Peckham Wanderer

36 minutes ago, AlwaysAVFC said:

We had a break in the Lake District this week and took our rescue Shar Pei. Up to this trip we were convinced she hated water. 

First of all we went to a waterfall and she wanted to explore the water at a level section. 

The following day we went to the coast. 

She very much likes to do things on her terms, seems water is no different. 

Would love to have her off lead but her chase drive is high, it's too risky. So a long line it is for the moment. 

She's lovely. We had German Shepherds at home for years & had to use choke chains with them (and even then they'd sometimes, still try and rip your arm off).

1 hour ago, Rugeley Villa said:

We were seconds away from losing our dog last night. He’d managed to get hold of a cooked chicken bone from out the bin. He was in the back garden with it near the back door. Luckily I’d just finished my dinner and I’d taken the plate into the kitchen. I looked out and I thought what the hell is he doing. It looked like his hair was standing on end on his back and he was also drooling a lot. All of a sudden he just fell on to his side and started having a spasm. By this point I’m out there and he’s literally choking to death . His eyes were fixed, his body all stiff, and he was emptying himself . Talk about panic . I was shouting the missus to come quickly, the kids were crying and the missus was a mess in what seemed to last forever and he seemed very close to dying , instinct kicked in and I just shoved my hand down his throat to see what I could feel and managed to pull the bones from out his throat which were covered in thick mucus . The only way I can describe what happened then was that he was like a bouncy castle being inflated, he just sat up kind of composed himself as it was a big ordeal for him and then he was ok . So lucky he’s still with us . Knocked us sick last night it did and I haven’t slept well. It took it out of him the ordeal but he’s back to his normal self today .

Jeez, Ruge - sorry to hear that. Hope the little mite is recovering well & the family aren't too freaked.

13 minutes ago, sidcow said:

The thing which made me laugh more than anything was an Only Fools and Horses moment.  Not the falling through the bar which seems to be most people's highlight,  but the Chandelier.  I thought I was going to die laughing. 

Apparently that chandelier cost a fortune...

2 hours ago, sidcow said:

I would agree with your assessment of Carry On Films as I'm in that boat but The Young Ones used to have me in absolute stitches. It was without doubt the most important thing on telly when I was a kid. 

If people think Carry On hasn't aged well they need to watch some other 60's / 70's comedy.  It's not exactly PC now but compared to a lot of what was going on at the time it was virtually WOKE. 

My mum didn't let us kids watch The Young Ones... she used to switch it off. Every. Single. Time. 

47 minutes ago, Phil Silvers said:

KW was a talkshow hosts dream back in the 70/80s, arguably bested only by Peter Ustinov. Both absolutely blessed at spinning a yarn.

Ustinov was sublime 

Is it too early to be drinking bourbon? 

On 09/08/2021 at 09:19, CosmicVillan said:

Really annoying Talk Talk radio advert  " it just makes sense sense "...I have a disproportionate hatred for the bloody thing

That fecking Wowcher ad on TV. Sweet God, will ye stop? I try & hit the mute button, but obvs I'm not quick enough. Please cease & desist 

30 minutes ago, PussEKatt said:

I feel embarrased to admit it but I used to watch Bonanza about 100 years ago.

Why? I used to watch F Troop when I was a kid... 

2 hours ago, Rds1983 said:

When we're camping we often see people who've got normal caravans that they just leave at a campsite all year around. How does that compare to owning a static? Would that be an affordable option instead? 

We had our own mobile home for years (70s-80s) in Portrane (North Co. Dublin). Just a field, not too many amenities, but right beside the beach. We used to spend all the summer holidays there (3 months) & most of the bank holidays & we loved it 

And yes, @bickster I do remember a lot of bingo...

1 hour ago, leighavfc said:

Hi @Peckham Wanderer

First of all apologies I havent replied to you! Life has been a million miles an hour recently as per usual!

Thank you for reaching out, it means a lot for people to listen and react to the feelings I expressed in here. I like you dont need fixing but just need someone to listen to me most of the time to let it all out. I do struggle with it most of the times but in the right situation I can. Those situations being my best mate who I dont get to see too often due to commitments etc and then on here believe or not. I find it much easier to communicate with strangers over tough subjects like this.

Things at much calmer at home after my post the other week. After initially taking my see a doctor comment the wrong way a couple of weeks back, my partner is now having regular counselling sessions with a professional which is a positive. She has commented how much its helping her, seems to me like she is in a better place at the moment also. We both had a long chat about things the day after the bust up and have tried to implement things to help along the way in our day to day life. We try and check in once a week when kids are in bed to keep on top of what's going on in each others heads. Been tough for me to open up, I feel stupid for some reason at times??? I am getting a little better at it though! Importantly though everything at the moment is at least ok so for once we are feeling in a good place in our minds. 

