Dante_Lockhart Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 *inb4wrongun* Now that's out of the way... ex contacted me last night via text. Had a bit of a natter and the usual 'hows you, hows the family etc...' then it got a bit flirty and before long the conversation went on to we should hook up for a dirty weekend of sex, booze and more sex. Now, believe me, I'd jump her in a second. She was hot. However we broke up for a reason and to be honest I'm still not totally over her and I think this would do more harm than good (Even though I haven't had sex in over a year I'm still leaning towards saying no). It sounds very appealing though. We broke up mainly because I couldn't trust her and I think she wanted a bit of time to be single. She was always going out and not coming back home until the early hours, sometimes not until the next day. Part of me believes she was cheating and I still resent her for that. But sex with a hot girl and she says nothing more really has me torn.. What would you do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zhan_Zhuang Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 The woman has issues, I can sense the negativity and I think it would be bad for you. Try to think of it differently than just about sex and you should see from a clearer perspective. Stay in control of the desire... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
claretman Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Are you insane??!! You've not had sex for over a year and you are thinking about this? This sounds like a weekend of No Strings Attached sex with a hot girl. If you try and distance any emotion you had then you will have an immense weekend! Get in there and DHUTWU Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomzep Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 If you can keep it to just sex then hell yeas go for it. However if you know emotions will get stirred up and feelings will be unerthed and involved walk away. Be wise about it. Ive hooked up with exs afterwards and it has worked but there is one I would never ever do it with as my feelings would get challenged and theres a possibility hers could and it gets messy. Theres plenty of opportunity for casual sex with the risk Sounds to me as if you know it will stir up feelings and questions so Id avoid it, but just my opinon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shillzz Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 I went through the exact same thing not so long ago, word for word. I opted for yes, and after said weekend, we actually dated again for a week, infact things seemlessly went back to how they were 'before'... BUT - now she's gone back to being a clown and it's just made everything worse and done no favours for my general mood, having previously been on the cusp of 'happily getting on with life'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted November 1, 2011 Author Share Posted November 1, 2011 Also knowing my luck she'd probably get preggers. Maybe that's her plan.. sabotage and entrapment! :shock: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xann Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 What would you do? Her, with condoms. Don't get too wishy washy emotional drunk. Have fun. Walk away at the end on good terms. If you consider any of the above to be a problem, don't go there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted November 1, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted November 1, 2011 Head says no. Gonads say yes. Head is almost always correct. Gonads almost always win. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GarethRDR Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 If you don't have sex with her, can I? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted November 1, 2011 Author Share Posted November 1, 2011 If you don't have sex with her, can I? I like you too much... I wouldn't wish her upon you :winkold: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidlewis Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 does she enjoy Bat Sex? hmmm I would probably go for it and just be a bit rough as payback (pull the hair etc, call her names). then demand facials to prevent preggers. done Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irreverentad Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Don't do it Dante. It would not be fair on yourself if you havent gotten over her fully yet. She sounds like she may have an agenda. Steer clear! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GarethRDR Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Fairy muff. As much as it pains me to don the sensible hat in this situation (and as much as I want to agree with kidlewis' quite superb suggestion), you should steer well clear. If you're not over her, then it won't be strings-free sex and you'll probably never get over her. No, best to consign this one to yer spank bank alongside ol' Mary Jane Rottencrotch and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dante_Lockhart Posted November 1, 2011 Author Share Posted November 1, 2011 Just text her saying no... hovered above the send button for what seemed like ages. Oh well, there goes amazing all-night sex. Battlefield 3 it is. 8) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genie Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 If it was just the one night then maybe you could just "love her and leave her" but as its a weekend then you're going to be playing boyfriend and girlfriend to a degree which is just going to muddy the water. Compromise, invite her round for some alcohol and action. Then call her a cab and continue to ignore her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjmooney Posted November 1, 2011 VT Supporter Share Posted November 1, 2011 Blimey, head triumphs over gonads. Well played, that man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidlewis Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 type in xhamster followed by tori black, stoya or Linares. fap fap win Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genie Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Linares :nod: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GarethRDR Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Oh well, there goes amazing all-night sex. Battlefield 3 it is. 8) You know, there is a hole in the disc... Just sayin'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irreverentad Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 Well done Dante you did the right thing. As she is hot she definately wants something from you as she could easily get a mindless screw with someone else. Therefore she is either after someting emotionally or materialistically from you. God, I have turned cynical! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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