trekka Posted November 11, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted November 11, 2011 Hi all, sorry for the cryptic title but as I've just posted in the "weekend" thread, I found out yesterday that I'm going to be having someone staying with me whom I don't really know, and in quite difficult circumstances. A good mate is due in Hammersmith Hospital on Monday for high-dose chemo. He has beat his illness once but things aren't looking good at the moment. His girlfriend is desperate to stay with him so I've volunteered my bedroom in the flat (I'll take the sofa) to get her head down and maybe live with someone for a while she could trust (they're from Wales so would be difficult for her to visit him otherwise). I'm just unsure as to what I should or should not be doing. I've only met her a few times but want to try to make things as normal as possible. I'm off back to Portsmouth tomorrow to get spare clean bedding etc (I live in Portsmouth but the London flat is paid for by work) but other than that, I'm not really sure what I could be doing to make things easier whilst she's here. Any advice? Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidlewis Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 how long is she going to be there? I guess just judge how she is feeling as she may want space too or may want company. Probably try to take her mind of things as well whether that be box sets of dvds or whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Rev Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 You probably dont want to get caught sniffing her knickers. During the first week at least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trekka Posted November 11, 2011 Author VT Supporter Share Posted November 11, 2011 how long is she going to be there? I guess just judge how she is feeling as she may want space too or may want company. Probably try to take her mind of things as well whether that be box sets of dvds or whatever. Thanks. It looks like 2 weeks, then a break when he should be able to recuperate in Wales and then probably back just after Christmas. I guess I'm nervous as I don't really know her and this flat is really very small. Methinks I should invest in another Wii controller/mote. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xann Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 If you have milk, teabags, coffee, sugar, loo roll, bread, butter, humous/cheese, cornflakes, vodka, coke, delivery menus, and maybe an oyster card along with your clean bedding you've done her proud. An A to Z used to be essential, but not so much these days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trekka Posted November 11, 2011 Author VT Supporter Share Posted November 11, 2011 If you have milk, teabags, coffee, sugar, loo roll, bread, butter, humous/cheese, cornflakes, vodka, coke, delivery menus, and maybe an oyster card along with your clean bedding you've done her proud. An A to Z used to be essential, but not so much these days. An Oyster card is a good one - she'll likely be travelling from Ruislip (my flat) to central London everyday. Ta. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidlewis Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 delete your internet history as well... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trekka Posted November 11, 2011 Author VT Supporter Share Posted November 11, 2011 Aye, well I've told her to bring her laptop. My laptop is passworded I've warned her that I don't have much here (2 forks, 2 knives, 2 spoons...the rest is in Portsmouth, although I should really pick up more tomorrow!) but if I can sort of help them get through it, then I'm happy. I just need ideas to pass the time I think, help her get her mind off things and probably to give her good things to talk about when she visits my mate in hospital. Hmmm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JulieB Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 Just be there for them both Trekka and play it by ear. If she wants to talk listen... if she wants to cry, cry with her but if she needs space give it to her. I'm sure you'll do a good job, the fact that you're worrying about it all shows you care and they'll know that. Making endless cups of tea and trying to make people laugh seems to be the order of the day in crisis times. (Had two friends die young of ovarian cancer within the last few weeks, so I really hope he beats it) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AVFC-Prideofbrum Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 I am shocked that a certain phrase hasn't been posted yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidlewis Posted November 11, 2011 Share Posted November 11, 2011 Aye, well I've told her to bring her laptop. My laptop is passworded I've warned her that I don't have much here (2 forks, 2 knives, 2 spoons...the rest is in Portsmouth, although I should really pick up more tomorrow!) but if I can sort of help them get through it, then I'm happy. I just need ideas to pass the time I think, help her get her mind off things and probably to give her good things to talk about when she visits my mate in hospital. Hmmm. mate if you want cheap stuff check out MSE forums as you can get loads of stuff for 4p. if you don't mind Toy Story knives and Forks.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villarule123 Posted November 12, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted November 12, 2011 do her up the wrong'un Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidlewis Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 Make her a nice lemon mecreampie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JulieB Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 I am shocked that a certain phrase hasn't been posted yet. You didn't have to wait long! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowychap Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 Any advice? Thanks. Going by how you come across on VT then I'd say just be yourself, mate. Act as you normally would though don't wander around 'tackle out'. Don't fret and huge good luck to your mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dAVe80 Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 I started reading this, and wondered to myself, would it be terribly uncouth to use 'that phrase'. Sure enough by the time I got to reading it all, it'd already been said. God bless VT. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blunther Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 That's a kindly deed. good on you mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CI Posted November 12, 2011 Share Posted November 12, 2011 Vaccuum and clean down your room Check under the bed etc Get some herbal tea in, possibly a copy of OK Magazine for the coffee table Bring a few board games up - scrabble,monopoly,maybe Twister ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trekka Posted November 12, 2011 Author VT Supporter Share Posted November 12, 2011 Thanks very much, all, I'm relatively content now. I've bought back a few essentials and I'll do a bit of shopping tomorrow. Cheers for all of your help, time to relax now methinks with a few vodkas and coke Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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