I used Samaritans the night of my OP, that helped me soooooo much and opened up an avenue for help which I had never used before. Huge amount of love and respect for them, I'm absolutely going to raise/donate money to them at some point as they are a vital service, especially nowadays.

Sounds like you have been through some rough times too mate, and I'm glad that you didn't do it either.. the coat thing made me smile as that is exactly the kind of absolute minute thing in this world that would stop me too!!

Thanks for your post, nothing arsey about it. Straight talking which is what I like. I will certainly DM you! Offer is there to you also mate if i can help at all

Cheers  & you're v. welcome 

On 03/08/2021 at 13:43, rjw63 said:

People who slag off musicians or bands because it's "edgy".

Nickelback are releasing a new album. It was reported on FB by Kerrang, Planet Rock and Absolute Classic Rock.

All three pages had hundreds of replies saying the same boring shit (e.g oh no please dont, or haven't we had enough with COVID etc etc)

Utter spunktrumpets.

If you hate a band, why bother reading and commenting about them? I can't stand Def Leppard but I don't go in threads about them to tell everyone how wank I think they are.

BTW I don't own a single album by Nickelback, but  don't think they're as bad as the internet sheep try to have you believe.

I saw them in Atlantic City two years ago & it was a cracking gig (even if the beer was overpriced).

Also, I love Def Leppard 

On 30/07/2021 at 13:05, Phil Silvers said:

I would advise anyone of a nervous disposition to avoid the Jack Grealish thread for at least 4 days.

I wandered in just to have a look... eh, nope.

4 hours ago, jackbauer24 said:

First time, and last time, I'll ever quote myself!

This is now TOMORROW. I'm a Villa fan, raising money for the Aston Villa Foundation for mental health projects asking Villa fans who are talking about the importance of mental health for support. I couldn't be appealing to a more targeted audience!

Please support if you can, every penny will help. Keep well everyone.

Done

On 27/07/2021 at 22:21, Mark Albrighton said:

Had my second Pfizer on Thursday just gone. Pretty much the exact same reaction as my first Pfizer jab, sore/dead arm for 24-36 hours. I didn’t experience the headaches or other reactions that were predicted as a possibility by the person who administered it.

I had a much stronger reaction to my first Pfizer jab. Absolutely on the floor for 3 days. 2nd jab? Nothing except mild pain at site.

On 23/07/2021 at 20:10, Jareth said:

The Scotland numbers appear to be declining since July 1st, looking at that graph, not sure that decline can be answered with well yeah hot weather, less testing, school holibobs etc.... That said I expect England to have a different old time, given the mentler in charge of the country. 

On 25/07/2021 at 16:09, rjw63 said:

It seems to be getting worse. Think I'll stay over here.

Good lad.

7 hours ago, HanoiVillan said:

I missed that treat!

Me too...

On 24/06/2021 at 22:45, leighavfc said:

Here I am again... i feel like that this is the only place to get my words out.. I struggle to talk to people I know, but this place is my sanctuary. I don't post on here often these days and when I do it's about me and my struggles which I'm sorry you all have to read. 

Another day of chaos for me personally... resulting in my partner walking out...

As you may have read in the past I've struggled with drug addiction most of my adult life, and struggling secretly with my mental health. Then of course on top it's the day to day problems you get in every day life which grind you down even more.

Around a year ago we lost the mother in law to covid which was obviously a real sad and bad time for firstly my partner, her dad and sister....then the rest of us around her also like me and the kids. My partner was coping as "well" as she could until a few months ago... but it's really hit her hard recently. This has obviously resulted in a lot of bad days for her and us both as a couple.. it's really been hell at home.. especially these last couple of weeks... arguments, crying, upset.. normal things but on a bigger than normal scale.

Today we found out her sister has covid.... my partner was with her last night also! We've both been stressed about that and what to do etc. We had a bit of a row over.... god knows what tbh! It's been ok for the rest of the day but this evening when I got home she went absolutely mental... about her being depressed and thinking she has ptsd. I try my best to talk to her about it but I'm useless at it. I don't understand it myself and struggle to offer any reasonable advice as I struggle to cope with my stuff too... I haven't even discussed my troubles with her at any point and especially not during this past year. I suggested maybe professional help would help her and get her the proper advice and guidance through it... this was the match to the dynamite stick! She's laid into me big time tonight... really ripped me to shreds and then gone out the door. 

 For a split second I wondered if ending it all would be easier... that's the first time I've ever had this thought in my entire life... I lost my best friend to suicide and quickly remembered the pain of that happening which snapped me out of it. I'm calmer now, especially since writing this.

I bottle all my problems up all the time at the expense of helping others with theirs... that's absolutely the kind of person I am and always have been. It's all getting on top of me now though too and today has just brought it all up again to me. I have nowhere to turn, I struggle to open up, I'm trying to keep everything together at home whilst running a business and a kids football team also... work is so busy at the moment I barely catch a breathe.. it's so tough juggling it all. 

