Voinjama Posted October 31, 2013 Author Share Posted October 31, 2013 Caring what other people think about you is fundamental to human moral psychology. So yes, I do care, and I would suggest that everybody who says they don't does to. Not in a vain way, just in a normal, functioning human capacity. There's a name for people who actually don't care what others think of them - psychopaths. I predict this post will receive alot of attention. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AVFCforever1991 Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 (edited) Edited November 1, 2013 by AVFCforever1991 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maqroll Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 If people didn't care how they were perceived by others, they'd be unemployed and homeless. It's all part of the deal we make as members of a society, however begrudgingly we do it. We all bullshit each other. Can you explain what you mean? I actually don't understand. For example, if you want to get and keep a job, you must conform to collectively agreed upon rules of social engagement, and part of that means honoring rules and relationships within that context. You shower and shave before work because you don't want to be perceived as an apathetic slob. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
troon_villan Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 Agree with PatrickC and maqroll. There's arguably different levels; just like with most emotions. I care too much really, I'm pretty self conscious and always have been right through my teens and early-twenties. If anything it'll get worse as my looks fade. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StigVillan Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 I care a great deal about what some people think about me. To my wife, I want to be her rock; her soul mate, her lover and her best friend. To my daughters, I want to be a role model; a guide and a hero. Not through fancy or shallow exhibition of machismo, but through perseverance, commitment and love. To my colleagues, I want to be trusted and an example of loyalty and graft. I am responsible for the professional development of a lot of people being an assistant head, so I should act with the stoicism, friendship and resilience that demands. To anyone else. I am who I am. Those aforementioned 'personalities' have created the man I am. I am a father and a husband first - a professional after that. I drink whisky and real ale. I listen to very little music that was produced after 1978. My political beliefs are based on work ethic and protectionism, but I haven't voted for the same party in any consecutive votes. I am fascinated by trains and trucks. Almost every book I own is historical fiction. I am a God fearing man, but open to the possibility that my faith is futile. I am who I am because of what and who I love. I will never make apologies for that. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonyh29 Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 I've had it said by people that know me that I'm too nice and if I was on a sinking ship I wouldn't get off until everyone else had and even then I'd probably give my life jacket to a passing seal with a wounded flipper Now in all honesty I'm not that nice , but I'm more than happy to be thought of like that than people I know thinking I'm a complete rocket polisher Obviously my online persona is nothing like that but for 99% of you I'm not likely to meet you so to a degree it means I can act differently than I would in the real world ... As I imagine 99% of you also do unless you really are all a bunch of bum sex loving sexist yogurt knitters 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
troon_villan Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 I've had it said by people that know me that I'm too nice and if I was on a sinking ship I wouldn't get off until everyone else had and even then I'd probably give my life jacket to a passing seal with a wounded flipper Now in all honesty I'm not that nice , but I'm more than happy to be thought of like that than people I know thinking I'm a complete rocket polisher Obviously my online persona is nothing like that but for 99% of you I'm not likely to meet you so to a degree it means I can act differently than I would in the real world ... As I imagine 99% of you also do unless you really are all a bunch of bum sex loving sexist yogurt knitters Tony H, is that you?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Voinjama Posted October 31, 2013 Author Share Posted October 31, 2013 The way everyone should look at it is it's not do you like me, it's do I like you. That is the way you switch it around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dAVe80 Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 (edited) I care what the people who matter think of me. People who know me. Loved ones, family and friends. To an extent I care about what others think, but I'm happy enough to accept not everyone will like me. I'm comfortable with that. I won't let anyone judge me though. Especially those that don't know me. Bollocks to that! Edited October 31, 2013 by dAVe80 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StigVillan Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 I care what the people who matter think of me. People who know me. Loved ones, family and friends. To an extent I care about what others think, but I'm happy enough to except not everyone will like me. I'm comfortable with that. I won't let anyone judge me though. Especially those that don't know me. Bollocks to that! What a tosser. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dAVe80 Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 I care what the people who matter think of me. People who know me. Loved ones, family and friends. To an extent I care about what others think, but I'm happy enough to except not everyone will like me. I'm comfortable with that. I won't let anyone judge me though. Especially those that don't know me. Bollocks to that! What a tosser. *sob* 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xann Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 There's a name for people who actually don't care what others think of them online - Morpheus. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StefanAVFC Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 Agree with PatrickC and maqroll. There's arguably different levels; just like with most emotions. I care too much really, I'm pretty self conscious and always have been right through my teens and early-twenties. If anything it'll get worse as my looks fade. Said better than I said it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisp65 Posted October 31, 2013 Share Posted October 31, 2013 In that I wear clothes outside, the clothes are fairy normal, I broadly obey the rule of law and I'm not offensive to people who are patently a waste of time, yes, I clearly care enough to get by. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morpheus Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 There's a name for people who actually don't care what others think of them online - Morpheus. I can see why this has been deleted but I care enough to vigorously debate a point within an inch of not being allowed to do that anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
P3te Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 Honestly, no. Best day of my life when I realised it didn't matter one jot what other people thought, and I have genuine sympathy for people who can't get past that If people didn't care how they were perceived by others, they'd be unemployed and homeless. It's all part of the deal we make as members of a society, however begrudgingly we do it. We all bullshit each other. Im not employed or living in a house for the benefit of others, I'm doing it because it makes my life a LOT easier Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vandaq Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 A little bit. It depends really. It has toned down but it has affected my pattern of thought on some things which I do not like. However, I am very likable if you get to know me, I know I have a great personality as I am very rational and open to many things. But it`s still there on some things, specially how I dress and when meeting people. That is the biggest issue I have, first meetings. It`s literally the worst thing I know of and that really gets to me. But still, unless you are really weird or crazy then I could get along with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maqroll Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 Honestly, no. Best day of my life when I realised it didn't matter one jot what other people thought, and I have genuine sympathy for people who can't get past that If people didn't care how they were perceived by others, they'd be unemployed and homeless. It's all part of the deal we make as members of a society, however begrudgingly we do it. We all bullshit each other. Im not employed or living in a house for the benefit of others, I'm doing it because it makes my life a LOT easier You missed my point, see my second post above for clarification Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
P3te Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 doesnt apply, im my own boss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maqroll Posted November 1, 2013 Share Posted November 1, 2013 doesnt apply, im my own boss Do you have clientele you serve? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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