Jon Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 5 hours ago, Demitri_C said: Excuse my ignorance here genuine question for all the Pakistanis here, why is the term paki racist? (Always wondered that) does it mean something in their culture? Why do you think the word 'n*gger' is offensive, Dem? "In the English language, the word "n*gger" is an ethnic slur, usually directed at black people. The word originated as a neutral term referring to people with black skin,[1] as a variation of the Spanish and Portuguese noun negro, a descendant of the Latin adjective niger ("black").[2] It was often used disparagingly, and by the mid-twentieth century, particularly in the United States, its usage became unambiguously pejorative, a racist insult. Accordingly, it began to disappear from popular culture". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jon Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 43 minutes ago, PieFacE said: We actually met on eHarmoney which is really strange because it's awful!! About 2 years ago I saw they had a special offer on stating "Buy one year get one free", so there's me thinking a paid service is surely better than the free sites but it's truly horrific. I barely logged in to the site after the first few months. I used EHarmony too Mr face. It was indeed rubbish. Kind of gave up on it too after a few weeks and a couple of dates. The met my now wife on a night out around town 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 27 minutes ago, Jon said: Why do you think the word 'n*gger' is offensive, Dem? "In the English language, the word "n*gger" is an ethnic slur, usually directed at black people. The word originated as a neutral term referring to people with black skin,[1] as a variation of the Spanish and Portuguese noun negro, a descendant of the Latin adjective niger ("black").[2] It was often used disparagingly, and by the mid-twentieth century, particularly in the United States, its usage became unambiguously pejorative, a racist insult. Accordingly, it began to disappear from popular culture". The reason for the question was I wanted to know if it actually means anything as most pakistanis I have asked about it they have said its just racist thats all but from has been said here it seems its like the context used? if someone said to me that effing greek or "greb" I would just laugh at them not deem it racist.was wondering if that was the same kind of example. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 It's not used for Pakistanis though it's used for anyone of Arab appearance. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 1 hour ago, Demitri_C said: God thats lucky then as I bloody hate horses! Thankfully worst I will get is shopping or theatre, but horse riding i would hate! Sounds like a good guy. What site you pick this one up from? tinder, POF? Its getting very common nowdays people meet online than in clubs You said the other week I was lucky as I'm allowed to go on a football trip to Germany on Valentine's Day. In the interest of balance, my missus has horses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keyblade Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 13 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: The reason for the question was I wanted to know if it actually means anything as most pakistanis I have asked about it they have said its just racist thats all but from has been said here it seems its like the context used? if someone said to me that effing greek or "greb" I would just laugh at them not deem it racist.was wondering if that was the same kind of example. It's the way it's used. It's mostly used as a nasty pejorative. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demitri_C Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 4 minutes ago, Wainy316 said: You said the other week I was lucky as I'm allowed to go on a football trip to Germany on Valentine's Day. In the interest of balance, my missus has horses. So your going horse riding in return to go? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 4 minutes ago, Demitri_C said: So your going horse riding in return to go? No but I have to help her with the **** sometimes. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post choffer Posted February 5, 2016 VT Supporter Popular Post Share Posted February 5, 2016 4 hours ago, lapal_fan said: To be fair, I went along with my now wife and mom to a horse riding thing - it was embarrassing at first, but it was actually pretty fun. And all we were doing was going round in a circle in a big barn thing - I felt like John Martson That's two separate people, right? 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
choffer Posted February 5, 2016 VT Supporter Share Posted February 5, 2016 4 hours ago, PieFacE said: Thank you buddy! Hope the same for you! We've kinda already spoken about it and we agreed that it's definitely for the best if we have our own activities we like to do without each other otherwise you just spend all your time together. So I have football and she has horse riding, there's absolutely no way I'm going to go and get involved with anything horse riding related and I don't think she would expect it either. She's pretty chilled out so I really don't expect her to want me to do something that I don't want to. Good plan. My most recent ex said she'd come to the football if I would go with her to do things she liked. She totally loved the football and over the years we were together, she got really into it. I, on the other hand had had to put up with West End Shows (of which Dirty Dancing was the lowlight) and ballet. Not a fair trade. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xela Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 19 hours ago, Davkaus said: How the **** do I meet these women. So I'm talking to this girl, and we're getting on great, she's veggie, loves games and stuff, and she's pretty cute, then somehow the topic of me taking one of my cats to Birmingham to see a specialist vet comes up, and she comes out with "you want to be careful taking him there, the pakis will eat him" How the actual **** is it possible that that's a thing that someone would say. Jesus **** christ, I'll stick to porn. Where on earth do you meet these girls? A Nazi dating site?! How did you leave things with her? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lapal_fan Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 That's two separate people, right? Haha! I REALLY hope so!! [emoji38] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NurembergVillan Posted February 5, 2016 Moderator Share Posted February 5, 2016 5 hours ago, Wainy316 said: No but I have to help her with the **** sometimes. I didn't realise cock was part of the word filter... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phily85 Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 My head is in a mess got married 10 months ago things where a bit ropey for a few months before but nothing too serious. Then a month after the wedding job circumstances changed put a load of pressure on the relationship and it was a really hard time but we got through it just and managed to come out the other side with her being pregnant (doesn't sound the smartest thing but it wasn't exactly planned that way). Now things are back on the worse side I just feel too much has been said and done to ever be able to feel the same way as before again. But we are 6 weeks away from baby being due. While this has all been going on a couple who we know more her friends then mine have split up me and her have been chatting and get on stupidly well and has been giving out very strong hints that she wants a bit more then just a friendly chat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post HanoiVillan Posted February 5, 2016 Popular Post Share Posted February 5, 2016 1 hour ago, phily85 said: My head is in a mess got married 10 months ago things where a bit ropey for a few months before but nothing too serious. Then a month after the wedding job circumstances changed put a load of pressure on the relationship and it was a really hard time but we got through it just and managed to come out the other side with her being pregnant (doesn't sound the smartest thing but it wasn't exactly planned that way). Now things are back on the worse side I just feel too much has been said and done to ever be able to feel the same way as before again. But we are 6 weeks away from baby being due. While this has all been going on a couple who we know more her friends then mine have split up me and her have been chatting and get on stupidly well and has been giving out very strong hints that she wants a bit more then just a friendly chat I mean, it's your life, but I really, really recommend you think very very carefully about shagging your wife's mate six weeks before your wife gives birth to your child. Really - think very hard about it. 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
V01 Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 Just remember to lock the door while you're thinking about it 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wainy316 Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I didn't realise cock was part of the word filter... You jest, but... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post NurembergVillan Posted February 5, 2016 Moderator Popular Post Share Posted February 5, 2016 2 hours ago, phily85 said: My head is in a mess got married 10 months ago things where a bit ropey for a few months before but nothing too serious. Then a month after the wedding job circumstances changed put a load of pressure on the relationship and it was a really hard time but we got through it just and managed to come out the other side with her being pregnant (doesn't sound the smartest thing but it wasn't exactly planned that way). Now things are back on the worse side I just feel too much has been said and done to ever be able to feel the same way as before again. But we are 6 weeks away from baby being due. While this has all been going on a couple who we know more her friends then mine have split up me and her have been chatting and get on stupidly well and has been giving out very strong hints that she wants a bit more then just a friendly chat You need to keep away from her. Newly single and you're forbidden fruit. Forget it. In terms of the wife, it's all about communication. You're about to share responsibility for the life of another human being. That shouldn't be a reason to stay together, but it's a reason to do all you can to find out if you can make it work. Just in case you missed the first line DO NOT SHAG YOUR WIFE'S FRIEND. ANY OF THEM. EVER. Not only will it end in tears, it'll also make you a bad person. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post villarule123 Posted February 5, 2016 VT Supporter Popular Post Share Posted February 5, 2016 I say go for it, only because I want to read the aftermath on here. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr_Pangloss Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 (edited) If she's fit then you know what to do..... Edited February 5, 2016 by Dr_Pangloss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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