I don't hate my missus for what's happened tonight as I understand she is having a bad moment... the nasty stuff she has said to me whilst some of it is true, some of it is completely unreasonable... but again I can look past that due to her feelings/issues at the moment.

Mentally though its another hammer blow to already badly damaged goods. I'm not good enough, I have baggage, I don't do enough for everybody.... life is not easy for any of us of course and I'm not the only one... I just feel it at the moment and god knows what's coming up in the days ahead. I'm so low at the moment... been sitting here for 2 hours in the dark in silence on/off crying. Life is not good at the moment for me.

Sorry for the long me me me post I needed to put some of my thoughts down somewhere. Thank you for reading, it has brought me down a little and at least I've been able to write this and get it out somewhere. Thanks VillaTalk, your an unusual sanctuary for some like me in times I really need it

 

Where to start? I read your msg at a ridiculously early time this morning (insomnia) & it's been bothering me ever since. I wanted to say something but didn't want to come across as an arse...

You're being unnecessarily hard on yourself. You've had an awful lot to deal with in a short space of time. You can see how recent events have affected your other half, have given her leeway & understand her reactions but you don't do the same for yourself? It's fine being stoic but at the moment it's not helpful. You need to talk to her about your stuff. It may shift a lot of weight off your shoulders. 

Covid has pushed a lot of us into a tailspin, even those who didn't have underlying problems. I've had depression 1/2 my life. My counsellor (by phone) has been a Godsend. I just need to vent mostly, I don't need someone to fix anything, I just need someone to listen. Also, I have used the Samaritans before - they're wonderful at listening, non-judgementally and confidentially and are patient. 

You said you lost your best friend to suicide. I am so sorry. This in itself is a lot to deal with. Talking therapy might help you? Search online for help from suicide/bereavement charities?

And on that note, please don't. It sometimes just takes a little thing to dissuade you. The only time I thought seriously of chucking myself off a bridge (in Dublin) I realised I was wearing a brand new AV bench coat & didn't want to get it wrecked in the mud...

I hope some/any of this has helped. Feel free to give me a shout through DM. Take care.

16 minutes ago, bickster said:

I like having cold feet in bed

I only wear them solo 

Just now, bickster said:

Holy F no, what kind of animal are you, sleeping in socks, what kind of fresh hell is this?

I've got cold feet (even in the summer!)

43 minutes ago, Rds1983 said:

People have good pairs of socks? 

Of course! Diff socks for running, sleeping, work & casual (depends on the footwear) 

4 hours ago, tonyh29 said:

Talking of school

dropped the boy off at school for his last day this morning , sounded like they are planning on letting off fire alarms and taking to the school roof … and that was just the teachers !!

he went loaded up with presents for the teachers , and wrote personalised messages for them in a card …. I’m sure back in my day we just left and the teachers breathed a huge size of relief and prayed they never saw us again …

My last day of junior school, I gave my teacher 4-stroke for his bike 🏍 

3 hours ago, El Zen said:

What really confuses me is when someone is looking kind of down after their team have conceded a late goal, who then break out in wild celebration from seeing their own dumb face on the screen. I mean, it’s like you don’t really care about the match at all. 

See also baseball fans who go crazy after catching a home run ball from the other team (and the game is still remotely competetive.) Why would you cheer for the other team just because you caught the f***ing ball? 

You have two options: (1) give it to the nearest kid or (2) drop it onto the outfield 

On 01/07/2021 at 14:42, choffer said:

I was thinking something similar following the booing the other day.

I guess for me, I'm trying to work out where the line is as context and nuance don't seem to exist in most arguments these days. If I follow an objectionable character on Twitter, why does that have to be seen as an endorsement? I just want to hear what nonsense that twunt (whoever he/she is) has been spouting of late. If a mate tells me a joke in which a woman is the object of ridicule, am I a misogynist for laughing? It doesn't mean I agree with the content of the joke. 

Then when it comes to race (acknowledging Mike's point that German isn't a race), it gets confusing for me. Obviously you don't "punch down" on minorities but as a proud Scot, I joke that I support two teams - Scotland and whoever is playing England. I don't mean it but it's a fun thing to play along with. Does it make me anti-English?

The booing of anthems is not so much about racism, more about disrespect. I'm sure many of those that did it will claim that booing the anthem or singing 10 German Bombers is just a bit of fun and shouldn't be taken seriously but if German fans did it to God Save The Queen, there'd be uproar. 

I think I need to think this through a bit more but I also suspect there is no defined line which one cannot cross. 

There's only two things I hate in this world - People who are intolerant of other people's cultures and the Dutch.

Exactly. Was shocked when I heard it. Obviously I'm a bit naive.

I (finally) watched Ian Wright's docu. on domestic violence (I'd been putting it off). Jesus. Way too familiar a conversation.