mikeyp102 Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 1 hour ago, Jon said: How old are you chief? I'm 33, she'll be 37 November. She'd planned to go it alone before, then met me and changed her mind. But she's decided she has to have them now. Like Ginko said, far too early in a relationship to be thinking about that irrelevant of age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ingram85 Posted September 15, 2016 Share Posted September 15, 2016 Pics! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 11 hours ago, rjw63 said: That's why relationships are awesome when you're older (especially when both parties have had the snip!) I'll never have the snip. So when your old like yourself you still have sex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 11 hours ago, Ingram85 said: Pics! Yes share the love Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 You share the love and I'll share my semen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rjw63 Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 2 hours ago, Rugeley Villa said: I'll never have the snip. So when your old like yourself you still have sex? Like you wouldn't believe 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MakemineVanilla Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 4 hours ago, Rugeley Villa said: I'll never have the snip. So when your old like yourself you still have sex? 2 hours ago, rjw63 said: Like you wouldn't believe and probably would be wise not to think about. Fixed! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 17 hours ago, Ginko said: No matter how old you are, talking about kids three months into a relationship is way too full-on. worked for me! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 16 hours ago, mikeyp102 said: I'm 33, she'll be 37 November. She'd planned to go it alone before, then met me and changed her mind. But she's decided she has to have them now. Like Ginko said, far too early in a relationship to be thinking about that irrelevant of age. It really isn't, and especially when she's 37. I brought up the kids topic on date 1 or 2 with my now wife. I was 37, She was 27. I wanted kids, and didn't want to 'waste time' with someone who didn't (as I was getting towards 40). She did too. About 5 months later she was pregnant! If it's what both of you want, then having the chat early is never too early. OK, if you're both 18, then maybe think about it a bit harder, but it's better to be clear about these things up front IMO. We now have a 4 year old daughter. It's hard work, but worth it. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikeyp102 Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 1 hour ago, Jon said: It really isn't, and especially when she's 37. I brought up the kids topic on date 1 or 2 with my now wife. I was 37, She was 27. I wanted kids, and didn't want to 'waste time' with someone who didn't (as I was getting towards 40). She did too. About 5 months later she was pregnant! If it's what both of you want, then having the chat early is never too early. OK, if you're both 18, then maybe think about it a bit harder, but it's better to be clear about these things up front IMO. We now have a 4 year old daughter. It's hard work, but worth it. Fair enough and I get what you mean about setting targets early. I wouldn't mind kids but not for a few years yet and not with someone I've only known a short while. For me I want to at least live with someone at least at year (preferably marry them) before kids. She doesn't want to wait that long Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ingram85 Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 I'm getting divorced, wife doesn't want kids, I really do. Like I said, send her my way bud Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
choffer Posted September 16, 2016 VT Supporter Share Posted September 16, 2016 I'm single and open to the idea of kids. Wanna hook up, @Ingram85? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BOF Posted September 16, 2016 Moderator Popular Post Share Posted September 16, 2016 2 minutes ago, choffer said: I'm single and open to the idea of kids. Wanna hook up, @Ingram85? It doesn't work if you ONLY possess a 'practice hole'. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MakemineVanilla Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 2 hours ago, mikeyp102 said: Fair enough and I get what you mean about setting targets early. I wouldn't mind kids but not for a few years yet and not with someone I've only known a short while. For me I want to at least live with someone at least at year (preferably marry them) before kids. She doesn't want to wait that long Very wise. The way things are these days with the family courts, you could soon find yourself the father of children you have to keep but can't see, if the relationship didn't work out. Relationships don't come with any guarantees but at least you should know a partner for more than a few months. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginko Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 7 hours ago, Jon said: It really isn't, and especially when she's 37. I brought up the kids topic on date 1 or 2 with my now wife. I was 37, She was 27. I wanted kids, and didn't want to 'waste time' with someone who didn't (as I was getting towards 40). She did too. About 5 months later she was pregnant! If it's what both of you want, then having the chat early is never too early. OK, if you're both 18, then maybe think about it a bit harder, but it's better to be clear about these things up front IMO. We now have a 4 year old daughter. It's hard work, but worth it. I'm not saying it can't work but it must be a very rare thing. You still barely know each other after three months. Even if you both want kids it might not be the most sensible idea because what happens when you spend six months together and she's up the duff and you realise things aren't working out? Don't get me wrong, I'm glad it worked out for you, but I think for the majority of cases rushing into that sort of decision would be pretty irresponsible. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 On 14/09/2016 at 23:08, mikeyp102 said: Back to the drawing board for me again. Being a slightly older women she felt she has to have kids now or never, we were only together 3 months and not on my cards yet. Wanting kids with someone after 3 months is mental 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rugeley Villa Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 1 hour ago, Xela said: Wanting kids with someone after 3 months is mental There are some mental women about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mantis Posted September 16, 2016 Share Posted September 16, 2016 Is getting duped via text/messenger normal? My ex broke up with me a couple of months ago this way and not having had much experiences with relationships I don't have much to compare it to. To be fair, we'd only been together about a month but looking back on it now she was pretty nasty about it. Didn't even give me much of a chance to ask what exactly was going on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rodders Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 Happens more often than it should but as people seem to only communicate via devices now, it seems to be a developing norm :/ I don't like it as it's a bit cowardly. On the other hand I was "dumped" once after 5/6 dates over a few weeks by text but that was a bit different, more a case of a trial period not being renewed Also if she was nasty about it, good riddance tbh. We're all human at the end of the day and it shouldnt be so hard to break off a relationship, however painful, civily unless there's been reason for ill feeling like infidelity etc. So yeah, sod her and get back out there. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mantis Posted September 17, 2016 Share Posted September 17, 2016 (edited) 3 hours ago, Rodders said: Happens more often than it should but as people seem to only communicate via devices now, it seems to be a developing norm :/ I don't like it as it's a bit cowardly. On the other hand I was "dumped" once after 5/6 dates over a few weeks by text but that was a bit different, more a case of a trial period not being renewed Also if she was nasty about it, good riddance tbh. We're all human at the end of the day and it shouldnt be so hard to break off a relationship, however painful, civily unless there's been reason for ill feeling like infidelity etc. So yeah, sod her and get back out there. It wasn't nasty per se but very cold and insensitive. Basically just sent me a message saying "This isn't working out for me. Best of luck, bye" and it was only because I was online at the time that we got into a discussion. But after a couple of minutes of talking and just trying to find out why she was doing this she just decided to defriend me and that was it. Once I know somebody's not into me that puts me off them but I did sent her a handwritten letter just telling her how I felt in the hopes of getting some "feedback" but she never responded. I haven't contacted her since and never will. I think what sticks in my craw is that she told me about two previous relationships where they broke up with her out of the blue and then she goes and does exactly that to me. What's even worse is that from what she said they treated her terribly while I actually made a real effort with her. Not to sound too bitter or anything, but I hope someone does to her exactly what she did to me. I can't stand people like that. Edited September 17, 2016 by Mantis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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