CI Posted November 30, 2011 Share Posted November 30, 2011 Two words Puerto Banus Two words Is ace! Two more words - Meladies Palace Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
legov Posted November 30, 2011 Share Posted November 30, 2011 6. Ummm. What? I don't see how anyone would perceive that having sex with someone who afterwards doesn't want to see you again, would be a self esteem boost! You boys are mental. A girls sleeps with 10 blokes in 12 months...she's a slag. A boy sleeps with 10 girls in 2 months...he's a hero. Not my view Laura, but that is pretty much 'it' in a nutshell. Aren't guys supposed to be hornier anyway? I read somewhere that men cheat because they like sex and they think they can get away with it - but women generally cheat to fill an emotional vacuum. So perhaps the perceptions you've mentioned are justified, somewhat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CI Posted November 30, 2011 Share Posted November 30, 2011 It's in a mans DNA to spread as much reproductive material as is humanly possible Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
legov Posted November 30, 2011 Share Posted November 30, 2011 It's in a mans DNA to spread as much reproductive material as is humanly possible Yep, I think it's evolutionary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevo985 Posted November 30, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted November 30, 2011 Two words Puerto Banus Two words Is ace! Two more words - Meladies Palace Any place with "anus" in the name has to be dirty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomzep Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Ive had a lot of one night stands and a fair few f*ck buddies (some of them probably though they were my girlfriend and i never clarified the issue) and tbh it just became normal. I had a girlfriend for 5 and a half years (through college and uni) and when that ended i was 21 and had no idea about other women and even if i could pull. The next 3 years descended into a bit of a lads adventure along with my best pals. I enjoyed it greatly and I wont pretend I was always sensible. (I had a few dodgy moments but nothing the Dr couldnt sort out for me). I have some great stories and memories to go along with the deeds and the evenings spent playing the game. Some of the sex was awful, some of it was incredible. The bragging to the lads was a big part of it at first but I soon found I was actually hooked on the 'game' and the psychology of the chase. I liked making these girls like me, sad I know and ive realised it now. Girls commented how I never seemed to be a creep or chatting them up and when they found out my 'number' they were alwasy shocked. I seemed to just like observing the social interactions and figuring out how to get what others couldnt. 3 months ago i met a girl whilst still just playing the game and fell in love with her almost instantly. The sex is different and better for a whole set of reasons and I actually remember why I liked being in a relationship all those years ago. I wouldnt go back to how I was for all the tea in chna but at the same time I wouldnt change what ive done Sine meeting my girlfriend she has shown me some books her males friends have been reading in the US to help them get laid or one night stands. They are bloody laughable!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
b6bloke Posted December 1, 2011 Author Share Posted December 1, 2011 Ive had a lot of one night stands and a fair few f*ck buddies (some of them probably though they were my girlfriend and i never clarified the issue) and tbh it just became normal. I had a girlfriend for 5 and a half years (through college and uni) and when that ended i was 21 and had no idea about other women and even if i could pull. The next 3 years descended into a bit of a lads adventure along with my best pals. I enjoyed it greatly and I wont pretend I was always sensible. (I had a few dodgy moments but nothing the Dr couldnt sort out for me). I have some great stories and memories to go along with the deeds and the evenings spent playing the game. Some of the sex was awful, some of it was incredible. The bragging to the lads was a big part of it at first but I soon found I was actually hooked on the 'game' and the psychology of the chase. I liked making these girls like me, sad I know and ive realised it now. Girls commented how I never seemed to be a creep or chatting them up and when they found out my 'number' they were alwasy shocked. I seemed to just like observing the social interactions and figuring out how to get what others couldnt. 3 months ago i met a girl whilst still just playing the game and fell in love with her almost instantly. The sex is different and better for a whole set of reasons and I actually remember why I liked being in a relationship all those years ago. I wouldnt go back to how I was for all the tea in chna but at the same time I wouldnt change what ive done Sine meeting my girlfriend she has shown me some books her males friends have been reading in the US to help them get laid or one night stands. They are bloody laughable!! was one book called "The Game"? I have shed my royal oats over the last 4 years and feel the same as you, very happy with what I have with my GF and prefer it over the playing around. Have to also say that not trying it on with a girl has got me laid so many times but never figured out whether it was because I was non threatening with no expectations or whether it was because they wondered why I had not tried it on so instigated it to see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Rev Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Sine meeting my girlfriend she has shown me some books her males friends have been reading in the US to help them get laid or one night stands. They are bloody laughable!! My mate could write one of those. It would only have two steps though: 1] Live anywhere except for the New York/New England areas. 