as fun, I quickly got rid of the other three I was messing about with and fell in love with her pretty quick . The End . 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post chrisp65 Posted July 17, 2019 Popular Post Share Posted July 17, 2019 2 hours ago, Rugeley Villa said: It all seems complicated to me. Me and my missus met in the pub on a Thursday night. It was a £1 a pint hence why I was in there. She comes up to my table and asks for my number. I then get a text off her Sunday morning. By the afternoon I’ve already arranged to go down and give her one. Nice and easy. Didn’t expect to be married and have three kids with her mind. Although it just started out as fun, I quickly got rid of the other three I was messing about with and fell in love with her pretty quick . The End . Met my missus on the internet. It was a leap of faith, sending her the money for the transition op. But here we are all these years later. Seriously though, I was supposed to be visiting my mum in hospital. Decided to take a swerve to a pub first and met my missus. Invited her to watch me play football that weekend, which apparently she thought was quite an unusual and slightly cocky approach to dating. Married 29 years. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 Just now, chrisp65 said: Met my missus on the internet. It was a leap of faith, sending her the money for the transition op. But here we are all these years later. Seriously though, I was supposed to be visiting my mum in hospital. Decided to take a swerve to a pub first and met my missus. Invited her to watch me play football that weekend, which apparently she thought was quite an unusual and slightly cocky approach to dating. Married 29 years. Did you score 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted July 17, 2019 Share Posted July 17, 2019 Just now, Rugeley Villa said: Did you score not yet, but every day is a day closer 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post lapal_fan Posted July 17, 2019 Popular Post Share Posted July 17, 2019 @A'Villan ; "I'm really busy at the moment" Also @A'Villan ; writes 7, 43,000 word posts about rescheduling a date. Me ; 4 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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