duadenum cancer took my dad last february, he was diagnosed and we were told what it was on the friday evening and he died at 3:20am on the following monday, we were still digesting the shock of finding out he'd got it and then he was gone. At least you have a few weeks/months to come to terms with the idea that your old man is going away for ever, not that it will make the feeling any better when it happens, but at least you have the time that i didnt have and you can do the things that i couldnt do, dont waste it, you will only regret it if you do.