2] Have an English accent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LondonLax Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 6. Ummm. What? I don't see how anyone would perceive that having sex with someone who afterwards doesn't want to see you again, would be a self esteem boost! You boys are mental. A girls sleeps with 10 blokes in 12 months...she's a slag. A boy sleeps with 10 girls in 2 months...he's a hero. Not my view Laura, but that is pretty much 'it' in a nutshell. Aren't guys supposed to be hornier anyway? I read somewhere that men cheat because they like sex and they think they can get away with it - but women generally cheat to fill an emotional vacuum. So perhaps the perceptions you've mentioned are justified, somewhat. The way our society is set up men do the pursuing and women are the pursued (though this is changing). This means that the ultimate decision about whether a one night stand will happen lies with the women. She has the power to say yes or no. This leads to the situation we find where any man who can convince a lot of women to say yes instead of no is seen to have some sort of power or desirable ability. In the reverse, a women who doesn't say no very often is giving that power away too easily. It's like the metaphor of the lock and the key. "If I had a key that could open any lock it would be an amazing key. If I had a lock that could be opened by any key it would be a pretty rubbish lock" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarewsEyebrowDesigner Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Why do you need a book to 'get laid'? To be honest I've never understood the preoccupation in many blokes minds of finding a girl in a club out of a desperate need to fornicate. It's like being in a bar full of Ahabs in search of their own white whale. There's a hint if you are desperate, when you finally find that one girl, scream at her 'To the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee; for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee!' and pounce on her and fall to those lusty depths. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GarethRDR Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 It's like being in a bar full of Ahabs in search of their own white whale. Funny you should say, that used to be my best chat-up line. *approach girl* Me: "Excuse me, do you like reading?" Girl: "Yes/No"/*presses rape alarm* Me: "Then would you like to thumb my Moby Dick?" *thrown out by bouncers* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Question for all you players. I've told a girl who wants to have sexy time with me to bring an overnight bag to this party on Saturday and she can stay at mine for hours of sex, a comfy bed, good company and maybe a fry up in the morning. Once she is back at mine how do I go about making the first move to initiate sexy time? I'm really awkward at this and knowing my luck I'll end up messing it up and offending her or summat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shillzz Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Question for all you players. I've told a girl who wants to have sexy time with me to bring an overnight bag to this party on Saturday and she can stay at mine for hours of sex, a comfy bed, good company and maybe a fry up in the morning. Once she is back at mine how do I go about making the first move to initiate sexy time? I'm really awkward at this and knowing my luck I'll end up messing it up and offending her or summat. I could have written that exact post this time last week. Just give it a bit of socialising, drinks & TV then ask if she wants to go to bed. Simples. Worked for me anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarewsEyebrowDesigner Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Stop thinking too much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Stop thinking too much. If only you knew me IRL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eames Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Question for all you players. I've told a girl who wants to have sexy time with me to bring an overnight bag to this party on Saturday and she can stay at mine for hours of sex, a comfy bed, good company and maybe a fry up in the morning. Once she is back at mine how do I go about making the first move to initiate sexy time? I'm really awkward at this and knowing my luck I'll end up messing it up and offending her or summat. If you said "Look love, bring an overnight bag to this party on Saturday and you can stay at mine for hours of sex, a comfy bed, good company and maybe a fry up in the morning, if you can work out where the fridge it." and she does bring said bag. You won't need to worry about offending her by making the first move. Just sit on the sofa with her, yawn, and slide your hand onto the nearest chesticle in reach. The rest will look after itself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GarethRDR Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Question for all you players. I've told a girl who wants to have sexy time with me to bring an overnight bag to this party on Saturday and she can stay at mine for hours of sex, a comfy bed, good company and maybe a fry up in the morning. Once she is back at mine how do I go about making the first move to initiate sexy time? I'm really awkward at this and knowing my luck I'll end up messing it up and offending her or summat. Wait until the evening winds down and you're both settling down on the sofa. Few glasses of wine, bit of soft music, casually edge yourself closer to her. Then quietly look straight into her eyes and smile, after a few moments of holding her gaze softly speak these words to her... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 XD See, my confusion with casual sex is the 'etiquette'. In a relationship you're close, you're in love, passionate kissing, holding etc... To me doing the stuff I'd usually do in a relationship this time round would seem weird. Maybe I AM just over thinking it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oaks Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 Most of the time in one night stand I have no idea how it started because I've had a few. I think it's the whole both have had to many drinks and can see we are both on the same wavelenth then boom! It's only when you're going out with someone you like/know when it gets complicated, then if you're nervous and dont know what to do add alcohol. One night stands and sex in general is an ego boost when your young and single. It loses something when you hit 26-30. Of corse sex it better when it means something, dosent anything? I've only not used protection once, and I was really mad with myself about it, but it was there and I was really drunk...no excuses though. I've had a **** buddy, but I think one of the people in the relationship is always hoping for more, so it's always doomed to fail. Sex with an ex us always quite interesting, but you end up with the **** buddy problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Folski Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 I've had a **** buddy, but I think one of the people in the relationship is always hoping for more, so it's always doomed to fail. THIS. Doesnt help at the end if she's crazy either! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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